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To think they should have kept serving me?

309 replies

itsotoy · 10/06/2025 15:24

Went to collect 4 parcels from my local shop. I told her I had 4, she gave me 1 and said “thanks, bye” … I informed it again it was 4. It was taking ages and she claimed she couldn’t find it - but she’d already scanned my code and signed it in the book that it had been collected.

She said “yeah I can’t find it” and then the guy with her told me I would need to wait whilst they served the queue behind me.

Sorry I get there was a queue of 2 people but I was there first and was in the middle of being served and had already been patiently waiting. I don’t think I should have to wait even longer because they couldn’t find my parcel.

OP posts:
Rosscameasdoody · 10/06/2025 17:14

BallerinaRadio · 10/06/2025 17:10

How long does the queue get before they start serving other people? The door? The street? Four doors down?

And by the same token how long before they realise that if the queue is consistently this long, they are not employing enough staff ? Happens all the time. The customer is presented with shit service and made to feel like a nuisance because the business is trying to cheapskate it to save money.

MissSeventies · 10/06/2025 17:11

Some ridiculous posts in this thread, for those bemoaning the 'good old days' what happened to the customer always being right? I think someone even suggested that OP should have meekly slipped off home and came back later when the shop was quiet, so as not to disturb the imaginary queue or that she should be worried about how much the shop is making from a service that they have decided to offer. How is that any of OP's concern? If the shop aren't concerned about the service that they are offering I don't think OP should be expected to worry about their profit margin. OP I think YANBU they should have continued to serve you or at the very least one could have looked for your parcels while the other served other customers. I assume that as they had been scanned they would have been marked collected. I can only imagine how that would have went when you came back later and another member of staff was on.

Rosscameasdoody · 10/06/2025 17:11

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 10/06/2025 16:42

Look, they were prioritising other paying customers who may just walk out and go spend their money elsewhere. Those queuing to spend £20 on cigs and beers probably won’t want to wait for someone faffing on parcels. I’ve had this a million times and had to wait. It’s annoying but they had no urgency to OP who couldn’t really walk out at that moment . If you were a business owner would you worry about a 20p parcel, which was already paid for and the person would have to just be patient, or would you try and prioritise a £20 sale that may walk out any moment? I know what I would do, even though it’s annoying for OP. This is why I try not to get things delivered to my local newsagent where I can. There are loads of options on Vinted. And if you must. Then just be prepared to be patient and wait 🤣

Edited

And again, if you can’t offer a decent and prompt service, why offer it at all ?

PiggyPigalle · 10/06/2025 17:10

Yes OP, IMO they should have kept serving you.

BallerinaRadio · 10/06/2025 17:10

Needmorelego · 10/06/2025 17:04

In some shops though the queue can be never ending.
People join it constantly.
At what point should the assistant decide that the serving of the "other customers" has finished?

How long does the queue get before they start serving other people? The door? The street? Four doors down?

PiggyPigalle · 10/06/2025 17:08

My irritant used to be back in the days of landlines.
Being served or attended to in an office, the phone would ring and I'd be left standing there, while they dealt with the caller.
I've left shops due to it. Stick your sale!

Rosscameasdoody · 10/06/2025 17:08

EllyRoff · 10/06/2025 15:51

Holding the queue up messing around. Imagine how the person behind you feels knowing their exchange will take minutes but you’re stood there taking forever

How is this OP’s fault when it’s the shop - who are charged with receiving OP’s parcels and keeping the safe until collection - have messed up ?

Needmorelego · 10/06/2025 17:04

BallerinaRadio · 10/06/2025 17:00

If I'm in that queue behind you I am 100% getting annoyed at the situation.

The right thing to do would be to say to you I can't find the other three, I'll just serve these other customers and then continue looking for your parcels as not to inconvenience everybody in the shop. Perfectly acceptable.

In some shops though the queue can be never ending.
People join it constantly.
At what point should the assistant decide that the serving of the "other customers" has finished?

UnctuousUnicorns · 10/06/2025 17:03

Northerngirl821 · 10/06/2025 15:43

Why does every little minor annoyance need a mumsnet post/tiktok video these days?

Remember life before mobile phones and the internet, when you'd have to pick up a writing pad and pen, jot off a letter, place it in an envelope, pop a stamp on it , then trot off to the nearest postbox to send it to your local rag, or "Points Of View" on the telly, or something like that. How different life was back then. 😅

loobylou10 · 10/06/2025 17:02

@EllyRoff have you read the OP properly? They weren’t ‘faffing’ they went to pick up 4 parcels, only 1 came out, they asked for the other 3. Not unreasonable.

Grammarnut · 10/06/2025 17:02

Helpsremove · 10/06/2025 15:27

A film could be made about this

It has the makings of a prize winning literary short story!

funinthesun19 · 10/06/2025 17:01

itsotoy · 10/06/2025 15:51

But you can reverse that too, why should I care about what people in the queue wanted?

Exactly. I wouldn’t care. Yanbu.

BallerinaRadio · 10/06/2025 17:00

If I'm in that queue behind you I am 100% getting annoyed at the situation.

