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To report what this colleague did?

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StrawberryFields2025 · 11/06/2025 18:27

I have recently started as an apprentice at a nursery. Today a child was wondering into a different room where they wasn’t meant to be. Instead of my colleague picking him up carefully or gently redirecting him, she grabbed and picked him up by one arm and walked with him like that with him off the ground quite a bit by one arm. This made him cry. Other colleagues found it funny but I didn’t.

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 11/06/2025 21:36

ScurryfungeSpuddle · 11/06/2025 18:32

Two very shocking things here.

  1. A nursery worker doing that to a child.
  2. An apprentice nursery worker needing to ask if they're unreasonable to report it.

Poor kid.

3 the colleagues being ok with it

If you have a college mentor please tell them immediately.
You can also google your local councils safeguarding duty line and ask them what to do

cheeseandtomatobaguette · 11/06/2025 21:31

This makes me feel sick. Please report and escalate it if they brush it off

Afewtimesagain · 11/06/2025 21:26

Yes, I would report.

Newname71 · 11/06/2025 21:25

loobylou10 · 11/06/2025 21:21

What do you mean?

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She’s correcting OP’s typo.
OP wrote wondering.

loobylou10 · 11/06/2025 21:21

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 11/06/2025 20:56

"wandering"

What do you mean?

ButterCrackers · 11/06/2025 21:13

Report this. Are the parents informed because they should be informed. How horrid and also the laughing. Can you find another job in a correctly functioning nursery.

2025M · 11/06/2025 21:13

Your nursery probably has many cameras in every room. You need to report and if possible try to check if there is a camera in the area she was. If you report with the approx time and date, the evidence will be there.

It's not only a terrible thing to do, but potentially dangerous. If the child had a relatively common genetic condition which affects collagen grabbing a child like that for some time could cause dislocations and extreme pain.

Please report asap and well done for being brave, considerate and kind. It would be great to hear how your report goes.

You will go far in the working world with the integrity you show.

KateShugakIsALegend · 11/06/2025 21:13

987654321abc · 11/06/2025 20:57

Please report the incident. The thought of this child being hurt and sad at nursery is breaking my heart. It might feel like a tricky conversation but you will be doing the right thing, good luck and well done for being a human with a conscience among many who aren’t.

Yes. Really upsetting treatment of a toddler.

Guavafish1 · 11/06/2025 21:12

I would report it

Supporthelittleguys · 11/06/2025 21:10

🙁 Poor baby. Please report. I don’t mean to have a go at your op but I really don’t understand people sitting on the fence about reporting in this circumstances. You know it wasn’t right, you know all reporting is anonymous, you know that even if they know it’s you who’s reported they can be as annoyed as they like but even they will know you’re not in the wrong. It’s such a non brainer? Your job is to protect the children, not the staff.

PeapodMcgee · 11/06/2025 21:09

I wonder if you're doing an associated college course and if you could talk to a teacher there, if you felt more comfortable reporting it that way?

Nanny0gg · 11/06/2025 21:05

Merryoldgoat · 11/06/2025 18:28

Have you had your safeguarding training? If so what is the recommendation? If not you should not yet be working with the children.

What's that got to do with what she saw?

lifewith2x · 11/06/2025 21:04

This is why I’m so nervous about my little one starting nursery, I can’t stand the thought of anyone hurting her or being mean to her ☹️ definitely raise it OP xx

Hankunamatata · 11/06/2025 21:03

That is horrifying 😳

Itsallsostressful · 11/06/2025 21:01

OP as a SW trainer if concerned about ANYTHING have the conversation with your manager/safeguarding lead.

987654321abc · 11/06/2025 20:57

Please report the incident. The thought of this child being hurt and sad at nursery is breaking my heart. It might feel like a tricky conversation but you will be doing the right thing, good luck and well done for being a human with a conscience among many who aren’t.

Original poster
StrawberryFields2025 · 11/06/2025 20:57

Sorry, typo. **walking. Not working.

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Pricelessadvice · 11/06/2025 20:57

She’s an apprentice asking for help! God some people on here are awful.
Yes OP, please report this. That poor child.

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StrawberryFields2025 · 11/06/2025 20:56

And the child only started working not very long ago really, in the last month or so. He is just 15 months.

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Applesandpears23 · 11/06/2025 20:56

Please report it. That poor child needs someone to stand up for them.

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 11/06/2025 20:56

"wandering"

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StrawberryFields2025 · 11/06/2025 20:54

Also, apparently the member of staff is the ‘go to’’ I. The room. As somebody said today. As she’s been at the setting for a while.

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EnFlique · 11/06/2025 20:53

Absolutely report it, to the manager initially and if you don’t feel they have taken it seriously you can contact the LADO (local authority designated officer) yourself - details should be easily accessible in your setting but if in doubt google LADO + your area.

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StrawberryFields2025 · 11/06/2025 20:51

Thank you for your replies.

I forgot to add that the child was crying obviously after she had done that and she put him down. He wanted comforting and she said a very mean way ‘‘I’m not picking you up’’ He had done absolutely nothing wrong at all either. I went to be with him and she sort of just glared as if to say I shouldn’t and should leave him.

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ThejoyofNC · 11/06/2025 20:43

Another day, another thread that shows why I'd never ever put my child in a nursery.

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