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Dog lovers aren’t animal lovers

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Namechanger1993 · 11/06/2025 08:31

I’ve been lurking in various dog related threads recently and it’s become abundantly clear how few dog owners on MN actually love animals. Not all. But lots.

Posters not caring about health tests on parents, or the breeders experience or ability or what happens to the bitch (mother of the pups) after as their desire for expensive mix outweighs their ethics about puppy farming or dogs being born in pain with chronic health issues as a result of bad breeding. Posters admitting their dogs have soiled themselves for a year before they put their dog to sleep. No matter which way you look at it (and believe me, I understand how hard it is to say goodbye), people who love their dogs don’t let them sleep in their shit for a year. Posters not exercising their dog sufficiently or not giving it mental stimulation and then wondering why its badly behaved.

Time and time again I’ve seen posters put their desire for a dog above any morals they might have about animal welfare (including their own dogs). welfare. Honestly, it’s quite shocking how little so many posters care about their dogs, or indeed the dogs use to produce their cute puppy.

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tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 18:43

redboxer321 · 11/06/2025 18:03

I am not coming at you @YeOldeGreyhound but you keep insisting that I say things that I do not say. Please stop that.

I am not trying to upset anyone @tumblingdowntherabbithole and I have never said I know best!

But if we see an animal who is suffering, I think we have a duty to see if we can help. I've only said something a few of times. I try to be diplomatic, open up a conversation... some people are defensive but others have been grateful that someone is helping them face up to things. I would be glad if someone said something to me if they noticed anything. We can all miss things especially when we see our dogs every day and the decline is gradual.

I just like to think most owners are doing their best and don't need a stranger to butt in and give them unwanted advice about their dogs' health and well-being.

My beagle often limps dramatically when he gets grass on his paws - if someone told me they thought he was suffering because of a tiny snapshot I would think they were bonkers - but I'd also be pretty offended that they thought I was stupid enough to walk a suffering dog in the first place.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 18:41

YeOldeGreyhound · 11/06/2025 17:59

Thanks. She has just come in from the garden after baking herself. Will cool down and go out to do it again 😆

Our beagle buries himself under a blanket, toasts himself, then lies on the floor panting like someone forced him under there 😂

Newname71 · 11/06/2025 18:40

We have a 6 year old Staffy. Found him on pets4homes. Committed the ultimate sin of not even seeing his parents. 😱. We went to meet him in a horrible pub and it was obvious he had a belly full of worms. We know we should’ve walked away but we couldn’t. We just wanted to get him out of there.
Without insurance he would’ve bankrupted us due to having a bulging disc.
He’s a much loved member of our family and the vet said he was very lucky to have us as his owners as we seem so in tune with him and we meet his needs exceptionally well.
So, we may have a dog with issues that we probably( definitely) shouldn’t have bought but he could’ve ended up with owners that would’ve given up on him.
We tried to rescue first but they wouldn’t entertain us because we both work.

CoubousAndTourmalet · 11/06/2025 18:39

@LadyTangerine
I agree on the exercise; there are far too many fair weather dog walkers these days. Or people who just stand and fling a ball down the garden for 5 minutes and that's it for the day.

When it's cool and showery, if we go onto the local meadow we can have the whole big field to ourselves. Go at the same time on a warm, sunny day and we'll count 15-20 dogs.

I'm a vegetarian, but from what I see of friends who are vegan, they don't eat nearly as well as I do. My diet is focused on fresh fruit and vegetables but they seem to eat more soya, mushrooms and what I term fake meat but put less emphasis on actual veg...

CoubousAndTourmalet · 11/06/2025 18:30

Whippetlovely · 11/06/2025 17:34

I have not casitgated anyone! My dog is a purebred kc whippet from a breeder! This is because I couldn't get a rescue from the UK as we had a toddler. I didn't want a puppy, they are hard work and I would have preferred to give a dog in need a home but the circumstances didn't work out. I have nothing against anyone getting a puppy as long as they are getting a suitable breed for thier circumstances. The rescues from abroad are not puppy farms they are street dogs. My friends was a 3 Yr old Romanian street dog. Theres a lovely galgo charity in Spain that adopts out ex racers abroad and in Spain. They have a fb page you can follow the progress of the dogs. These dogs are abused by their owners after racing and left to die on the streets. There are lots of charity's like this abroad. Anyone adopting a dog needs to do research on where it's coming from. The same as people getting dogs as puppy's from breeders.

