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Partner spent my money and lied

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Lilly1812 · 11/06/2025 08:20

So i gave some money to my partner to keep in his savings account as he has a higher interest. I tried to open the same account but was denied. This is an inheritance given to my children by their late grandmother. I finally opened an account in their names and asked for the money back. He gave me different stories for a week. At first he said he has put some in a fixed term account so I said log in on ur app and let me see . He said no! Meanwhile he allowed me to see just a week before. This got me thinking that he has perhaps used some of the money. I asked him to tell me the truth but he insisted the money is there but he will transfer it when he's ready and he won't let me see his app either. After some back and forth and him making me very upset, he transferred some of the money. It is left with £5000. I asked him why he can't complete the transfer but he said he will do it. I persuaded him to just let me check to make sure he hasn't used it. He finally opened the app and I only saw £2000. I confronted him and he said he gave £3000 to his friend to invest in something and he should get it back by the end of the month. I'm so disappointed he lied to me for so long and also used my money without asking me. What can I do if I don't get the money back? I'm not talking to him as of now .

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Mrsttcno1 · 11/06/2025 08:28

FOJN · 11/06/2025 08:26

I don't know if there is anything you can do. You gave him the money, he could say it was a gift unless you have something in writing. If you end the relationship you will not get the money back. I would negotiate a payment plan if you can and when he's paid you back dump him.

Moral of the story....do not give money to someone to store in a bank account only they have access to.

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Presuming there wasn’t any written agreement you haven’t got a leg to stand on really.

Els1e · 11/06/2025 08:27

This is theft. Give him to end of week to give you all the monies plus interest or report to police and go to small claims court. Oh, and dump him too

Deluxecoffee · 11/06/2025 08:27

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FOJN · 11/06/2025 08:26

I don't know if there is anything you can do. You gave him the money, he could say it was a gift unless you have something in writing. If you end the relationship you will not get the money back. I would negotiate a payment plan if you can and when he's paid you back dump him.

Moral of the story....do not give money to someone to store in a bank account only they have access to.

Deluxecoffee · 11/06/2025 08:25

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SummerEve · 11/06/2025 08:23

Why on Earth have you let this happen? If this can’t be resolved between the 2 of you small claims court will be your only option. But you are going to have to provide some sort of evidence. Do you have that? Also, how much money did you actually give him?

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