To think a dishwasher will change our lives?

Not when you have no money. Then you do what you have to.

You're not supposed to rinse dishes beforehand - the detergent needs something to cling to in order to clean effectively. Scrape off big bits leaving the rest. This could actually be why your dishwasher isn't working well.

It’s not unreasonable to want a dishwasher. When we moved into our current home the kitchen already had one and with three young children it was certainly one of the positives that made us buy it ( although there were lots of others). I was tired of piles of dirty dishes and pans piled up on the draining board.

Life completely changed! I would never not have one again, I can fill it as I go along when I'm cooking. DH always did the washing up, but not in a timely fashion and he'd never put it away so there was always dishes draining on the rack the next time you needed to wash up.

If I didn’t have space for a dishwasher? I would get rid of my oven to make room. Mine is brilliant, washes everything, saves me or DH from a very boring job. I will never live without one.

Your dishwasher is either shit or broken. There’s no point to a dishwasher that doesn’t actually wash anything. You don’t need to rinse (and certainly not wash) the plates in a dishwasher that works. Just get a new one. And in the meantime, just hand wash, your plates don’t need to be “sanitised”, you are just creating work for yourself.

Everyone I know who said they didn’t need a dishwasher and they were happy to wash by hand, completely changed their tune when they finally got a dishwasher.

Conversely the few times our dishwasher has been broken has been a few days of feeling like you are constantly washing up and there are constantly dirty dishes on the side. Washing up takes bloody ages, and the dishwasher also effectively creates a cupboard for most of your dirty dishes.

I wouldn’t be without one.

You are allowed to buy a new dishwasher instead of being a martyr

Mine isn't good enough to actually help. It sanitizes but doesn't clean, so I have to do them all by hand and then put in the dishwasher just to sanitize. My wife is incapable of rinsing either her or our toddlers dishes so I get to even do that when I get home at 9 at night. If he does all the dishes, he gets to decide if it will help him, your opinion doesn't really matter at that point if you aren't doing them, nor does ours. It comes to wether he wants it.

I realise I'm an outlier on this thread, but we have no dishwasher and no intention to get one. The main reasons are that none of our crockery and cutlery is dishwasher safe - we collected it over years from various second hand shops and hand-me-downs in the family. We like it. Then if we wanted to install one we would have to reorganise the whole kitchen at great expense, because there really is nowhere it would fit at the moment. We seem to get by and since the children were nine or ten they understand they have to pitch in. It's good for them. But I do recognise that we would save a lot of time if we had one and there are other chores we could find for the kids to help with.

In my opinion, from having no dishwasher for many years, to then having several different dishwashers in different rented houses, to then buying one in our own house, that 1) A Dishwasher of any type is a game changer and 2)the Miele in particular is well worth the extra price. I guess that maybe because we had older models before- but our Miele gets everything properly, sparklingly clean, AND dry, every time. I love it!

life changing purchase. and whilst your DH will no longer be washing up, he can do something else with the children 😉 all i would say is get one where you can alter the top shelf. good luck

Yes, do it, get a dishwasher. I have a Neff (my second one), would not be without it.

Bought one recently after 2/3 years of hand washing up after last one broke. I'm honestly so sad that I didn't buy one earlier. Instead of 30 minutes cleaning up after dinner it's now a quick 5-7 minute shove in machine, set time (use overnight at 7p kwh), wipe down surfaces and back to family time! I've got a Hisense and can't fault it

I don't know how anyone managers without one. I had one even when I lived on my own!

Depends. How much fo you cook from scratch? Do you bake? Do you use a lot of plastic items? If he's happy leave it for now. Loading dishwashers are a frequent cause of arguments! I don't mind washing up either.

Wouldn't be without mine. Had one for years and never saw it as a luxury. One good thing is now it frees up your DH to run the hoover or mop the kitchen floor in the time he would have been washing dishes!

How many dirty pots do you create?

Unless you're running a cafe, it can't take much more than ten minutes to wash them by hand. Just enjoy that time to zone out 🙂

we've had a miele for 20 years, it still looks new and is brillant. it has a separate cutlery rack and i've had zero problems getting things in and out the other 2 racks, unlike a pp upthread. highly recommend

DEFINITELY get one! Life changer. I got one when I had 3 little children and it was fantastic. Just to be able to put stuff in the dishwasher and not have to wash up 15 times a day!!

I loved my first dishwasher so much I used to pat it and speak loving words to it every time I went past …..

Absolutely essential in my eyes. Paid £50 for a second hand one as a “stop gap” after moving house and still going strong. It’s a Siemens.

Invariably, one of you will develop the perfect system for loading the dishwasher that no-one else in the household will understand, let alone comply despite it being so so simple. Whoever has this system will just need to just take a deep internal breath and let the frustration go, knowing that you are just a superior being.

@NMoy22 if you're using a normal internet page on your phone rather than the app, scroll to the top of the page and click on Talk. This will bring up a list of different topics headings. If you click on Health you'll see there's a cancer topic. Click on it and at the bottom of your screen you should see the option to start a new thread. Hope this helps.

I refuse to live without a dishwasher and I am a family of one.

@NMoy22, if you are using the app on your phone, you need to go to the bottom right corner where it says ‘new’ , to make a new thread.