You've totally missed the point, which is this: A lot of these so-called "rescue" dogs being imported are in fact from puppy farms. And a lot of people who take on these "street dogs" are not doing enough research and have no idea what they are getting. And a lot of the time it ends in tears.

EdithStourton · 11/06/2025 18:28

SharpestBulb · 11/06/2025 16:40

If we are meant to eat animals, how on earth are all the vegans alive?

Because they take Vitamin B12 supplements and have to watch their diets very carefully.

You also said,
How about we invest in technology to develop a better alternative. Imagine how far we'd have come if we hadn't ploughed all that money into dogs.
'Better' by whose metric? Working dogs love what they do, or they wouldn't be doing it with such enthusiasm.
And what machinery do you propose to replace the adaptability of, say, a guide dog who can work on a vast range of surfaces, up and down steps, over rough ground and so on.
A LOT of money has been ploughed into AI. And yet, armies and police forces and so on still rely on canine olfaction to find explosives, drugs and so on.

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 11/06/2025 18:22

Whippetlovely · 11/06/2025 17:49

Yes galgos del sol. The stories make me cry when they come in covered in burns, the sheer cruelty is unbelievable. They do a wonderful job looking after those dogs. I would definitely consider adopting from there in the future.

I also follow Galgos de Sol on Facebook. I adopted two dogs from Spain - not galgos though; a Brittany and a Pointer.

Never met them until they turned up in the van either.

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 11/06/2025 18:15

JohnTheRevelator · 11/06/2025 17:03

I know this isn't quite what you meant,but I've often noticed that dog lovers hate cats! I am a cat lover,indeed I love all animals, including dogs. But a hell of a lot of dog lovers seem to have this weird thing going on where they hate cats. I find it really odd.

I've currently got 2 cats and 2 dogs plus snakes, fish, a tortoise and a bird.

hididdlyho · 11/06/2025 18:14

Namechanger1993 · 11/06/2025 13:35

It’s not goady.

I love dogs. I have two of my own.

But would I let my dog sleep in its own faeces when it got old? No. And no one who loved their pet would do that and I think posters who think their dog ‘isn’t suffering and is happy,’ about something like that are deluded. Dogs deserve better than to wake up in their own faeces and the fact some dog owners can’t see that is disgusting.

And edit: these posters can say all they like they love their dog. They don’t. If they did they would not make it do that.

It’s as simple as people who don’t exercise their dog, buy dogs from puppy farms, buy dogs then leave them alone all day. Those people are not animal lovers.

Edited

Should we automatically start euthanising people as soon as they get old and poo the bed?

SquashedSquid · 11/06/2025 18:03

ButteredRadish · 11/06/2025 09:36

We also have a large certificate whuch details all of his ancestors going back 5 generations.

Puppy farmers provide these too, if they KC reg their puppies. KC registration and a generational pedigree does not mean the breeder is reputable.

redboxer321 · 11/06/2025 18:03

I am not coming at you @YeOldeGreyhound but you keep insisting that I say things that I do not say. Please stop that.

I am not trying to upset anyone @tumblingdowntherabbithole and I have never said I know best!

But if we see an animal who is suffering, I think we have a duty to see if we can help. I've only said something a few of times. I try to be diplomatic, open up a conversation... some people are defensive but others have been grateful that someone is helping them face up to things. I would be glad if someone said something to me if they noticed anything. We can all miss things especially when we see our dogs every day and the decline is gradual.

YeOldeGreyhound · 11/06/2025 17:59

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 17:54

Don't let PP upset you - it's easy to think you know best from behind a computer screen.

Your dog sounds very lucky to have you Flowers

Thanks. She has just come in from the garden after baking herself. Will cool down and go out to do it again 😆

SquashedSquid · 11/06/2025 17:56

As an actual dog lover, I completely agree. There really aren't very many dog owners who have used reputable breeders. None of them know what endorsements are. None of them know what health tests their potential puppy's dam and sire should have had. Don't get me started on the ones who deliberately buy mongrels because they have a ridiculous name.

If dog owners only ever bought dogs from reputable breeders, who all have return to breeder clauses in their puppy contracts, there would be no dogs in rescue. Zero. Nada. Imagine that.

