To think Yr2 teacher has it in for my girl??

Got a note home saying she was disrupting the class coz she was singing under her breath while doing a worksheet. Like?? She’s a kid not a robot

Like maybe the othr 29 children would find it easier to learn if she wasn't singing.

This. She’s six but so are all the other children in the class.

The teacher is asking for your support, you should give it and work with your daughter to unlearn bad habits.

You could just engage them positively to prevent disruption to others.

I teach this age group and while I understand fully that the complaints sound petty, imagine if all 30 were “talking too much” or “singing quietly”. Your daughter certainly wouldn’t be learning anything. The teacher can’t single your daughter out and make it ok for her not to follow rules - perhaps she can sing and work but the 5 others at her table can’t focus through someone singing? Or perhaps she is very bright and absorbs instructions despite talking over staff, but the children sitting around her don’t. I’d chat to her about making good choices and respecting others.

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If the teacher thinks it warrants letting you know, then it needs to be taken seriously. My youngest DS was constantly telling me the teachers were unfair, they were picking on him and not others.
I explained each time that there is a standard of behaviour expected of him from both me and the teacher. When he was in that class, she was in charge and he listened whether he thought it unfair or not.
life isn’t fair, when you work you’ll encounter things that are not fair, it’s how you deal with things. Being disruptive isn’t the answer.
Even if he wasn’t interested in the lesson, others were and to disrupt their learning is not acceptable.

It does disrupt others.* *

It sounds like she's being disruptive.
Even at that age I'd have been fed up if someone sang 'under their breath' while working tbh.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say if you are concerned, talk to the teacher to listen to listen to what she has to say and voice your concerns as well. Although is the school year ending soon, will she have a different teacher next year?

I had a teacher when I was about 6 or 7 who hated me. I was very quite and shy, often a bit day dreamy but not distruptive or rude or anything like that. This teacher never let me play like everyone else after finishing work, I often had to sit on my own, always being told off, just a whole year of being put down. Mum said I was miserable the whole year but it was only a year or so later when she had reason to be around a lot of my classmates that they all told her stories about how this teacher had treated me. Luckily I have had no worries about any of dcs teachers so far but if they ever told me they were unhappy at school I would look into it.

There's no reason your daughter should be singing while doing her work. That's just how school works and it's great that she's letting you know so you can work on reminding her of this at home. It sounds like in general she's not great at listening the first time so now that you know, you can help her with this over the break.

Some workplaces are not allowed to have the radio on though so just random singing beside you would’nt be the same.

Sorry this just made me laugh because both me and the person next to me at work do this constantly to the radio music - we're in the "accounts corner" though so nobody else around for it to bother 🤣

I don't see why this means the education system is "one size that doesn't fit all". Lessons are lessons, and school isn't a crèche. Part of life is learning consideration for others, and being able to behave appropriately in different contexts. I'm sure Taylor Swift doesn't sing under her breath during business meetings.

If what you're really getting at is that some children might concentrate better on a task when humming or singing to themselves, that's a better argument for the "one size doesn't fit all" (though I still think the child needs to stop doing that in the classroom). I think that's unrelated to whether the child is a talented or keen singer in general. We all have that one annoying colleague who wanders around the office singing random lines out of tune, and mine certainly isn't the next Taylor Swift!

Imagine being at work in an office and the person next to you sings under their breath all the time ..

Why?

A 6 year old is singing away under her breath happy doing her work and it’s a habit best stopped? Then we wonder why we have so many miserable, emotionally stunted adults?

Indeed. That child who has a passion for singing might just be the next Taylor Swift! It's an example of why our education system is a one size that doesn't fit all.

The key here though is the disruptiveness to other children's concentration, so the op/ teacher has to find a way of engaging the child positively and preventing disruption to others. Simply telling the child "don't do it" is unlikely to work.

This is so horrid. A 6 year old is singing away under her breath happy doing her work and it’s a habit best stopped? Then we wonder why we have so many miserable, emotionally stunted adults?

and all these posters being like nah a teacher will never do this…a teacher will never be mean or bully… a teacher can only be wonderful… well a) the whole education system in the uk is literally built on bullying and punishing children into submission and there are still hangovers from this, b) teachers can and are peadophiles right? No one is denying that bad ones slip through the net there, so why wouldn’t any of them be bullies? It’s like people believe 99percrnt of them are professionals who can do no wrong, or they’re a 1percent rapist child abuser - no possibility of anything in between… I find this so strange.

there are bad people everywhere. How many posters here have had run ins with bullies at work? Loads I’ll bet. So why would they think they don’t work in schools? I was picked on by a teacher. And it got worse from then on because then I got the reputation of being the “bad” kid, so other teachers assumed I was difficult and treated me negatively before even getting to know me. I was not bad in any way shape or form. I wasn’t even disruptive. She had it in for me and handed me a reputation that followed me - and eventually I leaned in to. She was an awful human being.

and at school there were teachers who kids would say a particular teacher was a pervert and no one listened - just kids making shit up - well now he’s in prison for exactly what you’d imagine. And I know mine isn’t the only school this happened in!

some teachers are awful. An ordinary teacher wouldn’t have the time to send notes etc, but some do. And 7 weeks with a teacher who doesn’t like you can cause damage at this age. It’s a big time in a child’s life.

as for your appearance op, are you actually dishevelled or is it your idea of yourself? Or is it that you are a single parent with five kids and figure people will draw judgements on that? Because people do, let’s face it. And people, again, can pretend teachers have no biases but they bloody do!

Do go and talk to her and suss it out. Do keep in mind that bored kids might be distracting to other kids and see how to help. And do try to work with the school. But keep your instincts in the back of your mind.

Some children sing/ hum/ talk under their breath to aid their own concentration and do so on 'autopilot', not to be deliberately disruptive. I don't disagree that it disrupts others, so the teacher's approach to it might be to suggest the child does something else that doesn't distract others instead (some kind of fidget toy perhaps). The key thing is for op to work with the teacher on solutions though - but the default assumption that it's 'naughty' behaviour may not be helpful. Also, if she's particularly fidgety/ talkative, the teacher may be able to enlist the child's help during lesson time by getting her to hand out equipment or whatever, since different children have different energy/ focus levels.

It’s nothing personal, the teacher is letting you know that your daughter is disruptive, albeit at a low level. I’ve been a primary school teacher and this sort of thing makes it really difficult for the rest of the children to learn, especially those who are sat near the child in question. It doesn’t mean that the teacher doesn’t like your daughter, it means that she is concerned enough to ask for your support. She will be in KS2 in 3 months time and that sort of thing won’t be tolerated as much as it has been in KS1. Just have a chat with the teacher without getting defensive, then speak to your daughter about expectations at school. Maybe come up with a little reward system with the teacher whenever she manages a morning or afternoon without disrupting other people - make it a positive thing.

She’s disruptive. This will be affecting others. The fact you have 5 kids on your own is irrelevant, no one has to take this into account when looking at your kids behaviour.

Yabu - she is not behaving well in class and it will be disrupting others.

Singing is for music class or choir practice. Being 'lively' is for PE. In class she needs to sit and listen. The teacher is right to pull her up on this.
The re is nothing worse than low level disruption for a teacher.

She is disruptive. She is nearly 7 and has been in school almost 3 years now. She well knows the behaviour expectations and singing whilst others are trying to concentrate is disrespectful.

You need to talk to her and work with school. How would you feel if your dd was sat beside someone being disruptive and she couldn’t concentrate because of that!??

" bit lively " ? 😬