My husband has never really made an effort on behalf of our two young children for Mother's day. On MD this year, I thought he had forgotten entirely until he asked me mid afternoon when I wanted my card. Previously I've had flowers bought from Tesco on the morning once it became clear he'd forgotten. He has similarly made little effort for my birthdays - this year he bought a card, flowers and chocolates from the supermarket on the way home from work on the evening of my birthday.
Each year I've gotten him thoughtful things from the kids - one year they painted coasters for him at a ceramics cafe, another time I got him a selection of cheeses I thought he might like, I have them make him a hand made card etc.
This year I'm wondering if I should just do a card presented to him mid-afternoon with no fanfare, the same as for Mother's day. I'm not sure if I can bring myself to do it, it feels mean and petty. But this years Mother's day was a new low in that I spent most of the day sad, thinking he had forgotten and my DC didn't even know it was Mother's day.