Being labelled unreliable as a working mum

But not in the current role.

Clearly they don't matter that much as the CEO and HR have supported OP.

The company promotes flexible work, and has approved OP's work situation. If the manager can't accommodate that kind of work then they need to raise with their manager. But I can't see the entire company ethos changing to suit one person.

Again difference between occasionally and every day. The throw in the holidays.

Ops boss isn't happy and that's probably the person that matters.

My DH occasionally has to collect our DD at 3 And continues to work. On these days he basically does all the big focused tasks in the morning. He will do some basic tasks in afternoon alongside DD who may be playing, drawing, painting. He has even taken part in company meetings with DD in his lap. If there are anymore important task he does them after DD has gone to sleep.

It sounds like OP has a similar set up and has created a balance that works for them and their employer. Not everyone's has to fit their work into 9-5 hours. OP is lucky her employer offers this flexibility and is very entitled to use it.

Occasionally - OP does it every day plus all day for the entire school holidays

As someone who has lined managed a span of around 50, I've always encouraged balance and flex. I believe and have seen evidence that in the rule of "give and take" the employer invariably wins if they allow some gives. Unless the role is factory floor, travelling or timetabled to some extent, I'd always allow a school run so long as the hours more or less add up, and I'd leave it to the employee to work it out too. In these enlightened days of diversity, I'm shocked by some of the opinions in this thread. I've also done and overseen a lot of project management. I'd suggest that a project manager who can't cope with a planned absence within a day isn't managing their portfolio very well. This sounds cultural - move to another company.

I’m pretty sure I’ve already said if I can’t do the work after pick up. I will just return later in the day. All the big stuff is already complete before the end of the day so it’s small bits that does not disrupt anyone’s work flow.

your being a bit of a broken record, I know what needs to be done and I’ve had some great advice on this post.

@Needspaceforlego @NeedToChangeName not sure if your the same person. But the way you keep commenting repeatedly it’s somewhat concerning. I get the feeling your response is rooted more in something personal to you rather than the actual thread I posted.

My DH occasionally has to collect our DD at 3 And continues to work. On these days he basically does all the big focused tasks in the morning. He will do some basic tasks in afternoon alongside DD who may be playing, drawing, painting. He has even taken part in company meetings with DD in his lap. If there are anymore important task he does them after DD has gone to sleep.

It sounds like OP has a similar set up and has created a balance that works for them and their employer. Not everyone's has to fit their work into 9-5 hours. OP is lucky her employer offers this flexibility and is very entitled to use it.

Would you also be happy with your employee, trying to do two jobs at the same time?
Because a 2yo isn't just a pick up and leave them to their own devices the way a 5 or 6 yo is. A 2yo need looking after, toileted, drinks, snacks, then they just want attention because they are 2.

Have you forgotten what 2yos are like?

There are a fair few posters on here who were forced into working and childcare at the same time during covid. Nobody absolutely nobody would ever say it's in any way possible with pre-school children.

You fail your kids, you fail your job, you get burnt out, because little kids need and demand attention Cbeeies and they get bored of it after 5 mins and want you to put something else on, rinse and repeat. Then they want a drink, then a snack, then its nappy / toilet, then a tantrum because what they really want is human interaction from YOU.

No, I agree, the hours would have to add up and be full / fullish concentration or become part time.

Would you also be happy with your employee, trying to do two jobs at the same time?
Because a 2yo isn't just a pick up and leave them to their own devices the way a 5 or 6 yo is. A 2yo need looking after, toileted, drinks, snacks, then they just want attention because they are 2.

Have you forgotten what 2yos are like?

There are a fair few posters on here who were forced into working and childcare at the same time during covid. Nobody absolutely nobody would ever say it's in any way possible with pre-school children.

You fail your kids, you fail your job, you get burnt out, because little kids need and demand attention Cbeeies and they get bored of it after 5 mins and want you to put something else on, rinse and repeat. Then they want a drink, then a snack, then its nappy / toilet, then a tantrum because what they really want is human interaction from YOU.

As someone who has lined managed a span of around 50, I've always encouraged balance and flex. I believe and have seen evidence that in the rule of "give and take" the employer invariably wins if they allow some gives. Unless the role is factory floor, travelling or timetabled to some extent, I'd always allow a school run so long as the hours more or less add up, and I'd leave it to the employee to work it out too. In these enlightened days of diversity, I'm shocked by some of the opinions in this thread. I've also done and overseen a lot of project management. I'd suggest that a project manager who can't cope with a planned absence within a day isn't managing their portfolio very well. This sounds cultural - move to another company.

As someone who has lined managed a span of around 50, I've always encouraged balance and flex. I believe and have seen evidence that in the rule of "give and take" the employer invariably wins if they allow some gives. Unless the role is factory floor, travelling or timetabled to some extent, I'd always allow a school run so long as the hours more or less add up, and I'd leave it to the employee to work it out too. In these enlightened days of diversity, I'm shocked by some of the opinions in this thread. I've also done and overseen a lot of project management. I'd suggest that a project manager who can't cope with a planned absence within a day isn't managing their portfolio very well. This sounds cultural - move to another company.