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NHS refusing treatment to child who attends private school.

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floralcarpets · 09/06/2025 15:21

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/london/boy-denied-treatment-nhs-hospital-private-school-kingston-richmond-b1231805.html

AIBU to think this is disgraceful? The mum is likely paying loads of tax which goes towards the NHS and pays for state schools, yet her child is this treatment which they sound like they desperately need.

Outrage as boy, 8, refused NHS treatment 'for going to private school'

Mother blames Labour's VAT raid on private school fees for emboldening the NHS to deny her son help with his crippling joint condition

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/london/boy-denied-treatment-nhs-hospital-private-school-kingston-richmond-b1231805.html

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Keepgoing2022 · 09/06/2025 17:21

I live locally and that’s how it’s done here. In the report it is about his ability to write etc due to joints. My daughter has regular OT
and from 5 years old it has always been done at school. She moves to private school in September and will no longer receive local authority based OT at school and her new school will have to provide it with in the fees or charge in our case the local authority.

godmum56 · 09/06/2025 17:21

Jasp3ru · 09/06/2025 17:15

It is

yes but not in a private school unless the private school funds it.

Sendcrisis2025 · 09/06/2025 17:20

It is to do with commissioning and how services are commissioned.

Speech and language therapy is another very common service only commissioned for children attending state mainstreams.

Keepgoing2022 · 09/06/2025 17:18

godmum56 · 09/06/2025 17:01

I don't know the full story but I suspect that the issue is that the therapists involved will see the child in a clinic or visit them at home to advise on seating, activity, use of tools, cutlery, writing and so on..There may even be funding for seating/walking aid provision etc for personal equipment for the child to use at home. What the NHS Therapists won't do is visit the school to assess and advise the school on seating and so on, and they certainly won't fund equipment for the school although equipment funded for the child to use at home can be taken to school and used there. I think its not about school gatekeeping as such. The situation is similar in private residential care. NHS Staff go into residential care round here to treay and also advise on an individual person's needs and can provide equipment solely for the use of their patient...so if the patient needs a toilet aid and has an en suite, equipment can be provided if the budget allows. If the toilet facility is shared with other people then its up to the residential care to fund and fit the equipment.

Edited

There is 2 different it services when it comes to children
one who will deal with things Iike home equipment / adaptions etc which is actually mainly through social services and then children have one who will see them at school past the age of 5. Before 5 st the developmental centre which assess things that fine motor skills / gross motor skills etc

Keepgoing2022 · 09/06/2025 17:16

My daughter went to a state school and OT was school service now she is moving to private schools it wil be apart of her private school service. She can apply via the local authority for a ehcp to get offyiostional therapy provided even at private school but this story isn’t as simple as it’s made out.

Jasp3ru · 09/06/2025 17:15

Dwimmer · 09/06/2025 17:13

OT is a health service so if a child requires OT is should be provided regardless of schooling.

It is

Dwimmer · 09/06/2025 17:13

OT is a health service so if a child requires OT is should be provided regardless of schooling.

godmum56 · 09/06/2025 17:07

Findra · 09/06/2025 17:00

What do you suggest people do when their child is getting beaten up every day and starting to self harm. The local authority give a twee smile and say ‘inclusion’. The school roll their eyes and say nothing can be done. The police charge the bully with assault week in week out and nothing ever happens as there are no consequences for their actions. What would you do?

There are people whose kids have crippling anxiety due to having to witness classmates throwing chairs and other objects around, shouting and sweating at teachers, and they cry continually in school. What would you do in this situation?

There are people whose dyslexic children are being ignored as the school doesn’t have the time or funds to help them. What would you do?

The options for so many people are home educating or private schooling. I get frustrated by the attitude that private school parents deserve to be deprived of further public services.

They aren't. Its simply that private schools don't have access to publicly funded facilities. The child can be seen at home or in an NHS facility, just not on private school premises.

Jasp3ru · 09/06/2025 17:07

Findra · 09/06/2025 17:00

What do you suggest people do when their child is getting beaten up every day and starting to self harm. The local authority give a twee smile and say ‘inclusion’. The school roll their eyes and say nothing can be done. The police charge the bully with assault week in week out and nothing ever happens as there are no consequences for their actions. What would you do?

There are people whose kids have crippling anxiety due to having to witness classmates throwing chairs and other objects around, shouting and sweating at teachers, and they cry continually in school. What would you do in this situation?

There are people whose dyslexic children are being ignored as the school doesn’t have the time or funds to help them. What would you do?

The options for so many people are home educating or private schooling. I get frustrated by the attitude that private school parents deserve to be deprived of further public services.