People like doodle owners, or those who buy puppies from sites like Pets 4 Homes, are quite literally the reason so many dogs are suffering.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 17:54

YeOldeGreyhound · 11/06/2025 17:48

Actually, I nearly had her PTS to because i got bad advice online and well meaning family. Was told she was dying etc. Turns out she had a gastro bug. Took her to the vets and she was put on meds. Cost me £150 just to cancel her PTS appointment (I was using a home vet service). She is very old, and I was just told it was "her time". If you had met us in the park, you would probably would have been one of those people.

I have not said I would get violent. I would however have got really upset and taken it out on myslef,. and be too scared to leave the house for weeks after. I am autistic, before you come at me about me not being resilient etc.

Don't let PP upset you - it's easy to think you know best from behind a computer screen.

Your dog sounds very lucky to have you Flowers

YeOldeGreyhound · 11/06/2025 17:53

Whippetlovely · 11/06/2025 17:49

Yes galgos del sol. The stories make me cry when they come in covered in burns, the sheer cruelty is unbelievable. They do a wonderful job looking after those dogs. I would definitely consider adopting from there in the future.

I know, the street Galgos get treated like shit there. So many pregnant mums too.
I l like seeing the posts from Sunday and Hank too. I proper cried when Grannypants crossed the bridge, and when they got that huge olive tree planted in her memory.
If I had a passport, and was not so pathetic in hot weather, I would go volunteer there for a bit.

Whippetlovely · 11/06/2025 17:49

YeOldeGreyhound · 11/06/2025 17:42

Galgos del Sol?
They are an amazing rescue. They will keep a dog for years to make sure they are ready for rehoming. I love the pics of the dogs with shower caps on... having a bath before they go off to the sweet life. Always lifts my spirits.
I had a friend in Spain who sadly took his own life, and his dog was rehomed through them (ended up living in the same UK town my friend moved to Spain from).

Saying that, there used to be a tiny rescue where I lived who ran out of local dogs to foster/adopt out, so started getting dogs from Romania. They were coming from there and going straight into homes. No meeting the dog, no fostering or assessment etc. I think that was dangerous tbh. They no longer operate now.

Yes galgos del sol. The stories make me cry when they come in covered in burns, the sheer cruelty is unbelievable. They do a wonderful job looking after those dogs. I would definitely consider adopting from there in the future.

YeOldeGreyhound · 11/06/2025 17:48

redboxer321 · 11/06/2025 17:40

Great response!
Parroting my words back to me.
Thinking you know what I might or might not say.
Telling MN you'd get violent.
Accusing me of showing faux concern.
And not answering the one question I asked!

I hope that your dog is "fine now" but I'm sorry, given what you've already posted, I wouldn't trust your judgement.

Actually, I nearly had her PTS to because i got bad advice online and well meaning family. Was told she was dying etc. Turns out she had a gastro bug. Took her to the vets and she was put on meds. Cost me £150 just to cancel her PTS appointment (I was using a home vet service). She is very old, and I was just told it was "her time". If you had met us in the park, you would probably would have been one of those people.

I have not said I would get violent. I would however have got really upset and taken it out on myslef,. and be too scared to leave the house for weeks after. I am autistic, before you come at me about me not being resilient etc.

Jujujudo · 11/06/2025 17:44

I cannot get behind any owner who buys from a breeder. Full stop. Those poor bitches kept for breeding, not to mention the hundreds of strays put in shelters waiting desperately to be adopted. I’ve had dogs most of my life and I always get from a shelter, and rarely puppies. Our current girl was adopted age 4 from the most terrible circumstances and she would have been put down eventually as she was very reactive. She’s the most beautiful dog, she deserved a loving home. If we stop buying from breeders then they won’t have a business and shelter dogs will become the norm.

YeOldeGreyhound · 11/06/2025 17:42

Whippetlovely · 11/06/2025 17:34

I have not casitgated anyone! My dog is a purebred kc whippet from a breeder! This is because I couldn't get a rescue from the UK as we had a toddler. I didn't want a puppy, they are hard work and I would have preferred to give a dog in need a home but the circumstances didn't work out. I have nothing against anyone getting a puppy as long as they are getting a suitable breed for thier circumstances. The rescues from abroad are not puppy farms they are street dogs. My friends was a 3 Yr old Romanian street dog. Theres a lovely galgo charity in Spain that adopts out ex racers abroad and in Spain. They have a fb page you can follow the progress of the dogs. These dogs are abused by their owners after racing and left to die on the streets. There are lots of charity's like this abroad. Anyone adopting a dog needs to do research on where it's coming from. The same as people getting dogs as puppy's from breeders.

