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To not understand people who don't love food

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pastabest · 10/06/2025 21:26

We had left over jersey royals from our tea tonight. And I overcooked (significantly) the marmalade ham I was making but it's created an amazing shredded ham thing when I've gone to try and slice it.

As I shredded the ham into an enamel tin to put in the fridge alongside the Jersey royals I was imagining all the delicious lunches I could make with them if I was WFH tomorrow.

We've got coleslaw, spicy beetroot salad, boiled eggs, lots of nice pickled stuff, a wide variety of salad stuff, houmous, all the cheeses etc and a massive herb garden. My mouth is drooling thinking about the possibilities.

Suggested to to DP who is at home tomorrow that he could have it if he wanted but if not I had plans for it for tea.

He looked at me like I was mad and said 'I'll probably just have a cheese sandwich and a packet of crisps like always'.

He is a food is fuel person and I just don't get it. I'm going to be going to sleep tonight dreaming of pulled ham hock with rosemary and garlic fried potatoes with a peashoot salad, a scattering of spicy beetroot and dollops of whipped feta covered in fresh chives , cherry tomatoes and cucumber with a sprinkling of seasalt and a nice zesty lemon based dressing of some sort.

I look in the fridge and I see endless possibilities, he looks in the fridge and finds the quickest and simplest route to being fed - enjoyment optional.

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BarBellBarbie · 10/06/2025 23:10

ThePoshUns · 10/06/2025 22:55

Yes a pill to fill you up all day and nourish you would be amazing. Imagine how much more time you would have. I’d still like to go out for nice meals but not to have to do the hum drum every day food stuff would be bliss.

But cooking and especially eating is what I like to do with my time

Middlechild3 · 10/06/2025 23:08

It not only fuels the body, it nourishes and nurtures body and soul and engages the senses. I always think people who don't like food probably don't enjoy sex as much as they could.

pastabest · 10/06/2025 23:01

Gettingbysomehow · 10/06/2025 22:55

Try mounjaro, food turns your stomach when you're on it. I have to force myself to eat anything. It's weird.

I've done 7 months on Mounjaro. As I'm sure is no surprise I was slightly overweight previously.

Lost a load of weight but also realised how much genuine joy I got from food.

Mounjaro made me miserable but longer term as a result from taking it I now eat smaller portions of tasty healthy food and I bloody enjoy every mouthful. Been off three months now and put on a little bit of weight again (1kg) but look well from it.

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KawasakiBabe · 10/06/2025 23:00

I don’t love food, I eat because I have or out out of boredom. I’m not really bothered by food in the house, or snacks.

i don’t understand when people say they’re dreaming of dinner or they have a favourite meal. I know I’m weird. One child is like me, the other like her dad, who loves food. Bizarrely, I’m the fattest in the house!! Go figure!

steelingmyself · 10/06/2025 22:58

I’m jealous! I wish I had the (mainly) time, knowledge imagination to think up yummy recipes like you do. It’s a skill! 👏

pinkpony88 · 10/06/2025 22:57

I’m with you OP. I love food!
I love growing it, cooking it, eating it 😆
I have Pinterest boards full of ideas and shelves of cookbooks 😍

Gettingbysomehow · 10/06/2025 22:55

Try mounjaro, food turns your stomach when you're on it. I have to force myself to eat anything. It's weird.

ThePoshUns · 10/06/2025 22:55

Yes a pill to fill you up all day and nourish you would be amazing. Imagine how much more time you would have. I’d still like to go out for nice meals but not to have to do the hum drum every day food stuff would be bliss.

treesocks23 · 10/06/2025 22:54

100% understand this. I am you completely. And drooling over your description of some of my favourite things. I also recognise your description of your partner and mine is exactly the same! So hard when cooking for someone is also my way of showing love and it's like 'yes it's fine' or 'I'll just have mine plain' etc and he's very much food = fuel. It does drive me crazy but I've learnt to just deal with it!

pastabest · 10/06/2025 22:53

HundredPercentUnsure · 10/06/2025 22:38

I used to be the same as you.
And then I had kids.
I'll get back there one day.

I've got kids!!

One is like me the other is like DP. Me and the foodie kid (age 7) quite often sit in the kitchen discussing food.

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uncomfortablydumb60 · 10/06/2025 22:48

HelpMeGetThrough · 10/06/2025 22:47

I’ve no real interest in food. I have one meal a day and that’s it. Often a simple sandwich will do, as I can’t be arsed with anything else.