They’re not, you go to your GP

godmum56 · 09/06/2025 17:01

Namechangeagain8464 · 09/06/2025 16:55

I think the issue here is that so much is now being considered a school's responsibility.... OT, S&L, mental health... Why is the NHS off-loading it onto schools?

The parent says that the child has hypermobility, causing joint pain... Surely that is a health issue and should be treated as such. Why does that need to go through schools?

Why do schools gate-keep so much nowadays? They are not the experts. I'm even talking about ND conditions; in many areas, you can't get a referral for an assessment, unless it goes through the school. My DC was originally refused a full ADHD assessment due to lack of evidence from the school. Yet she had a screening with an ADHD clinical specialist, who concluded she had a high likelihood of receiving a diagnosis. School did not see many ASD traits - all three HCPs she saw recognised them and she has a diagnosis.

I completely understand that schools can't see everything, but that is why it is crazy that they have so much involvement and gate-keep in the way they do.

I don't know the full story but I suspect that the issue is that the therapists involved will see the child in a clinic or visit them at home to advise on seating, activity, use of tools, cutlery, writing and so on..There may even be funding for seating/walking aid provision etc for personal equipment for the child to use at home. What the NHS Therapists won't do is visit the school to assess and advise the school on seating and so on, and they certainly won't fund equipment for the school although equipment funded for the child to use at home can be taken to school and used there. I think its not about school gatekeeping as such. The situation is similar in private residential care. NHS Staff go into residential care round here to treay and also advise on an individual person's needs and can provide equipment solely for the use of their patient...so if the patient needs a toilet aid and has an en suite, equipment can be provided if the budget allows. If the toilet facility is shared with other people then its up to the residential care to fund and fit the equipment.

Findra · 09/06/2025 17:00

x2boys · 09/06/2025 16:51

Nobody is " forced " to opt out mist people don't have the privilege of being able yo choose.

What do you suggest people do when their child is getting beaten up every day and starting to self harm. The local authority give a twee smile and say ‘inclusion’. The school roll their eyes and say nothing can be done. The police charge the bully with assault week in week out and nothing ever happens as there are no consequences for their actions. What would you do?

There are people whose kids have crippling anxiety due to having to witness classmates throwing chairs and other objects around, shouting and sweating at teachers, and they cry continually in school. What would you do in this situation?

There are people whose dyslexic children are being ignored as the school doesn’t have the time or funds to help them. What would you do?

The options for so many people are home educating or private schooling. I get frustrated by the attitude that private school parents deserve to be deprived of further public services.

Morningsleepin · 09/06/2025 16:59

I'm a firm believer in the wealthy being taxed to the hilt and then being entitled to all the public services.

Another76543 · 09/06/2025 16:57

delightfuldweeb · 09/06/2025 16:52

I’m not sure it’s all that different. As the article says, it would be expected that the school would sort out a private arrangement. The service is commissioned by the LEA for state educated pupils. The LEA is not responsible for privately educated pupils, hence they have to pay.

No half decent human being can possibly argue that it’s ok for the taxpayer to fund education for some hospitalised children but not others. Private schools budgets are extremely tight and will probably not stretch to paying over £100 per hour per child for potentially a long period of time. Parents of sick, hospitalised, children are already often under severe financial pressure and probably can’t afford it. No civilised society should be refusing to help sick children and families. Let’s forget about the technicalities of the how the funding works; it’s a question of human decency.

Namechangeagain8464 · 09/06/2025 16:57

maddening · 09/06/2025 16:32

It shouldn't be accessed via any school, it should he a service that dc access via their GP imo.

I agree!

JustHereForthePIP · 09/06/2025 16:55

The other point that no one is making is that just because a service is available in mainstream state schools doesn't mean your child will actually be able to access it. The SEN budgets in schools are hugely over stretched. They might commission 10 hours of OT time a year for a school with a thousand pupils. Most children with SEN, even with an EHCP, will end up having to access private services because there just isn't enough provision to go around.

I have 3 children with disabilities, and even the one with an EHCP doesn't get all the service provision they needs in school. The other two get next to nothing.

Namechangeagain8464 · 09/06/2025 16:55

I think the issue here is that so much is now being considered a school's responsibility.... OT, S&L, mental health... Why is the NHS off-loading it onto schools?

The parent says that the child has hypermobility, causing joint pain... Surely that is a health issue and should be treated as such. Why does that need to go through schools?

Why do schools gate-keep so much nowadays? They are not the experts. I'm even talking about ND conditions; in many areas, you can't get a referral for an assessment, unless it goes through the school. My DC was originally refused a full ADHD assessment due to lack of evidence from the school. Yet she had a screening with an ADHD clinical specialist, who concluded she had a high likelihood of receiving a diagnosis. School did not see many ASD traits - all three HCPs she saw recognised them and she has a diagnosis.

