To not understand people who don't love food

You sound like my husband, OP. He loves food, cooking and planning meals. He’s a passionate and talented cook and also thinks about nutrition and ensuring we’re eating so many plants a week, higher welfare meat etc.

He had the extreme misfortune to marry someone largely uninterested in food. I’ve never in my life gone to bed thinking about something that’s in the fridge. I’d eat next to nothing from one day to the next. My husband feeds me and I am mostly grateful, but I eat more than I’d want to eat, just to be sociable as he’s cooked it.

Away from home, only hunger reminds me to eat. Today, I had my first bit of food at 3pm and that was half a Pret soup. This is anathema to my husband who wakes up thinking about what he’s going to eat/cook/buy.

(He’s not remotely fat btw, I’ve made him sound like Augustus Gloop.)

I’m with your DH. I have been type 1 diabetic since I was young so everything I ate had to be weighed, measured and carb counted etc and eaten at the right time. We literally had a colour coded book categorising foods between “always allowed” “sometimes allowed” and “treats only.” Funnily enough, I get very little enjoyment from food now, despite having more freedom due to advances in technology meaning I now have an insulin pump. Food mainly serves to curb hunger for me.

Sadly, all I get from your post about ham and potatoes is a sense of how much washing up that would create!

Omg your lunch sounds so nice. I think I'm going to have to recreate it

Me neither and certainly not the heavenly bliss that’s chipped feta so thank you

@HiddenInCubeOfCheese

I then became significantly overweight before dropping to a healthy weight in my late teens…and then a full blown eating disorder lasting years. Food to me is scary - I can’t stop when I start and it’s hugely linked to emotions (positive and negative). As a result, I’m often thinking about food and what I can budget in for that allowance or how I can burn it off. Easier to not get excited by it because the guilt after takes SO much headspace.

I'm really sorry that's really shit.

It was helpful to me, I had no idea I could freeze hummus!

@pastabest can you adopt me?

I love the sound of all that. I just cannot be bothered to cook it!

Depends on what you enjoy. I used to love talking about new projects. And while I liked food I enjoyed projects more. If you work from home then you have more time to plan food. My mother didn’t plan food. I think you need to grow up doing it. I do love good healthy food. But cooking is a chore. I hate the mess. If I planned all the meals then maybe.

See, I too love food……. But only if somebody else makes it for me!

I read this…...

I'm going to be going to sleep tonight dreaming of pulled ham hock with rosemary and garlic fried potatoes with a peashoot salad, a scattering of spicy beetroot and dollops of whipped feta covered in fresh chives , cherry tomatoes and cucumber with a sprinkling of seasalt and a nice zesty lemon based dressing of some sort.

and I just think, feck that’s too much effort. I’m exhausted just reading it 😂

I love food, but historically loved it a bit too much and put on 3 stone. I’ve now lost it and have been dedicated to fitness over the past couple of years. I’ve had to try and train myself to think of food more as fuel rather than being so obsessed with all the amazing things I could eat otherwise I would fall off the wagon hard…

having said that, your lunch sounds delightful!

OP I am on my way over.

I’m with you op. Except when pregnant when all appetite is gone and it seems inconceivable and revolting that you’re supposed to put stuff in your mouth and swallow it, and if you actually do try it’s just so wrong that it won’t go down, and you feel much better if you don’t even think about or look at food.

He needs to put some of the pulled ham in that sandwich. With chives. And toast it.

This is me.

Food was love growing up, and my mother always served my brother first, prepared him food and not me etc etc. I also had no off switch (maybe as a result of the aforementioned) when it came to food.

I then became significantly overweight before dropping to a healthy weight in my late teens…and then a full blown eating disorder lasting years. Food to me is scary - I can’t stop when I start and it’s hugely linked to emotions (positive and negative). As a result, I’m often thinking about food and what I can budget in for that allowance or how I can burn it off. Easier to not get excited by it because the guilt after takes SO much headspace

I’m kinds of like you with dinners and spend an inordinate amount of time planning what to cook then. Lunch when I’m wfh and it’s the quickest food I can prep so I can spend the most amount of time at lunchtime chilling —on MN—.

I'm somewhere in the middle I think.

I really enjoy food but I wouldn't have given it quite that much thought, or gone to bed thinking about it.

Then again, I don't like dry, stringy ham.

Can I come round for lunch? 🤔😋😋😋

Same. Life is too short for bad food in my view.

My DP will insist on using every damn thing in the fridge before he'll consider replacing any of it so we eat really well at the start of the week and by the end we're eating bizarre and not particularly inviting combinations. I know he's being sensible and practical but it makes me rage when I'm eating some weird chips plus broccoli plus half a fishcake concoction to eke it out and not waste it. I'd just rather spend a bit more money.

OP I want your fridge. I now need all the salads, beetroot especially and jersey royals.

Oh this is totally me. I see it as such a missed opportunity for something nice thats gone wrong.

Imagine Tom Hardy reading this slowly....

'pulled ham hock with rosemary and garlic fried potatoes with a peashoot salad, a scattering of spicy beetroot and dollops of whipped feta covered in fresh chives , cherry tomatoes and cucumber with a sprinkling of seasalt and a nice zesty lemon based dressing'

The downside is that getting a bad meal can make me really cross.

This reminds me of one of my friends who only showers twice a week because she thinks it's a waste of time. Me, I love a shower and often have two a day.

Food, yeah, I like it but I am just not that interested in it. And I don't have a history of mental illness or abuse, it's just not interesting enough to think about constantly.

I adore food. It’s all I think about. 😂