Its all just completely boring to me. If I could pop a single pill that did the job, I’d be all over that.

Exactly the same here

uncomfortablydumb60 · 10/06/2025 22:48

I'm like your DP but I get where you're coming from
As a child I once got a reheated roast dinner served up 3 times as I couldn't eat it... Still didn't eat it.

HelpMeGetThrough · 10/06/2025 22:47

I’ve no real interest in food. I have one meal a day and that’s it. Often a simple sandwich will do, as I can’t be arsed with anything else.

Its all just completely boring to me. If I could pop a single pill that did the job, I’d be all over that.

theriseandfallofFranklinSaint · 10/06/2025 22:45

I don't think I've ever gone to bed thinking about food!

I hate meal planning, food shopping, thinking of what we all like, then cooking. One of the worst household chores!

I track calories, carbs and protein which is probably a good thing as if I didn't, I'd live off cereal, bagels and crisps!

pastabest · 10/06/2025 22:44

EmeraldRoulette · 10/06/2025 22:23

@pastabest can you adopt me?

I love the sound of all that. I just cannot be bothered to cook it!

See I don't see it like that.

I make a ham most weeks from a cheap gammon shank from the butchers - it normally cuts like ham and gets used like thick cut sandwich ham, either in sandwiches or e.g. chicken and ham pie. It's part of my routine but tonight I forgot it and it overcooked and became slow cooked/ pulled ham hock.

The Jersey royals were leftover from tonight's meal - I cooked more than we needed with the intention they would become fried potatoes or potato salad in the next fee days.

The rest is literally spoon out of the tub on to a plate decoratively. Its essentially leftovers with salad.

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spoonbillstretford · 10/06/2025 22:38

My DH loves food - but for someone else to make it. He would totally have the cheese sandwich and the packet of crisps if it's left up to him.

HundredPercentUnsure · 10/06/2025 22:38

I used to be the same as you.
And then I had kids.
I'll get back there one day.

Goingawayistricky · 10/06/2025 22:35

My whipped feta didn’t work in the freezer either I might add.

rosydreams · 10/06/2025 22:34

i appreciate it so much ,grew up poor so good food was a treat. My other half seems to be on the fence, he likes good food but wont go out of his way to make it good. A little fussy but generally appreciative of a good meal .Thank goodness or i would loose the plot .I like to cook and his pickiness is minor like cucumber,avocado, pickles,tomato,olives and fish ,so i can work around it

I love being creative with food all those snackish nibbles are lovely pickles coleslaw ,olives .Just a shame my other half is not a salad person but it could be worst

BetterWithPockets · 10/06/2025 22:34

Ah, it’s tricky, isn’t it? I love food but often lack inspiration. And if you have (or have had) an eating disorder, then food is rarely simple. I’ve also been fascinated by all the references to ‘food noise’ recently; I don’t have (hear?) it, but it absolutely makes sense. I think it’s great if you can enjoy it, OP. (I mean, I do too; I just wish I was more imaginative about it.)

EllyRoff · 10/06/2025 22:34

Goingawayistricky · 10/06/2025 22:02

Genius 🙄 .. but sadly my freezer is full already of frozen veg ( fresh veg like cauliflower and broccoli is too big), frozen herb and chilli’s the bread, batch cooking - otherwise I’m eating fresh lasagne or stew everyday for a week and packs of fish and meat.
I know how to use a freezer.

Jeez I thought I was mardy!

Q2C4 · 10/06/2025 22:32

MiddleClassProblem · 10/06/2025 22:16

He needs to put some of the pulled ham in that sandwich. With chives. And toast it.

But then think of the grill he’d have to clean!!

Goingawayistricky · 10/06/2025 22:32

soupyspoon · 10/06/2025 22:04

Crikey.

What a response.

I thought I was being helpful as not everyone knows you can freeze these things

Sorry. 🙂.
I read it as a bit patronising.
The point is with the Ops spread theres too much that won’t freeze and bits that might.
But overall a freezer full of stuff needs planning in a way a fridge full of yummy bits you can take out and pick at doesn’t.

FluffykinsTheFerociousFeralFelineFury · 10/06/2025 22:30

I don't think I could have a meaningful relationship with someone who was totally indifferent to food.

EllyRoff · 10/06/2025 22:29

I’m team DH

I eat through necessity. Very little appetite.

Today I’ve had a protein shake and a cottage pie with broccoli and that was only because eye mince needed using up. If it wasn’t for the fact that I cook for DH I’d probably end up very skinny indeed

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