The right thing to do would be to say to you I can't find the other three, I'll just serve these other customers and then continue looking for your parcels as not to inconvenience everybody in the shop. Perfectly acceptable.

MyHouseInThePrairie · 10/06/2025 16:57

If I have a parcel/envelope to send when I go to the Post Office, I expect them to deal with that.
If I have 4 parcels, then I expect them to take them all at the same time. It’s a pretty common occurence around Christmas anyway.

In the same way, if there are 4 parcels to collect, I’d expect to be able to have all 4 wo having to let everyone go first. If they can’t find the parcel, I’d expecting one of them to go and look for it/them. I feel if it’s clear it’s going to take time, it’s ok to serve other customers during that time. But it’s not me giving my turn to others. It’s just efficiency to see people as quickly iyswim.
It would be the same with one parcel they can’t find either.

BlueandPinkSwan · 10/06/2025 16:57

Because threads like this run and run for pages, everything gets away from the original post, so much is repeated and someone will say ltb at least once. Mil, sulking dh and toxic ils.
BUT, it does bring out some funny posts too so I usually read the twaddle regardless😀As you were OP.

Ddakji · 10/06/2025 16:55

85% agree YANBU so I’d ignore the idiots posting stupid replies, OP.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 10/06/2025 16:55

neilyoungismyhero · 10/06/2025 16:49

She wasn't faffing around or messing about did you not read the post? she was stood waiting for her parcel. She wasn't arguing the toss or moaning. It sounds like there was more than 1 person behind the counter so don't really understand the issue from their perspective. The op could have been waiting there all day if other customers arrived. One of the little outlets I go to for parcel collection stuffs all the parcels in a cupboard and the staff always seem to have a devil of a job raking through all the packages, usually accompanied by a lot of sighing and eye rolling. If it's such a faff they shouldn't offer the service.

Rule 1 of AIBU
Never let the facts get in the way of deciding an OP is at fault.

Lostcupcakes · 10/06/2025 16:53

If they commit to providing parcel collection as a business they have to be able to do it properly...

Exactly this.

No wonder they get into a faff about it in these newsagents. They never have any system (or even space to implement a system) from what I can see. Everything's just all piled into a box like they're Santa Claus and they hold up the queue looking through 40+ parcels at random for yours.

Coconutter24 · 10/06/2025 16:53

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 10/06/2025 16:42

Look, they were prioritising other paying customers who may just walk out and go spend their money elsewhere. Those queuing to spend £20 on cigs and beers probably won’t want to wait for someone faffing on parcels. I’ve had this a million times and had to wait. It’s annoying but they had no urgency to OP who couldn’t really walk out at that moment . If you were a business owner would you worry about a 20p parcel, which was already paid for and the person would have to just be patient, or would you try and prioritise a £20 sale that may walk out any moment? I know what I would do, even though it’s annoying for OP. This is why I try not to get things delivered to my local newsagent where I can. There are loads of options on Vinted. And if you must. Then just be prepared to be patient and wait 🤣

Edited

If there’s 2 people serving and 2 people behind op in the queue, how long do you think it takes to serve 1 person? Surely 1 of the staff could easily and quickly serve 2 people whilst the other kept looking for the parcel. No one will walk out a shop and travel to another shop because they have to wait 30 seconds for the transaction in front to be completed

Greenartywitch · 10/06/2025 16:49

The staff member is at fault here.

She did not listen to what you were saying when you mentioned that you were collecting 4 parcels and when you told her she had made a mistake by handing you one parcel only, she should have got on with looking for your stuff and getting another member of staff to deal with the rest of the queue.

If they commit to providing parcel collection as a business they have to be able to do it properly...

Bizarre that so many people are blaming the OP...

neilyoungismyhero · 10/06/2025 16:49

EllyRoff · 10/06/2025 15:51

Holding the queue up messing around. Imagine how the person behind you feels knowing their exchange will take minutes but you’re stood there taking forever

She wasn't faffing around or messing about did you not read the post? she was stood waiting for her parcel. She wasn't arguing the toss or moaning. It sounds like there was more than 1 person behind the counter so don't really understand the issue from their perspective. The op could have been waiting there all day if other customers arrived. One of the little outlets I go to for parcel collection stuffs all the parcels in a cupboard and the staff always seem to have a devil of a job raking through all the packages, usually accompanied by a lot of sighing and eye rolling. If it's such a faff they shouldn't offer the service.

Needmorelego · 10/06/2025 16:45

@Peaceandquietandacuppa but how long should the OP have to wait while they serve the queue - which could have people joining it constantly ?
Should she wait 5 minutes, 15 minutes.....3 hours?
She is a customer too.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 10/06/2025 16:45

They probably make less money from the parcel hub than paying customers.

PuppyMonkey · 10/06/2025 16:44

DID YOU GET THE OTHER PARCELS OP?

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 10/06/2025 16:43

FedupofArsenalgame · 10/06/2025 16:41

She was receiving them though?

What do you mean? They also get paid to hold them?