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NHS refusing treatment to child who attends private school.

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floralcarpets · 09/06/2025 15:21

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/london/boy-denied-treatment-nhs-hospital-private-school-kingston-richmond-b1231805.html

AIBU to think this is disgraceful? The mum is likely paying loads of tax which goes towards the NHS and pays for state schools, yet her child is this treatment which they sound like they desperately need.

Outrage as boy, 8, refused NHS treatment 'for going to private school'

Mother blames Labour's VAT raid on private school fees for emboldening the NHS to deny her son help with his crippling joint condition

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/london/boy-denied-treatment-nhs-hospital-private-school-kingston-richmond-b1231805.html

OP posts:
Jasp3ru · 09/06/2025 15:56

My DD’s dyspraxia OT was done at the hospital not in school. I’m sure if he goes to the GP he can get a referral but there will be a long wait. I’m sure private like private education is an option if they don’t want to suck up the realities of the state system.

cardibach · 09/06/2025 15:55

ypu Can’t get a cigarette paper between The Times and the Mail these days. It’s all very clear in the article linked in the OP.

andsweetwhitewine · 09/06/2025 15:53

The Times had this story this morning and there was no mention of it being a commissioned service in the reply from the NHS. So not DM only winding it up.

MidnightPatrol · 09/06/2025 15:53

Must be some random administrative error. About a quarter of all pupils in the borough referred to are privately educated, so this is hardly going to be an unusual situation for the local NHS to face!

Vikingess · 09/06/2025 15:52

There is really no point in responding to someone who reads and believes in crap like this from the Daily Mail.

LovelessRutting · 09/06/2025 15:51

It’s obvious there’s nuance and it’s not as straightforward as the article makes is seem BUT that doesn’t mean it’s not consequential and unfair for the family involved. I think some posters are happy to hand wave it away as “commissioning or a technicality” because it doesn’t affect them. Plenty of families feel they have to fund private education only because the state system couldn’t accommodate their children’s needs. So this will seem doubly unfair.

MidnightPatrol · 09/06/2025 15:50

pikkumyy77 · 09/06/2025 15:47

Obviously the state schools which have to take everyone, also offer a higher degree of access to specialized care for the children in their care. You chose to move your child to a private school in order to not have to share limited resources with other children. Of course you have to pay for that.

As for the family in the story: they willingly found the money for special educational advantages why don’t they go private for health care as well?

Why would using private education mean the parents would want (or have the means) to fund private healthcare?

cardibach · 09/06/2025 15:48

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 09/06/2025 15:43

Absolute rubbish! I work in private and we have NHS OT’s come to visit kids on a regular basis.

Kids on EHCPs, as the article clearly states.

cardibach · 09/06/2025 15:47

Findra · 09/06/2025 15:36

Of course it’s not a non-story! This sort of thing really enrages me. I send one of my kids to private school as the state schools were totally unable to prevent this child getting beaten up by a classmate. They had to call me while I was at work on more than one occasion to pick my child up from school as the violent child had had a bad day and the school were concerned about the beating my child was likely to get on the way home. They fully suggested if we have the funds we send our child to private school as they could not discipline this child or permanently exclude them. So we did. We didn’t really want to but we had no choice as we were sick trying to get the local authority to see sense. We are far from the only parents in our child’s state school to be privately educating for these reasons. Children are getting seriously harmed up and down the land in classrooms.

For taking our child out of state schools we have to pay VAT, and now for our child’s healthcare? This is insane. The financial cost for us of having a child who is the victim of a bully is vast.

No. If there’s an EHCP in place you won’t have to pay for help. For those not on one, there’s a (very small) provision of help via state schools.

pikkumyy77 · 09/06/2025 15:47

Findra · 09/06/2025 15:36

Of course it’s not a non-story! This sort of thing really enrages me. I send one of my kids to private school as the state schools were totally unable to prevent this child getting beaten up by a classmate. They had to call me while I was at work on more than one occasion to pick my child up from school as the violent child had had a bad day and the school were concerned about the beating my child was likely to get on the way home. They fully suggested if we have the funds we send our child to private school as they could not discipline this child or permanently exclude them. So we did. We didn’t really want to but we had no choice as we were sick trying to get the local authority to see sense. We are far from the only parents in our child’s state school to be privately educating for these reasons. Children are getting seriously harmed up and down the land in classrooms.

For taking our child out of state schools we have to pay VAT, and now for our child’s healthcare? This is insane. The financial cost for us of having a child who is the victim of a bully is vast.

Obviously the state schools which have to take everyone, also offer a higher degree of access to specialized care for the children in their care. You chose to move your child to a private school in order to not have to share limited resources with other children. Of course you have to pay for that.

