WIBU to complain about this teacher?

I would contact school saying DS is struggling because he gets the impression his teacher doesn’t like him and we feel this is hindering his progress. As parents we have tried to encourage him and explain the teachers decisions, but he more we look at it the harder it is getting to defend as he seems correct in his feelings. They give the examples, I would put less focus on the nativity because that’s easy to brush off by saying he was nervous so we reduced his part in rehearsal.

yes, agree. I think it could also even explain the other stuff like the reading assessments, unfortunately it's a known phenomenon that people equate physical disabilities/difference with mental deficiencies.

What a text means is that you have e something tangible to show the head

rather than just my DS noticed and someone told me…

I would add that I used to teach children with disabilities, some of whom had visible differences, and it seems that some people have an irrational dislike of people with who look different, almost like a phobia. They react in an angry way, maybe because they know their response is unacceptable but they can't control it? Regardless, it is no excuse and someone who can't treat people fairly shouldn't be a teacher.

Ignore that poster, they are on here to bully and upset. Anyone who ever went to school knows there are good, average and absolutely shit teachers. Not unlike in other jobs.

You're better off ignoring people like Nosetotoe OP. Answering back doesn't do anything.

I used to be a primary teacher and I admit there were a couple of children I really didn't like. I was very careful not to show it though and no one seemed to notice.

It sounds like there's two things going on here - the teacher doesn't like your DS and she doesn't like that you're noticing. Some people double down on behaviour when they know they're caught.

Unfortunately I don't think there's much you can do at the moment. I'd wait it out, see what happens with his next teacher and move him if things don't improve.

Because you have drip fed info

you didn’t mention that you had a text from a school trip helper actually telling you explicitly what she heard until a few mins ago!

As for reading- you know he's above where he should be. They do throw "comprehension" excuse around as you as a parent can do nothing to disprove it as you aren't in their reading assessments (although this lazy excuse for a teacher probably doesn't do assessments either).

As for the phonics test, you are correct, she's someone who'd definitely help a child she dislikes fail (may be by just rushing him or indeed marking down if no witnesses) but there is usually a different member of staff doing it.

She's absolutely horrible but not unusual- thank God foe all those statutory assessments we whine about - a protective factor against a slacker teacher like that.some would do no work quite happily but the statutory assessments they are at least somewhat judged on protect against freaks like that.

I feel very sorry for you and your DS given what you have said. But not all primary teachers are really capable of understanding every issue concerning every child in their class of (typically) 30 pupils. It sounds as though she is one of them. Instead of raising a complaint so near the end of the school year you would do better to help and encourage your DS at home and look forward to a new class teacher next year.
My DC did not do well in the KS1 SATs (does anyone else even remember those?). DC is now in a professional job that is very competitive to get into. Please do not expend too much energy worrying about things happening at age 5.

I have to disagree with some here - I absolutely think you need to advocate for your child here and go and see the headteacher. It might be wise to start with what others have said, and lots of positives that you appreciate about the school, then raise your issues about the current teacher and your anxiety about him getting an undeserved reputation going forward.

I agree with some, that these things do happen but the teacher does need to learn how to be more professional in her approach and not let her personal feelings show, and absolutely, the zoo issue is not ok. I think the incidences could be viewed as petty taken separately, but actually, these little things have added up to a litany of problems. So I would encourage you to raise it.

It sounds like she's got it in for him. Sadly some people go into teaching so they specifically can exercise power and control over small children, have an outlet for their controlling character and mistreat and mess with children's learning. It does attract some oddballs. There are also plenty of teachers without malice who are just not good or competent. And for many it's the only job they could get and last resort but they don't like kids or only like the compliant needy teacher pleasing affectionate ones (not recognising that such needless and affection comes from abuse and neglect at home and not because they are an amazing teacher).
Clearly there is a pattern of unacceptable behavior towards your child and a lack of professionalism.
Some p posters who are mocking you clearly aren't posting in good faith .
There is usually some on each thread.

You have gone back to the Gp
and? A new referral?

and That was only a couple of weeks ago.

so you’ve been sitting on this definitive evidence for a couple of weeks and done squat all?

what part of the teacher specifically mocking a 5 year old child's disability to other children on a school trip is "all about measuring, assessing, valuing, grading what they can do"?

Teachers are like anyone else, there are a small number who are just nasty people. Our son had an awful experience in his first term of reception, I was constantly brushed off, his teacher refusing to use his radio was explained away, as was not letting him do PE or take part in mini sports day. It was only resolved when his class teacher replied to an email I had sent, she accidentally replied to me and the class TA rather than just the TA. In the email she said awful things about him, mocked his disability and used extremely offensive language regarding a disability he doesn’t actually have, an offensive word used to describe someone who has cerebral palsy. The other teacher (job share) was brilliant, she genuinely couldn’t have been better.

Op?

You have explicit evidence. Have you shown the school?

have you been back to the GP following the nurse’s action?

Having thought about it, it seems to me that the teacher hid your son behind tall children at the nativity because of his facial difference. She clearly has an issue with it and is unable to act professionally, given the comments at the zoo. It's horrible.

Referral forms to OT are often 3-4 pages long and takes ages to complete - they get so many referrals that they ask for a lot of detail to be able to establish which are and are not valid. They don't get prioritised based on who has referred, but by concerns raised, but being so long, the GP probably hasn't got time to complete so wants school nurse to do it.
Some areas take parent referrals- ours does, with a different but equally lengthy form.

I'm finding this thread quite surreal.
Assuming we all want the best for this child, it's all been about measuring, assessing, valuing, grading, comparing what they can allegedly do.
And disgruntlement about how they have been graded and called and measured and assessed. And because of this, complaints and disagreements and interpretations of teachers being motivated by dislike. It's surreal.
When I was parenting I just concerned myself with doing all I could at home to support my child's learning and packing them off to school to let the school do the same.
I find it surreal that any parent puts a pause to this process to complain when they could be ignoring assessments and outcomes and just focus on doing as much as they can to contribute to their child's learning.
Surreal.