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Dog lovers aren’t animal lovers

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Namechanger1993 · 11/06/2025 08:31

I’ve been lurking in various dog related threads recently and it’s become abundantly clear how few dog owners on MN actually love animals. Not all. But lots.

Posters not caring about health tests on parents, or the breeders experience or ability or what happens to the bitch (mother of the pups) after as their desire for expensive mix outweighs their ethics about puppy farming or dogs being born in pain with chronic health issues as a result of bad breeding. Posters admitting their dogs have soiled themselves for a year before they put their dog to sleep. No matter which way you look at it (and believe me, I understand how hard it is to say goodbye), people who love their dogs don’t let them sleep in their shit for a year. Posters not exercising their dog sufficiently or not giving it mental stimulation and then wondering why its badly behaved.

Time and time again I’ve seen posters put their desire for a dog above any morals they might have about animal welfare (including their own dogs). welfare. Honestly, it’s quite shocking how little so many posters care about their dogs, or indeed the dogs use to produce their cute puppy.

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FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 11/06/2025 11:54

Stellaris22 · 11/06/2025 08:43

I agree. I was in the vets the other day and there was a French Bulldog, it’s inability to breathe was distressing to hear.

I have a colleague who recently bought a cockapoo and talks about it constantly. Real dog lovers wouldn’t go anywhere near these breeds.

I always feel sorry for indoor cats as well, what a dull life they have.

I always find it frustrating when people say they “feel sorry” for indoor cats, especially when it’s said so dismissively.

The implication that anyone choosing to keep their cats indoors is somehow neglecting their wellbeing couldn’t be further from the truth.

Indoor cats, when properly cared for, live longer, healthier lives. They’re not at risk of being hit by cars, attacked by dogs or other cats, poisoned, or stolen. They also don’t decimate local wildlife populations, which is a major issue in many areas.

Keeping cats indoors isn’t just about protecting them, it’s about protecting the environment too. And it is also considerate to others. Have you seen the posts on here from upset OP's that their neighbours cats are pooping in their garden?

I have three indoor cats. They’re happy, healthy, and very much living their best lives. They get at least an hour of play every day, have cat trees, enrichment toys, interactive games, and plenty of space to roam and explore.

They’re all at ideal weights, full of energy, and show no stress or destructive behaviour whatsoever.

Being indoors doesn’t mean being deprived. it just means their needs are being met in a different (and, frankly, safer) way.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 11:49

Dangermoo · 11/06/2025 11:36

Yes, thank you. I wonder if the PP scrutinises every aspect of her life, to check whether her morals exactly align with everything she does in her life. I can only imagine how mentally exhausting that must be, not to mention very insular thinking.

And so much of it is cultural too - lots of the people commenting about how they’d never eat XYZ would have very different views had they been born and raised in Asia (for example).

Nobody is better than anyone else (or more of an animal lover than anyone else) just because they choose to not to eat cows or sheep.

Dangermoo · 11/06/2025 11:36

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 11:32

How do you know that’s what they mean? Or are you just making assumptions?

You can love animals and be aware that they have another purpose other than to please us and look cute.

Yes, thank you. I wonder if the PP scrutinises every aspect of her life, to check whether her morals exactly align with everything she does in her life. I can only imagine how mentally exhausting that must be, not to mention very insular thinking.

Stellaris22 · 11/06/2025 11:36

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 11/06/2025 11:28

I love dogs and I have a cockapoo (amongst other breeds). When I managed to convince my partner we needed a another dog part of the deal was he picked the breed.

What's wrong with a cockapoo?

Sadly due to their popularity the parents are often highly abused to produce the litters to keep up with demand.

The puppies people buy will be well looked after and loved, I don’t deny that, but where those puppies come from won’t be a good life for the parents.

LandSharksAnonymous · 11/06/2025 11:33

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 11/06/2025 11:31

Do you breed malinoises?

Golden Retrievers 😁

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 11:32

LateQuartet · 11/06/2025 11:27

It's not clear what point you're making here. It does seem like a logical fallacy to describe yourself as an 'animal lover' when what you actually mean is that you have an identity based on adoration of a very small and specific subset of animals, domestic pets.

How do you know that’s what they mean? Or are you just making assumptions?

You can love animals and be aware that they have another purpose other than to please us and look cute.

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 11/06/2025 11:31

LandSharksAnonymous · 11/06/2025 08:47

She’s not bitchy about dog ownership though, only about how so many pet owners don’t care about animal welfare. And it’s true. They don’t - the amount of people who come to me asking for a puppy when they work full time and have young children is staggering. Those people should not even be considering a dog, yet they give me a torrent of abuse when I refuse to even consider placing them on my wait list. Those aren’t animal lovers, as OP rightly states. They’re fashion buyers.

Do you breed malinoises?

