Abusive ex husband begging to come back back saying he doesn’t remember the past

An abusive person rarely changes they either get better at manipulating you or they get worse.

You and your children are more important here don't risk it.

Im not sure why you feel sorry for him.
He has wrecked you and your childrens life and you had to leave and live somewhere else, find a new home because of him.
What exactly has he done to prove he's a new man - I'm guessing nothing apart from pretend he doesn't remember anything.
Did he remember to eat, drink, take drugs, go to the toilet. If so he hasn'y forgotten anything.
Don't be a fool.

I think PP have said it all

Send him text & email telling him in no uncertain terms to leave you alone, then block him on all channels. Keep these as evidence so if he tries to contact you again you can report him as stalking you & seek a restraining order.

If he wants to see the DCs it's done via a court order & in a contact centre so you and the DCs are safe

I have no doubt that, since his pleading hasn't worked, he will move onto threats of suicide, threats to snatch your children.

Stay strong. 😘

Are you serious? I read your last thread. Your husband is an abusive malicious arsehole, you’ve managed to find safety and you’re considering going back? Please get some counselling and do the freedom programme as I suggested on the other thread before you ruin yours and your children’s lives. He won’t change. They don’t change. They suck you in and it all starts again.

This. And stalkers help line. Report him and get it on file from the get-go.

Oh, come on. What do you mean you "don't know what to do"?

You not only don't love the man, you go so far to say you hate him. Your children don't want him back.

Why are you even asking the question? I genuinely don't understand.

He remembers. He’s just found a neat trick which means he can continue to manipulate you without taking any responsibility for his abusive behaviour.

I don’t love him at all but I feel sorry for him I don’t know what to do

Do you think it's best for the kids that you go back?

Why do you keep posting when we pretty much all tell you the same thing over and over again?

Put your children first. Do not go back to him. He's a bad Muslim and a terrible father. Enough now.

This.

Please do not allow this cretin back into your life.

It isn't 't clear which vote is which, however I have voted YABU, because you are even contemplating whether you should give this man another chance and asking MN what you should do!

In short - NO. Do not do this. You have done the difficult bit of leaving him. Do not let him suck you back in.

You know they don't change. Therapy doesn't work either btw if he tried to throw this one at you. He is an abuser, he isn't mentally unwell he is abusive. It's his choice to behave this way. It's not a diagnosable condition it is him. He's shown you who he is and you chose to run
Keep running I'd say

Absolutely not! Think of your children! Protect them and keep moving forward!

He's very sorry but doesn’t remember what he did? Someone’s missing their free housekeeping service and regular hot meals.

Yeah jog on mate. 😡

Oh come on! Of course you block him and move on. His promises are worthless. And he can never repay you for the years you and your children have lost to his abuse.

For god's sake NO. He doesn't love you. He's just sorry for himself. Maybe he's getting some stick from his community? Change your phone number and ignore him.

He doesnt want you - he wants the services you provide. Dont for one second consider saying yes.
Consider how much happier you are now. Safer. Able to make your own choices etc. Your children are happier too. Even though your situation right now isnt fabulous (temporary accomodation, new surroundings etc) you are on the up, on your way to your new you. Keep at it and dont let him change your mind. If you say yes........... you'll be back in the urgh within weeks.

Well done for leaving him. You don't go back.

If you take this man back, you don’t deserve those children or to be a mother. And I mean that as harshly as it sounds

Block and run
you are not responsible for this tragic man
your kids deserve better and to be protected do not allow un supervised contact or better still nine at all

You do know what to do. Ignore him.

From one Muslim to another - please tell him a big, fat NO! He has failed his Islamic duties as a husband and father and doesn't deserve you or the kids. He had no right to force you or the kids to pray or cover up.

Please stay far away from him and stay safe. Don't give him your address.

Run for your life

Stand firm. Good luck.

Read through your op. What would advise your best friend or your daughter to do in this position? He does remember. And more importantly YOU REMEMBER.

Tell him for the sake of your children you are very glad that he will change as he is still their father. Tell him you will only communicate via email and if he continues to harass you via phone you will block him, and do it if he doesn’t comply.

You are free of him. Do not get sucked back in. It’s lies. If he wanted to change why didn’t he do it for you before?