My daughter wants to go abroad without me

You are completely unreasonable to deny her such an opportunity because of you re anxieties.
she s finished school, so might be going ti uni. Are you going to stop her as well because of her safety?

she is going with an adult cousin who is also going with a child. O dont imagine they ll he dancing on tables sniffing coke.

i cannot bare parents who do not let their children practice using their own wings in a safe environment.
i think you are jealous of her opportunity and are using her safety as an excuse.

You are being overly protective. There is nothing she can do in Benidorm with her older cousin and a baby that she couldn't do in the UK. Let her go.

@Zanatdy the 23yo maybe with 16yo babysitting

What’s wrong with people on this forum? It’s pretty clear i’m talking about children travelling without parents. This kid won’t be clubbing with a 2yr old in tow.

Ah, Bangladesh, the famous clubbing hotspot

So the 16 year old can babysit while she goes out on the razz?

Has DD been used as a babysitter by the cousin before?

Loads of parents will dump their kids on holidays. That's why there's kids clubs and stuff, isn't there?

It's not like we're being unrealistic suggesting that the cousin might use DD as a babysitter.

I’d want to know why the choice of Benidorm? If they had chosen a family orientated resort in say Menorca I would probably feel differently. But the choice of Benidorm is probably making many people feel that 23yo is possibly seeing her as a babysitter. Of course, it could just be a cheap deal

Not everyone can afford to take kids abroad.

It's an expensive game.

At 16 I had my own home & 2 young children. Not saying this was ideal or what any parent would want for their daughter but she is 16, why would you even think of ‘not letting her’. Help boost her confidence to travel, be independent & see the world if that’s what she wants, it’s Benidorm, it’s more English than England 🤣

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How responsible is the adult? OP clearly does NOT trust her.

Of course she wants to fuck off at 10:30pm and return at 8am.

Those are prime vampire hours... how else do you think she's made it to the grand age of 243yo?

Why can't you go?
I'd be nervous about it tbh. All the people telling you to let her go would be falling over themselves to tell you how irresponsible it was if something goes wrong.

It’s fine. My DD flew alone to Bangladesh at 14. She will be with an adult and young child. Let her go.

I think it really depends on the teenager involved. My son at a bit older went around Asia with a mate and had a great time - had some ski lessons somewhere in the mix. He was the sensible sort in terms of personal safety though and his mate was well travelled.

How sensible and easily led is your daughter? Only you can answer that. What about the cousin - is she the sort to be looking forward to a holiday in the sun or is your daughter to do the babysitting while she goes out clubbing?

It’s a bit odd. How will they go out? The cousin won’t be able to go out properly in the evening due to toddler. So would 16 year old go out alone?

It's not compulsory.

OP‘s DD needs to have an honest conversation with her cousin. How many hours a day will she expect her to babysit? Will she have a day off? Will the cousin pay for OP‘s DD to visit attractions with them?

let’s say OP‘s cousin simply wants to have a lie-in most days and expects OP to take the toddler to breakfast and entertain the LO until about 10. I would think that entirely reasonable.

OP‘s DD would still have the rest of the day to enjoy being on holiday and her cousin would get lie-ins.

But these are things that OP‘s DD and her cousin need to talk about in advance. The cousin needs to clearly outline what she expects and OP‘s DD needs to clearly communicate what she‘s willing to provide.

and there a worse things than fantastic contraceptive! I remember looking after two toddlers for an entire weekend as a very young adult. A very effective contraceptive!😂

I'd be happy to let a
16 year old go abroad with a young relative like that, but not to Benidorm! (Or similar place.)

16 and 23yo alone is have shared your concerns.

16/23 and 2yo. I’d let her go.

The 23yo is an adult and also a mum. It won’t be a mad clubbing holiday.

If my daughter hadn't been abroad before I'd not want her first experience to be with a random cousin and her toddler. It's not going to be a relaxing fun break for a teenager with a two year old in tow, though it may prove to be a fantastic contraceptive.

I’m a completely lone parent and when my DC was young until she was 4 ish my teenager neighbour used to come over Saturday and help me. She would play with my DD whilst I got some jobs done but many times we would go and do something together like shopping and it was so nice for me to have another pair of hands to help whilst I was trying on something.
My young DC loved my young neighbour and it was a great situation and I enjoyed her company too.
If we’d been related, I can imagine extending it to a holiday. It’s not like you’re going g to leave them in sole charge, it’s just lovely having someone else there when you’re on your own.
If the 23 yo is someone you or your ex trust then I think knit would be a good opportunity for your DD. My DD went abroad many times without me growing up - it depends if you trust the person theyre going with x

I agree the comment is unnecessary but I do think that if your child hasn’t been abroad and is being given the opportunity then you should be supporting it rather than refusing