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Does this reply sound OTT? Dating

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Wellisayohyeah · 09/06/2025 20:26

Someone I'm dating, he messaged me about 7:30pm last night, and I didn't reply until 9am today, I got in late last night and just fell straight asleep.
We normally text every few hours, we send about 2 or 3 texts a day.

Anyway I messaged saying 'sorry for replying late, I just fell asleep last night' he replied saying 'aw it's ok, just as long as you're alright 🥰'.

Does that sound a bit OTT from him or is it just me overthinking it?

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Walkingwalkingwalking · 09/06/2025 21:22

I don’t see how PP could think of that comment as negative. He is showing care while not prying and he is not demanding anything.

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 21:22

DiamondThrone · 09/06/2025 21:19

DUMP HIM!!! LTB!!!! CONTROLLING BEHAVIOUR!!!!

Really?!

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Biscuit12 · 09/06/2025 21:22

SalmonDreams · 09/06/2025 21:16

It sounds a bit like he's trying to say that he was worried about your well being because he didn't hear from you. It would put me off because I wouldn't want to be guilt tripped into having to reply to someone immediately so they don't worry.

Poor bugger can’t win

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 21:21

SalmonDreams · 09/06/2025 21:16

It sounds a bit like he's trying to say that he was worried about your well being because he didn't hear from you. It would put me off because I wouldn't want to be guilt tripped into having to reply to someone immediately so they don't worry.

🙄

DiamondThrone · 09/06/2025 21:19

SalmonDreams · 09/06/2025 21:16

It sounds a bit like he's trying to say that he was worried about your well being because he didn't hear from you. It would put me off because I wouldn't want to be guilt tripped into having to reply to someone immediately so they don't worry.

DUMP HIM!!! LTB!!!! CONTROLLING BEHAVIOUR!!!!

Really?!

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Wellisayohyeah · 09/06/2025 21:18

SalmonDreams · 09/06/2025 21:16

It sounds a bit like he's trying to say that he was worried about your well being because he didn't hear from you. It would put me off because I wouldn't want to be guilt tripped into having to reply to someone immediately so they don't worry.

The tone of messages had been absolutely fine since.
I do often take several hours to reply as does he, I think it's just as I never took this long before.

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SalmonDreams · 09/06/2025 21:16

It sounds a bit like he's trying to say that he was worried about your well being because he didn't hear from you. It would put me off because I wouldn't want to be guilt tripped into having to reply to someone immediately so they don't worry.

DiamondThrone · 09/06/2025 21:14

Seems nice?

WTF is with the "passive aggressive" PP, honestly😆

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Wellisayohyeah · 09/06/2025 21:10

I think it's because I hadn't taken that long before, so it was a 'hope all is ok' I'm guessing?

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 09/06/2025 21:09

RachelGreep87 · 09/06/2025 21:03

Yes, OTT.
The implication is that it is only appropriate to not instantly reply to his messages if you're not "alright", i.e you better have a good excuse for leaving him on read.

Bollocks

Pollqueen · 09/06/2025 21:07

RachelGreep87 · 09/06/2025 21:03

Yes, OTT.
The implication is that it is only appropriate to not instantly reply to his messages if you're not "alright", i.e you better have a good excuse for leaving him on read.

Another one. Just wow

Pollqueen · 09/06/2025 21:05

chatgptsbestmate · 09/06/2025 20:48

he replied saying 'aw it's ok, just as long as you're alright

I'd take that as a passive aggressive dig. Until I knew better.

Wow

RachelGreep87 · 09/06/2025 21:03

Yes, OTT.
The implication is that it is only appropriate to not instantly reply to his messages if you're not "alright", i.e you better have a good excuse for leaving him on read.

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 20:50

chatgptsbestmate · 09/06/2025 20:48

he replied saying 'aw it's ok, just as long as you're alright

I'd take that as a passive aggressive dig. Until I knew better.

WTF

chatgptsbestmate · 09/06/2025 20:48

he replied saying 'aw it's ok, just as long as you're alright

I'd take that as a passive aggressive dig. Until I knew better.

arcticpandas · 09/06/2025 20:38

Wellisayohyeah · 09/06/2025 20:31

Thanks, I'll try to not think about it anymore.

Yes. I thought it was a really sweet reply and I'm a cynic so I don't know what that makes you 😅. Maybe you have some bad experiences so you're seeing 🚩where there are none.

pinkyredrose · 09/06/2025 20:34

What on earth is OTT about that?

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 09/06/2025 20:32

What were you thinking?

leopardprint17 · 09/06/2025 20:32

What was he meant to have said?

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Wellisayohyeah · 09/06/2025 20:31

Thanks, I'll try to not think about it anymore.

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Lonelydave · 09/06/2025 20:30

That sounds perfectly normal to me - sent a text, didn't get a reply, waited until you did reply and then said, thanks, glad you are ok - sounds perfectly normal.
Would you rather you woke up to 100 messages from him saying he is worried?

Dangermoo · 09/06/2025 20:29

Wellisayohyeah · 09/06/2025 20:29

I don't know..just thinking too much.

Sounds like a rare good one.

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Wellisayohyeah · 09/06/2025 20:29

I don't know..just thinking too much.

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Branleuse · 09/06/2025 20:29

I don't understand what you think is OTT?
What would the right response have been for you?

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