To not understand people who don't love food

What is this things about having to understand the POV of others over unimportant stuff? People are different, understanding is not a reqirement for acceptance, get over yourself!

I would be happy to open your fridge and fix a plate as that does sounds delicious but can I be arsed to make all that myself? No! I do tend to go for what is easier and quicker to make but I really need to get in to food prepping so I can have tasty, nutritional food all ready for when I am hungry.

Yes I’m not forcing the imaginary pill on anyone!

@VoltaireMittyDream

It’s this sort of smugness that makes foodie chat so insufferable. All the guff about really savouring life’s sensual pleasures, being healthier and more wholesome and a bit sexy and continental and generally a better quality of person than all the dreary plebs who don’t have orgasms over whipped feta.

Enjoying food isn't really "foodie chat". If enjoying food makes smug then give me that over being a "dreary pleb" (to use your phrase) any day.

That might explain it, you've been on mounjaro and are now off it.

All humans who are malnourished "love food". They're actually intrusive thoughts because your body is seeking nourishment.

It's not further genuine enjoyment you've discovered, it's because the injections caused you to undereat and are now trying to get that nourishment back. The fantasies and thoughts are a signal from your body. You'll put the weight back on (maybe not all of it), balance back out and your fantasies about food will disappear once your body has balanced out again. I'd be willing to bet money on this!

Not saying you'll dislike food, just saying that your enjoyment level would be the same as it was before mounjaro, the "further enjoyment" youve "discovered" will reverse.

I was plagued with thoughts of food during the worst of my anorexia. Always planning elaborate meals, fantasising about what I would eat when I allowed myself to eat, dreams of food. Nightmares that I would eat it and waking up in panic attacks, calming down and being thankful upon realising it was just a dream.

I actually dislike food in my normal state. I don't like the feel of it in my stomach, I don't like my bodies reactions to eating food... I feel rubbish. I don't like the demand of having to eat every day, multiple times a day. There's foods which tastes I really love, like croissants or goats cheese sandwiches, but the taste and mouth feel doesn't make up for how bad it feels in my stomach or all the anxiety over eating it /empty calories /weight gain, or how my body feels after eating (full/warm/somehow buzzy and fuzzy). So I can only eat my favourite foods very rarely, and when I'm not doing anything else all day so I can cope with the feel of eating it.

I like food and really enjoy what I eat but I don't like it enough to make a huge effort. So yes what you describe sounds great and I would eat it and enjoy it but I'd look in the fridge and stick some ham on a sandwich and grab a handful of tomatoes. My dd has no interest in food at all and has migraines regularly that remind her that she didn't eat at all the day before.

I should add I went off in fantasy land as you’d wasn’t it hot at lunch not cold.

I do mine in a frying pan

Oh yes, having to have some crappy cold sandwich from the fridge, made God knows when, is the pits. Also and very similar, sandwiches at conferences and work do's. I find them hard to eat. Actually I think I eat them the way people in this thread who eat for fuel eat, sort of resolutely with no enjoyment. And the vegetarian option. Especially when it's a vegan option really. Most convenience foods, pretty much all horrible. All of this makes me cross.

I can tell you that’s not true.

Why would your DP find enjoyment in food when it's probably linked to memories of abuse? Forcing a child to eat in the way you describe is abusive.

I’m always thinking of food and love your suggestions much more than a cheese sandwich! That said, now I don’t have to cook for family anymore (only 1 DC of 3 left and she likes to cook her own food, very self sufficient) I eat the same thing most days. Lunch is always harissa chicken and spinach pasta that I cook on a Sunday! So lazy. But I love food so much, and also don’t understand people who don’t. As a result, i’m always on a diet, as I gain so easily being 5ft nothing means weight goes on so easily.

This. I travel around for work and really resent having to have crap food.

I don't like fridge cold food and would never eat sandwiches by choice so hate it when circumstances dictate that I have to have some crappy garage sandwich or fast food for lunch.

I try to take my own food some of the time or find the nice options eg an M&S salad but they're tiny and expensive and still fridge cold if I don't have time to buy it an hour before I eat it.

I had one the other day and even though it boasted about all the protein it had in and was actually lovely, it wasn't enough for lunch so I ended up in Greggs at 4 pm where I bought some crap that I didn't enjoy but didn't have much choice if I didn't want to go hungry.

But to answer the OPs question, yes, I don't understand people who don't like or enjoy food, are unable to think of meals to make and can't see what to me are obvious ways to use up leftovers.

When I lived in Portugal I had two separate Portuguese people say to me that Portuguese cuisine was the most varied and delicious of all the world's cuisines. Now don't get me wrong, bacalhau, bifanas and chicken piripiri are lush. But varied? No. Plus one of the aforementioned people was eating a pig's ear whilst lecturing me about the supremacy of Portuguese cuisine 🤢

I’m somewhere between you and your DH. Food is primarily fuel, but I LOVE eating out and trying new food, and when I travel, sampling local delicacies is a must.

I’m somewhere in the middle. Love talking about and cooking food. Though the other month I had a massive burger for lunch and a load of fries and I didn’t need to eat for the rest of the day and I found it quite liberating as one less thing to sort out

The older I get the less interest I have in food. Today I had a ham and cheese roll about 3 o’clock, can’t be bothered about anything else. Annoyingly I cannot shift the excess weight…

It’s this sort of smugness that makes foodie chat so insufferable. All the guff about really savouring life’s sensual pleasures, being healthier and more wholesome and a bit sexy and continental and generally a better quality of person than all the dreary plebs who don’t have orgasms over whipped feta.

I'd look towards Countries like Spain, France, Italy where food is considered an experience and their health. Us Brits aren't great at enjoying food, it is very much gulp whatever down and on to whatever we need to do.

I'm like you OP, I enjoy food and love experimenting with ingredients and flavours. I also much prefer to spend time enjoying and savouring what I am eating, much to the annoyance of some people.

Not gonna lie, the phrase “as I shredded the ham” made me a little bit sick in my mouth

Hubby all the way

Taking a magic food pill wouldn't be compulsory 😂

I enjoy eating all sorts of food - but until it’s right in front of me I just don’t want to have to spend even an iota of my time and energy thinking about it, and I cannot stand it when people want to talk about food all the time.

I grew up in a family where everyone was totally batshit about food in different ways - anorexics, orthorexics, compulsive overeaters, domineering feeder types, unbearably supercilious food snobs. Everyone was constantly obsessing about food. I think I am the only person in my extended family who has a non-disordered approach to eating, and I just want to keep it as neutral a thing as I possibly can in my life.

My partner is like you. It's wondering about what to cook for tea before we've even had breakfast. He's a great cook and I'm very lucky. Definitely had a "you must clear your plate" upbringing. I'm not quite your husband and I'm a decent cook but I just find thinking about food and dinners relentless.

Exactly this. I couldn’t be with someone food obsessed, it would piss me off no end

I'm with your bloke. Which is a shame as husband is a proper foody. Loves to cook, watches cooking stuff online for pleasure. Wants me to savour every mouthful and talk about it while it's happening. All the different layers of flavour. It's mind numbing for a food is fuel person.

Suggested to to DP who is at home tomorrow that he could have it if he wanted but if not I had plans for it for tea

This to me would be a siren. It's an offer but not really and it could mean I get talked at about food again.