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Teachers unite around this stupidity and try for another day not to leave the profession

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Fstt1978 · 11/06/2025 14:12

Came in today to an email from a parent. Student deeply upset as we did not get her flowers after she played the 'main part' in the 'show'
She is Year 7. The 'main part' she is talking about? The narrator in our form class assembly about climate change. We were on stage for 6 minutes. It's the done thing apparently- she's seen it on TikTok.
Just blast me into the sun now and be done with it.

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DrinkFeckArseBrick · 11/06/2025 15:47

I think it's mad that there isn't some kind of filter to delete or respond to these emails by the office, before they get to teachers

KakulasSister · 11/06/2025 15:45

Fstt1978 · 11/06/2025 14:21

but also, don't buy them flowers you fuckwits

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exactly. what kid wants flowers. Packet of rolos much better.

adamduritzvocalchords · 11/06/2025 15:44

I bought both of my daughters a small bunch of flowers on their first dance show as prima ballerinas should be given flowers 😉. It was just a bit of fun and only did it once when they did their first one, I wouldn’t do it again.

KeineBedeutung · 11/06/2025 15:44

Fstt1978 · 11/06/2025 14:12

Came in today to an email from a parent. Student deeply upset as we did not get her flowers after she played the 'main part' in the 'show'
She is Year 7. The 'main part' she is talking about? The narrator in our form class assembly about climate change. We were on stage for 6 minutes. It's the done thing apparently- she's seen it on TikTok.
Just blast me into the sun now and be done with it.

Miley Cyrus springs to mind.

HedwigIsMySpiritAnimal · 11/06/2025 15:44

User415373 · 11/06/2025 15:39

This sort of crap is a huge part of the reason I left teaching. Are your SLT supporting you on this? I was yr6 for 10 years and I've seen some madness. Once a parent made a formal complaint about me because their child didn't get the main part in the show. The child didn't want to audition, didn't audition, said they didn't want to be a main part.
Head teacher told me off for not giving them the part and said I wasn't inclusive to children with anxiety. Governors involved, statements taken. Unbelievable farce.

Due to this kind of bullshit, one school I worked at made every child write down whether they wanted a big part, small part or no part in the school production - then when we got the inevitable bullshit complaints from the parents we could demonstrate we were adhering to their child’s wishes 🙄. Fucking ridiculous.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 11/06/2025 15:44

Dear parent, I'm sorry Sophie was disappointed, it seems her expectations were misguided. This is a good chance for her to learn to manage disappointment. Thanks for your support.

TinyTear · 11/06/2025 15:41

pimplebum · 11/06/2025 15:21

Oh I have an idea!

Dear ms batshit ,

the tradition is the TEACHER receives the bouquet as a thank you for all our hard work and extra time, I have a penchant for orchids !

love and mwah kisses

Ms fart

Totally this!
My primary school child took part in the Shakespeare for Schools festival and the class reps organised flowers (and booze) for the teachers - goodness knows they needed!

Some parents took flowers for their kids but that's up to the parents

Dontlletmedownbruce · 11/06/2025 15:39

I get the kid is upset, her expectations were wrong. Fair enough. I get the parent is frustrated by this, calming down an upset child isn't fun. If the parent told you the story in jest that's ok too. But I cannot fathom the need to tell you this in a formal way. What did they expect as a solution? I'm baffled.

The parent obviously isn't very bright. I'd feel sorry for the kid to be honest.

User415373 · 11/06/2025 15:39

This sort of crap is a huge part of the reason I left teaching. Are your SLT supporting you on this? I was yr6 for 10 years and I've seen some madness. Once a parent made a formal complaint about me because their child didn't get the main part in the show. The child didn't want to audition, didn't audition, said they didn't want to be a main part.
Head teacher told me off for not giving them the part and said I wasn't inclusive to children with anxiety. Governors involved, statements taken. Unbelievable farce.

pimplebum · 11/06/2025 15:37

Dont forget it’s against safeguarding rules to give pupils flowers

Sugargliderwombat · 11/06/2025 15:37

Dear x, thank for you for feedback. Take care.

viques · 11/06/2025 15:36

Dear Parent,

Thank you for your email. In view of your comment I asked the IT staff to review Verrucca’s performance using the new VAR system we installed recently. Unfortunately the IT VAR review felt that in this instance Verrucca’s delivery did not meet the standard required for a bouquet. They suggest she works on maintaining eye contact with her audience and projecting her voice towards the back of the assembly hall. I hope this information will be useful for her in the future.

Many thanks for your continued interest and support for the school.

WhereIsMyJumper · 11/06/2025 15:34

Fstt1978 · 11/06/2025 15:19

There's no shame anymore- the parent would be seen as boosting the kids esteem or making sure the kid knew their worth

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Youre right but dont they know you’re supposed to teach kids to create their own self worth, not constantly look for validation elsewhere 😂😂

Glittertwins · 11/06/2025 15:31

DS commented that she’s a bit stupid! Still muttering “flowers??? For an assembly???”

WhereIsMyJumper · 11/06/2025 15:30

Yup. Education is woefully underfunded so let’s definitely spend what little budget there is on bunches of flowers for students for doing what they’re supposed to be doing

Fundays12 · 11/06/2025 15:30

Lol sorry I am laughing at the stupidity of the parent. What an entitled madam they will be raising. It should only take her till she is about 35 to get out of this.

LeftieRightsHoarder · 11/06/2025 15:30

Loving these creative responses! 😂

Or, OP, why not ride the stupidity wave and tell the parent you dare not give flowers to any one child, in case the others are so traumatised they lose the power of speech?

2ndbestslayer · 11/06/2025 15:29

Oh God. And as the kid is only in year 7 you can look forward to many more emails like that!! Good luck.

Frostynoman · 11/06/2025 15:27

suggest to the parent that flowers are reserved for a good performance😉

Wethers121 · 11/06/2025 15:25

I’d tell the mum to big the flowers if she thinks it’s necessary!

Guavafish1 · 11/06/2025 15:23

bad parenting - emails shout be vetted

Dontlletmedownbruce · 11/06/2025 15:22

That's so funny!! How did you respond? I'd have enjoyed phrasing that mail.

pimplebum · 11/06/2025 15:21

Oh I have an idea!

Dear ms batshit ,

the tradition is the TEACHER receives the bouquet as a thank you for all our hard work and extra time, I have a penchant for orchids !

love and mwah kisses

Ms fart

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Fstt1978 · 11/06/2025 15:19

pimplebum · 11/06/2025 15:18

I’ve just finished watching Ginny and Georgia on Netflix and noticed that parents bought small bunches of flowers to their child's performance , so maybe an American tradition ??

but sweet Jesus ! How are you planning on responding to this

are you sure it’s the parent writing ?
is there anyway you can leak this out so that other parents get wind if it - shame them ??

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There's no shame anymore- the parent would be seen as boosting the kids esteem or making sure the kid knew their worth

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Enigma53 · 11/06/2025 15:19

Dear God… 🙄🙄🙄🙄
I feel for you and fellow teachers OP.