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Teachers unite around this stupidity and try for another day not to leave the profession

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Fstt1978 · 11/06/2025 14:12

Came in today to an email from a parent. Student deeply upset as we did not get her flowers after she played the 'main part' in the 'show'
She is Year 7. The 'main part' she is talking about? The narrator in our form class assembly about climate change. We were on stage for 6 minutes. It's the done thing apparently- she's seen it on TikTok.
Just blast me into the sun now and be done with it.

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AngelinaFibres · 11/06/2025 17:37

I was a teacher. I'm still friends with lots of people from my training cohort. We are all turning 60 this year or next year and should have another 7 years left. Not one of us is still teaching. Not one of us is sad about it. Just a massive sense of relief to be out if it.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 11/06/2025 17:31

I'd just ignore it completely and let her go and take it to the class whatsapp group. Hopeflly someone will tell her she's being a tit on there.

Motherofacertainage · 11/06/2025 17:30

Oh FFS! Apart from anything else, we are making staff redundant at my school, no longer provide refreshments on training days and policing the use of the photocopier! Which budget does this parent think the fresh flowers should come from? I would struggle to reply to that one without my professional mask slipping a tad!

lifeonmars100 · 11/06/2025 17:28

Was it the last night of a long running West End theatre production? 😂

SpacedOutOut · 11/06/2025 17:26

Fstt1978 · 11/06/2025 15:04

I haven't replied yet, I'd love to be able to send some of these responses though!

Send a link to this thread! 😂

Springhassprungxx · 11/06/2025 17:21

Fucks sake l've heard it all now!

TamborineGal · 11/06/2025 17:20

FFS
Ignore, we should not encourage this madness

Nanny0gg · 11/06/2025 17:17

Tell them it's against school policy because allergies!

Nanny0gg · 11/06/2025 17:17

JudgeJ · 11/06/2025 17:09

I did but, being old, I foolishly thought this was a good idea in addition!

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I'm old and it would never, ever have occurred to me to do something like that!

At least you didn't do it publicly

Epidote · 11/06/2025 17:15

Reply to them in a fine manner telling that the school do not provided flower to anyone and if they have seen them is because they bought them. Not the school.

Nanny0gg · 11/06/2025 17:15

Fstt1978 · 11/06/2025 14:21

but also, don't buy them flowers you fuckwits

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What on earth did you say?

aredcar · 11/06/2025 17:15

I’m so interested to see what your response was to this batshittery.

I would be tempted to write something really short with no apology whatsoever along the lines of

Dear Mrs Batshit,

Thank you for your email. As a school, we do not give flowers to children in any of our productions, be that drama productions, dance productions, music productions or short class assemblies. If you have any further concerns regarding this policy, please contact the headteacher Mrs Jones.

Yours sincerely

Mrs Smith

IPM · 11/06/2025 17:14

The parent sounds bonkers OP!

But are you not worried about being outed?

If they stumble across this thread, it'll be quite clear to them and the school that it was you who started it.

And that you called parents who buy flowers 'fuckwits'!

Not that I disagree mind 😁

Neemie · 11/06/2025 17:13

@Grendel7 there is a shortage of teachers. Come join the party! If you have a degree, they’ll even pay you to train on job. You can have a nice time as well.

VickyEadieofThigh · 11/06/2025 17:13

JudgeJ · 11/06/2025 17:09

I did but, being old, I foolishly thought this was a good idea in addition!

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To be honest, you're setting up a trail of increasingly high expectations there. What do they get for passing their degree? A house?

JudgeJ · 11/06/2025 17:09

VickyEadieofThigh · 11/06/2025 16:56

Yeah... "Well done, I'm proud of you" was the response you needed there.

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I did but, being old, I foolishly thought this was a good idea in addition!

Orangemintcream · 11/06/2025 17:09

I would suggest a response indicating that the world is not always as we see it online - indeed a lot of it is false or played up for the camera and that this is a valuable lesson for her.

While banging my head off a wall.

Peanutbutterflies · 11/06/2025 17:07

Honestly this is why parents shouldn't be allowed to email teachers directly! There's no way that parent would have approached the teacher after school!
Not surprising though so many entitled parents and it's passing on to their children!

BethBynnag86 · 11/06/2025 17:07

I'd pass this one onto the Head to deal with;firstly so that they can see the sort of day-to day twottery you have to put up with and also because I'm sure they could do with a laugh!😂

So glad I retired before parents emailing staff directly became the thing;I really don't know how I would have replied to that one 😂 Have you shown your colleagues? What was their response? !

TheignT · 11/06/2025 17:05

Fstt1978 · 11/06/2025 14:21

but also, don't buy them flowers you fuckwits

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So has she seen others getting flowers and thinks the school provide them? If she thinks the school give every other narrator flowers I suppose she would feel left out. The solution would be a no flowers rule.

Parents really do a performance don't they.

Needlenardlenoo · 11/06/2025 17:02

ungratefulcat · 11/06/2025 16:24

❤️❤️❤️

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I loved this. Flowers for passive aggression.

VickyEadieofThigh · 11/06/2025 17:02

Grendel7 · 11/06/2025 17:00

Well it's not quite every day is it. 39 weeks of the year isn't it? Plus all those extra nonsense add- on days for "training" AFTER the actual holiday week/s. Nice.

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You do realise that the five training days aren't holidays for teachers and were, in fact, taken off teachers' holidays?

Grendel7 · 11/06/2025 17:00

Flightsoffancy · 11/06/2025 14:20

Oh man. I'm sorry. I'm also a teacher and this one takes the biscuit! At least you can enjoy telling people about it for years - and so will I! Please put a huge bunch of flowers on your own desk tomorrow morning and say they were given to you by someone who appreciated all your main character work every day!

Well it's not quite every day is it. 39 weeks of the year isn't it? Plus all those extra nonsense add- on days for "training" AFTER the actual holiday week/s. Nice.

VickyEadieofThigh · 11/06/2025 17:00

baggybags · 11/06/2025 14:58

Are stupid parents a new thing?

This degree of stupidity? Yes, it's a past (I'd say) 20 years thing, though it has steadily grown over time. I started my first teaching job (secondary school) in 1981 and there was none of this shite. The worst you got back then was parents pleading with you to enter their child for GCE O level rather than CSE when the child simply wasn't up to it.

Wimpod · 11/06/2025 16:58

Fstt1978 · 11/06/2025 14:19

I'm not in the Drama Department at my school, but they do have a lot of people arriving with flowers for their kids now after a show

Think the pupil and parents are in the drama department. 🙄

Just when you think you've heard it all...wow.