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Aibu: Partner shouldn't flip everything back to me

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Bleurgh99 · 10/06/2025 11:25

Aibu to think that my partner shouldn't get angry when I don't want to do as he says or recommends. That I should have autonomy to make my own decisions.

Example...me chopping garlic, partner on sofa...' chop it X way, shall I show you?'

Me: 'No thanks, this is working for me'

Partner then gets angry.
And conversations has to continue in a circular way until I am told that I have a tone in my voice. Well I likely do after being told several times that I am doing something the wrong way by a man say on the sofa.

Many Other examples. This is not just about the garlic! This was an easy one to share.

I have asked to separate, then he wants to share what I do wrong ...this doesn't help turn my desire to separate around. It adds nails to it.

Aibu?

NB it isn't about this one example, but many. I end up shouting now as I feel so done.

OP posts:
PsychoHotSauce · 10/06/2025 11:32

You don't need his permission to separate, although I can imagine he won't like being "told" its happening with no say in the matter.

sparklychair · 10/06/2025 11:31

If my husband criticises how I do something I reply "You do it, then".
And I sit on the sofa instead.

mrandmrsrobinson · 10/06/2025 11:29

Bin