Galgos del Sol?
They are an amazing rescue. They will keep a dog for years to make sure they are ready for rehoming. I love the pics of the dogs with shower caps on... having a bath before they go off to the sweet life. Always lifts my spirits.
I had a friend in Spain who sadly took his own life, and his dog was rehomed through them (ended up living in the same UK town my friend moved to Spain from).

Saying that, there used to be a tiny rescue where I lived who ran out of local dogs to foster/adopt out, so started getting dogs from Romania. They were coming from there and going straight into homes. No meeting the dog, no fostering or assessment etc. I think that was dangerous tbh. They no longer operate now.

Whippetlovely · 11/06/2025 17:41

CushionNeck · 11/06/2025 17:33

I am not a vegan or vegetarian. The vegans I know however, look perfectly healthy to me and never lecture me.

I am a meat eater, but I am finding the vegan posts more compelling than your rather poorly articulated and somewhat uneducated rants.

Join the cult then!

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 17:41

SharpestBulb · 11/06/2025 16:38

How about we invest in technology to develop a better alternative. Imagine how far we'd have come if we hadn't ploughed all that money into dogs.

So would you be happy for all these purpose-bred working dogs to never exist, or to be killed?

LadyTangerine · 11/06/2025 17:40

Whippetlovely · 11/06/2025 16:52

How stupid, you know we are omnivores. Of course we CAN survive not eating meat but we are designed to eat it, most of us like to eat it. Most vegans look bloody ill but no one is lecturing you on eating meat we don't give two hoots what you are eating. Why do you insist on lecturing us meat eaters? Your like a bloody cult.

Vegans don't look 'bloody ill' at all. I'm vegetarian and I'm 100% healthier than when i used to eat meat. Lower cholesterol, more energy, better skin.
We most certainly don't need meat inside us to be healthy, quite the opposite.

redboxer321 · 11/06/2025 17:40

YeOldeGreyhound · 11/06/2025 17:30

That is quite a reach. I just don't think you should be telling people that you do not know, about how their dog is unwell when you know nothing about their dog either.
I nearly had my dog PTS last year, and I took her for her last walk. If you had come up to me and expressed your faux concern, it would not have ended well. Thankfully, she is fine now.

My mum's dog was already in boots, but his corn is too big now so will need to be hulled. He has already had surgery (£700 a time and insurance will only cover one op). Greyhounds are very prone to them.
One of my dog's siblings used to have them on every foot. My own dog has never had one.

Edited

Great response!
Parroting my words back to me.
Thinking you know what I might or might not say.
Telling MN you'd get violent.
Accusing me of showing faux concern.
And not answering the one question I asked!

I hope that your dog is "fine now" but I'm sorry, given what you've already posted, I wouldn't trust your judgement.

LadyTangerine · 11/06/2025 17:37

'Posters not exercising their dog sufficiently or not giving it mental stimulation and then wondering why its badly behaved'

Totally agree. We see it on here all the time. Bit of ice and it's 'is anyone walking their dog in this it's too dangerous surely' then in summer 'oo it's over 15c my dog may get ill if I take it out'.

In summer walk your dog at 7am it is never hot and in winter wear appropriate footwear.

If you cba to exercise your dog in all weather you shouldn't have one.

Whippetlovely · 11/06/2025 17:34

CoubousAndTourmalet · 11/06/2025 16:22

I cannot understand that @Whippetlovely .
It's the Adopt Don't Shop supporters that are unwittingly supporting puppy farming/backstreet breeding in the first place, by getting these overseas "rescues". To me it's reverse logic. They castigate those of us who choose to buy a purebred puppy from a reputable breeder, telling us "breeding is immoral", then they turn around and get a dog from a puppy farm. It makes no sense.

I have not casitgated anyone! My dog is a purebred kc whippet from a breeder! This is because I couldn't get a rescue from the UK as we had a toddler. I didn't want a puppy, they are hard work and I would have preferred to give a dog in need a home but the circumstances didn't work out. I have nothing against anyone getting a puppy as long as they are getting a suitable breed for thier circumstances. The rescues from abroad are not puppy farms they are street dogs. My friends was a 3 Yr old Romanian street dog. Theres a lovely galgo charity in Spain that adopts out ex racers abroad and in Spain. They have a fb page you can follow the progress of the dogs. These dogs are abused by their owners after racing and left to die on the streets. There are lots of charity's like this abroad. Anyone adopting a dog needs to do research on where it's coming from. The same as people getting dogs as puppy's from breeders.

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