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Still in nappies at school

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ivehearditallthistime · 11/06/2025 16:20

As the title says some children at 4-5 and 6 years old are going to school in nappies and are still not potty toilet trained.
I understand that some will and still have accidents at night and during the day.

But to have a child at that age still in nappies is just laziness.
It is not a teachers job to change nappies is it.
Ive just got back from my sisters whos son has a 4&5 year old still in nappies the school said he or the mum will have to come in school to change them as the teachers will not.

They now think this is all wrong and it is the teachers job.
And are removing both kids from school one does half day and going to home school.
I said no its your job stop being so f=ing lazy if home schooling is anything like your potty training good luck.

My eldest sister a teacher agrees with it and said this is happing more and more now.
A mum in her school has taken her child out of school because teachers will not change her childs nappy hes almost 6.
Said mum had a rant at the school because the school reported it to SS.

Dose anyone agree this is just lazy parenting now.

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HatesHorsesLovesShein · 11/06/2025 16:25

I think we all agree.

Some children will be in nappies when they start reception because they have additional needs. This has always been the case.

Other children are in nappies when they start reception because they have not been potty trained. This used to be something that was a social faux pas but now it has become almost acceptable.

trainerapp · 11/06/2025 16:25

My BIL is a primary school head teacher and says his school has loads of kids lacking the core strength to sit up for periods of time, who don’t know how to hold a pen, never mind write their names, who can’t count up to ten, who are in nappies, who aren’t socialised and don’t know how to play. He thinks a lot of it is a result of lockdown but that a lot of it is lazy parenting and parents opting out of any responsibility for their children’s development. Obviously having medical reasons for all these things is another matter.

Lioncub2020 · 11/06/2025 16:23

Unless there are serious additional needs I think this is shocking. It is not teachers jobs to potty train children.

U53rn8m3ch8ng3 · 11/06/2025 16:21

Sounds like lazy parenting in the case of your sister. Doesn't mean it is for all cases.