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 11:30

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 11/06/2025 11:28

I love dogs and I have a cockapoo (amongst other breeds). When I managed to convince my partner we needed a another dog part of the deal was he picked the breed.

What's wrong with a cockapoo?

Good luck - you’ve just opened up a massive can of worms!

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 11/06/2025 11:28

Stellaris22 · 11/06/2025 08:43

I agree. I was in the vets the other day and there was a French Bulldog, it’s inability to breathe was distressing to hear.

I have a colleague who recently bought a cockapoo and talks about it constantly. Real dog lovers wouldn’t go anywhere near these breeds.

I always feel sorry for indoor cats as well, what a dull life they have.

I love dogs and I have a cockapoo (amongst other breeds). When I managed to convince my partner we needed a another dog part of the deal was he picked the breed.

What's wrong with a cockapoo?

LateQuartet · 11/06/2025 11:27

Dangermoo · 11/06/2025 11:24

Well, I hope you apply that philosophy to every aspect of your life. You wouldn't want to be a hypocrite, would you?

It's not clear what point you're making here. It does seem like a logical fallacy to describe yourself as an 'animal lover' when what you actually mean is that you have an identity based on adoration of a very small and specific subset of animals, domestic pets.

XWKD · 11/06/2025 11:26

Dog owners and dog lovers aren't necessarily the same thing. I love dogs, but it would be cruel to keep one where I live. I love playing with my friends' rescue dogs though...

Dangermoo · 11/06/2025 11:26

vodkaredbullgirl · 11/06/2025 10:07

Oh yes, they both staring at me because I'm eating 😆

😆 🤣 I once had one of my previous labs nick a magnum ice lol out my out hand. I said you're just lucky I've got another one in the freezer. Bastard 😆

Dangermoo · 11/06/2025 11:24

beesandstrawberries · 11/06/2025 10:32

What bugs me is all these ‘animal lovers’ claim that they love dogs, animals but they still continue to eat animals, wear animals like leather and continue to use products that test on animals without a care.

You CANNOT love animals but be choosy about which ones are worthy to be loved and what ones are not worthy so they end up on your plate.

Well, I hope you apply that philosophy to every aspect of your life. You wouldn't want to be a hypocrite, would you?

WhereIsMyJumper · 11/06/2025 11:22

Dunnocantthinkofone · 11/06/2025 10:46

Not quite. If they come from purebred, papered parents, all dogs can be registered as pedigree
But…..
For a dog to win a kennel club show (and get to Crufts) it must meet the criteria set by the kennel club. The criteria appear to have been set based on looks alone with no regard to health
Therefore breeders have tried with each generation to get closer and closer to ‘perfect’ creating more and more extreme versions of a breed, with more and more health problems

Show champions command high stud fees, kudos amongst peers etc and breeders have not always put the welfare of their puppies first. You would hope an organisation running the whole system would be there to legislate in the dogs best interests. The KC in many people’s eyes have done the opposite

Ok, I understand thank you. And thanks for explaining it without being snarky - a rare occurrence on MN 😂

EvilNextDoor · 11/06/2025 10:54

I have working dogs, big brutal working dogs…one working line the other show line, both are working dogs.

They are trained to a high standard…they are also trained protection dogs…

I would say 97% of dog owners have zero idea on how to socialise, feed, look after or train a dog

My dogs have come from breeders which have been health tested mine are in perfect condition, in reality in the dog world I am involved in, everyone knows everyone and the breeding lines are exceptional, they don’t breed for money, none of the ones I know are in it for the money.

Joe blogs on Facebook or that random pet site quite probably is and has no clue on how to breed they just see ££££

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 10:53

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 11/06/2025 10:51

I love animals, including predator animals.

Humans are an animal, one with an incredibly strong pack bonding instinct - it's WHY we anthropomorphise in the first place.

Dogs have had joint attention with humans for millennia, and cats chose to domesticate themselves.

There are countless examples of animal codependency in the wild.

Although humans have altered the natural world a lot, it's part of our nature to do so. Cities are just the termite mounds of humans.

I have a lot of support for environmental causes and for humane treatment of animals, but the idea that we shouldn't act like the animals we are is a pass from me.

Perfectly said.

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 11/06/2025 10:51

beesandstrawberries · 11/06/2025 10:32

What bugs me is all these ‘animal lovers’ claim that they love dogs, animals but they still continue to eat animals, wear animals like leather and continue to use products that test on animals without a care.

You CANNOT love animals but be choosy about which ones are worthy to be loved and what ones are not worthy so they end up on your plate.

I love animals, including predator animals.

Humans are an animal, one with an incredibly strong pack bonding instinct - it's WHY we anthropomorphise in the first place.

Dogs have had joint attention with humans for millennia, and cats chose to domesticate themselves.

There are countless examples of animal codependency in the wild.