I completely understand that schools can't see everything, but that is why it is crazy that they have so much involvement and gate-keep in the way they do.

Genevieva · 09/06/2025 16:53

godmum56 · 09/06/2025 16:16

Retired community Occupational Therapist here and yes it is nuanced. NHS therapists can and do supply services to children in who are in private education provided the service is provided in the home or in clinics or in patient services. What they can't do is go into private schools to provide services there, although they can usually liaise with therapy services provided by the school (share reports and treatment plans and so on) with the permission of their funding authority, the school and the parents, And yes a home schooled child could get a service in the home as I have already said. Its not anything that this or the previous government have done or changed, its been like it everywhere I have worked since the mid 70's although when money was freer there may have been some allowance made by some NHS or social services fundholders. And yes I like to kick a politician as much as anybody.

These days they go into private schools that take state funded SEN children.

delightfuldweeb · 09/06/2025 16:52

Another76543 · 09/06/2025 16:46

https://www.tes.com/magazine/news/general/sick-private-school-pupils-denied-access-education

It’s not dissimilar to this situation. How anyone can defend the refusal of LEAs to provide health care and education to ill children (regardless of the technicalities of how the funding works) is beyond me.

I’m not sure it’s all that different. As the article says, it would be expected that the school would sort out a private arrangement. The service is commissioned by the LEA for state educated pupils. The LEA is not responsible for privately educated pupils, hence they have to pay.

UniqueRedSquid · 09/06/2025 16:52

YABU for not bothering to try to understand the issue before posting rage bait.

x2boys · 09/06/2025 16:51

Findra · 09/06/2025 15:37

State schools need to be able to provide basic safeguarding before financially penalising those forced to opt out. I don’t think that’s too much to ask.

Nobody is " forced " to opt out mist people don't have the privilege of being able yo choose.

Genevieva · 09/06/2025 16:50

This isn’t new. Arguably the disparity has grown because in-school medical provision of this diet has increased. Children at private schools with an EHCP such that the council pays the fees will get this service free of charge. The many children in the private sector whose parents felt abandoned by the state and jumped ship before getting an EHCP, or those lawyers didn’t manage to get the school stipulated on the EHCP will be self-finding their fees and will, correspondingly, not be eligible for state funded occupational therapy.

godmum56 · 09/06/2025 16:48

Findra · 09/06/2025 16:47

Paid For by the Local Authority or anyone else, it’s still a non-education public service that the local authority is only providing to those that go to state schools. Now if private school pupils can still access this service from the GP that’s fine, but if the state is providing no free access to this healthcare service to those at private school then can we agree that that is wrong?

There are so many pupils being failed by the state system whose parents choose private as a last resort. We are penalised by the state system letting us down by having to pay for the alternative schooling, and the BVAT on that alternative schooling. We shouldn’t have to pay for certain healthcare services too.

You don't have to pay for the service if it is provided in NHS premises or in the child's home.

Findra · 09/06/2025 16:47

PhilippaGeorgiou · 09/06/2025 16:32

You are having a rant about something that is nothing whatsoever to do with ANYTHING to do with the non-story. You are not being asked to pay for your childrens healthcare, and you surely aren't really thinking that. The local education authority has commissioned a specific service for the schools that it funds. It does not fund private schools, so they do not get that service. Private schools are welcome to use their income to commission a service.

I am sorry your child was bullied but your child is still able to access the full range of NHS provision. They are not able to access the provision paid for from the local authority, any more than children from state schools can nip up and use the facilities at your private school.

Paid For by the Local Authority or anyone else, it’s still a non-education public service that the local authority is only providing to those that go to state schools. Now if private school pupils can still access this service from the GP that’s fine, but if the state is providing no free access to this healthcare service to those at private school then can we agree that that is wrong?

There are so many pupils being failed by the state system whose parents choose private as a last resort. We are penalised by the state system letting us down by having to pay for the alternative schooling, and the BVAT on that alternative schooling. We shouldn’t have to pay for certain healthcare services too.

delightfuldweeb · 09/06/2025 16:36

PhilippaGeorgiou · 09/06/2025 16:32

You are having a rant about something that is nothing whatsoever to do with ANYTHING to do with the non-story. You are not being asked to pay for your childrens healthcare, and you surely aren't really thinking that. The local education authority has commissioned a specific service for the schools that it funds. It does not fund private schools, so they do not get that service. Private schools are welcome to use their income to commission a service.

I am sorry your child was bullied but your child is still able to access the full range of NHS provision. They are not able to access the provision paid for from the local authority, any more than children from state schools can nip up and use the facilities at your private school.

This explains it perfectly, I think!