As for the family in the story: they willingly found the money for special educational advantages why don’t they go private for health care as well?

delightfuldweeb · 09/06/2025 15:44

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 09/06/2025 15:43

Absolute rubbish! I work in private and we have NHS OT’s come to visit kids on a regular basis.

Different areas will have services commissioned in different ways.

DuncinToffee · 09/06/2025 15:44

A Bsky thread looking into the claims

https://bsky.app/profile/monkemma.bsky.social/post/3lr3ukywync2r

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So, what’s going on here?
Let’s take a look!👀

Emma Monk (@monkemma.bsky.social)

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https://bsky.app/profile/monkemma.bsky.social/post/3lr3ukywync2r

delightfuldweeb · 09/06/2025 15:43

Findra · 09/06/2025 15:39

If my child needed SALT how would they access it without me paying though?

It would be the same. Does your child have an EHCP that states SLT is needed? If not, does your current school have SLT services commissioned? If not, are the local SLT team paid to provide services to the school? If not, then yes you’d have to pay.

Blimeyblighty · 09/06/2025 15:43

Findra · 09/06/2025 15:40

Does this make it right?

It makes the political slant placed on it inaccurate.

If private schools in an area wanted to band together and commission the local authority school nurses to visit their pupils, they could do that.

DiscoBob · 09/06/2025 15:43

Surely the school should provide it if it relates to OT within that school environment?

The state schools get it through a scheme funded by the NHS but Indi don't because they're meant to supply it as part of their own school fee/offering.

If you were to say the kid was home schooled, would it be offered to them then? Just out of interest.

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 09/06/2025 15:43

minnienono · 09/06/2025 15:25

The occupational therapists visit state schools, nothing wrong with that, it’s part of the services state schools provide. If you choose a private school then you can’t access the school service because it’s private.

Absolute rubbish! I work in private and we have NHS OT’s come to visit kids on a regular basis.

ginasevern · 09/06/2025 15:40

This is total spin to suit an agenda. I doubt most Daily Fail readers will get past the sensationalist headline, they usually don't.

delightfuldweeb · 09/06/2025 15:40

Findra · 09/06/2025 15:36

Of course it’s not a non-story! This sort of thing really enrages me. I send one of my kids to private school as the state schools were totally unable to prevent this child getting beaten up by a classmate. They had to call me while I was at work on more than one occasion to pick my child up from school as the violent child had had a bad day and the school were concerned about the beating my child was likely to get on the way home. They fully suggested if we have the funds we send our child to private school as they could not discipline this child or permanently exclude them. So we did. We didn’t really want to but we had no choice as we were sick trying to get the local authority to see sense. We are far from the only parents in our child’s state school to be privately educating for these reasons. Children are getting seriously harmed up and down the land in classrooms.

For taking our child out of state schools we have to pay VAT, and now for our child’s healthcare? This is insane. The financial cost for us of having a child who is the victim of a bully is vast.

You don’t have to pay for your child’s healthcare. But there are NHS services that are commissioned by the local education authority. This will cover state schools. If private schools wish to access the service too then they themselves will have to commission it.

it’s a similar situation for older people and OT equipment in some areas. If they are in their own home, equipment is provided through NHS / social services. If they are in residential care, the home has to fund it.

Findra · 09/06/2025 15:40

Blimeyblighty · 09/06/2025 15:39

Bet this pre dates the Labour government. I worked in school nursing under the Conservative government, the school nurses didn’t take referrals from the private schools either because they aren’t commissioned to do so.

Does this make it right?

Blimeyblighty · 09/06/2025 15:39

Bet this pre dates the Labour government. I worked in school nursing under the Conservative government, the school nurses didn’t take referrals from the private schools either because they aren’t commissioned to do so.

Findra · 09/06/2025 15:39

Hoppinggreen · 09/06/2025 15:38

@Findra
That sounds like an awful experience and my DC were/are at Private schools BUT if you read the article carefully you will see that (unlike VAT) this is not actually another attack of Parents like us.
Its a non event and designed for maximum frothing

If my child needed SALT how would they access it without me paying though?

Hoppinggreen · 09/06/2025 15:38

@Findra
That sounds like an awful experience and my DC were/are at Private schools BUT if you read the article carefully you will see that (unlike VAT) this is not actually another attack of Parents like us.
Its a non event and designed for maximum frothing

HatesHorsesLovesShein · 09/06/2025 15:38

She could take him out of his prep school, wait long time that it takes to get a ECHP, then get it for free. That’s the process for everyone.

GreenClock · 09/06/2025 15:38

Complete nonsense as others have said.

Findra · 09/06/2025 15:37

State schools need to be able to provide basic safeguarding before financially penalising those forced to opt out. I don’t think that’s too much to ask.

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