Although humans have altered the natural world a lot, it's part of our nature to do so. Cities are just the termite mounds of humans.

I have a lot of support for environmental causes and for humane treatment of animals, but the idea that we shouldn't act like the animals we are is a pass from me.

Dunnocantthinkofone · 11/06/2025 10:46

WhereIsMyJumper · 11/06/2025 10:32

Oh wow, that’s horrendous!

So what we are saying is that the KC lists ‘ideal’ traits to meet the breed standard and then dogs are bred so they can be registered as a pedigree?

My lab is a working line, he will obviously need much more stimulation and exercise than a show line lab but he doesn’t have the short stocky build. But he is still KC registered?

Sorry for all the questions! I’m not really sure of the KC’s role in dog breeding so please excuse my ignorance

Not quite. If they come from purebred, papered parents, all dogs can be registered as pedigree
But…..
For a dog to win a kennel club show (and get to Crufts) it must meet the criteria set by the kennel club. The criteria appear to have been set based on looks alone with no regard to health
Therefore breeders have tried with each generation to get closer and closer to ‘perfect’ creating more and more extreme versions of a breed, with more and more health problems

Show champions command high stud fees, kudos amongst peers etc and breeders have not always put the welfare of their puppies first. You would hope an organisation running the whole system would be there to legislate in the dogs best interests. The KC in many people’s eyes have done the opposite

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 10:43

beesandstrawberries · 11/06/2025 10:32

What bugs me is all these ‘animal lovers’ claim that they love dogs, animals but they still continue to eat animals, wear animals like leather and continue to use products that test on animals without a care.

You CANNOT love animals but be choosy about which ones are worthy to be loved and what ones are not worthy so they end up on your plate.

Of course you can 😂

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 10:42

iliketheradio · 11/06/2025 10:32

It's cognitive dissonance, however you want to dress it up.

Or just basic logic. Most things in this world are dual purpose - as long as the animals are well cared for during their lives, I honestly can’t get upset about them being used to provide food or clothing for people 🤷‍♀️

vodkaredbullgirl · 11/06/2025 10:36

beesandstrawberries · 11/06/2025 10:32

What bugs me is all these ‘animal lovers’ claim that they love dogs, animals but they still continue to eat animals, wear animals like leather and continue to use products that test on animals without a care.

You CANNOT love animals but be choosy about which ones are worthy to be loved and what ones are not worthy so they end up on your plate.

Why not?

hididdlyho · 11/06/2025 10:36

vivainsomnia · 11/06/2025 09:05

Iys no different to people who become parents because they like the idea of being a parent rather than because they love kids.

They will always be good and bad parents either way. Why would it be any different for pets owners?

I do disagree about dehumanising pets though. You can never love a dog enough. Them being an animal rather than human doesn't change this. A loved dog with plenty of attention and care is almost inevitably a happy dog.

Very true. It's odd to focus on pet ownership, whilst ignoring the hundreds of selfish decisions everyone makes everyday to make their life more comfortable and enjoyable; even though not doing that thing would often be better for the planet and other species of animals. We don't need to drive cars, live in fancy houses, wear nice clothes, etc...

beesandstrawberries · 11/06/2025 10:32

What bugs me is all these ‘animal lovers’ claim that they love dogs, animals but they still continue to eat animals, wear animals like leather and continue to use products that test on animals without a care.

You CANNOT love animals but be choosy about which ones are worthy to be loved and what ones are not worthy so they end up on your plate.

WhereIsMyJumper · 11/06/2025 10:32

Dunnocantthinkofone · 11/06/2025 10:23

As an example, take the Cavalier King Charles Spaniel….
systematically bred to have a small,round dome shaped head deliberately to conform with the kennel clubs breed ‘ideal’
We now have a breed prone to cherry eye (the eyes popping forwards from the skull) and the below condition
“In Cavalier King Charles Spaniels, a condition called Chiari-like malformation (CLM) can lead to a mismatch between the brain and skull size, where the brain is essentially too big for the skull. This mismatch can cause the brain to herniate through the opening at the base of the skull, potentially obstructing the flow of cerebrospinal fluid (CSF). The result is a condition called syringomyelia (SM), where fluid-filled cavities develop in the spinal cord.”

Oh wow, that’s horrendous!

So what we are saying is that the KC lists ‘ideal’ traits to meet the breed standard and then dogs are bred so they can be registered as a pedigree?

My lab is a working line, he will obviously need much more stimulation and exercise than a show line lab but he doesn’t have the short stocky build. But he is still KC registered?

Sorry for all the questions! I’m not really sure of the KC’s role in dog breeding so please excuse my ignorance

iliketheradio · 11/06/2025 10:32

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 11/06/2025 10:30

You can love things and recognise that they can also have another purpose.

It's cognitive dissonance, however you want to dress it up.

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