I know I am BU but how do I shake it off?

He’s just told me he’s been invited to go for a run this week with his mate and his mate’s tennis pals (men and women), and they’ll probably grab some dinner and drinks after.

Are these people you would normally go running with?
Reading the thread it sounds more like you are jealous there will be men AND women there?? If you want to go just ask but equally if these aren’t people you would normally run with then I don’t think you should go just because you’re jealous. So what if he has a laugh with other people over a beer, he’s chose to have a baby with you

Its not unreasonable! People here are getting their wires crossed because they are thinking about it as running = his hobby but what is really going on us that running for you is a couples activity that you have had to sacrifice in order to bring the baby into the world. so you have lost couple time and also excitement and time out if the hiuse while he has not.

Either ask to “meet the new friends “ and join the dinner afterwards or ask to do something else together as a couple more frequently during the pregnancy.

I wouldn't blame it on 'hormones', OP. Just own the feeling, acknowledge that it's unreasonable for you to want to muscle into a social event involving strangers and to which you are not invited, because of sexual jealousy -- which is what this sounds as if it's really about. You say you miss running, but that you wouldn't feel like this if it were just your husband going for a post-run drink with his male friend. It's the presence of the 'fit women' that is bothering you.

Could you take up gentle sessions at the gym once you are over the morning sickness stage? You could do that once or twice a week and still feel connected to your body and fitness and if DH goes with you you'd still be connected in that way.

And definitely speak to him about missing doing the things you love doing - if he's grabbing a bite with friends every week he needs to be matching that with you.

You're missing out on a wetherspoons, yabu

So it’s people you’ve never met and who won’t be bringing their own partners… why would you go?

You're at home growing a baby. Literally growing a life. You're living your best life too, for this season - just maybe not the one you're used to! 💐

He hasn’t replaced her!!! Circumstances are she can’t run at the moment that’s all. You make it sound like this is is a deliberate move on his part. He just wants to go for a run and be sociable.

I don't disagree, I just don't agree that the OP going along to the group meal is the way to do that. It shifts a group dynamic, it potentially males the OP look clingy, and it sounds like the way the OP is feeling it's likely to feed into her understandable but unhelpful comparisons to other women who aren't pregnant and therefore in a different physical shape

You are being unreasonable but you know that. It would be odd for you to go and you’d appear to be quite clingy. These people just want to relax , grab a quick bite etc. Not steal your husband!

This is so off @Sloejam i was a member of a running club for years and we would often have random partners joining us after a run who were not even runners not to mind a pregnant runner who was only out because of pregnancy. Heck I’ve gone on nights out tonnes after DHs marathon runs when I’ve just be a supporter.

You are feeling a certain way about yourself that means you are not seeing that there should be no problem with you joining in post race. Be prepared to hear all about splits and pace and times and PBs and then go enjoy your evening.

No I don't, but I do think the op's dp should appreciate that her sacrifice (giving up their shared hobby) is much larger than his potential sacrifice (being asked to include her in socialising with the new friends he's replaced her with).

Edited after reading op updates

Do you think partners should be included in every group activity a person does? The OP has never been part of this group, and (from what I can gather), no other partners go. Wouldn't it be weird that one of the group turns up with their DW in tow?

I think you should tell your dp how you feel. I think he should invite you! It's rubbish enough that you're losing your hobby due to pregnancy without also being excluded from other things!

It's really quite a small thing to include you in his meal out when compared to the massive impact on you of carrying your shared child.

Sorry, I missed this when I replied to your other post

Ah ok that does change things a bit.

I agree, no point telling him then.

Perhaps call up a friend and arrange a coffee/cake or meal together instead. Or tell DH you'd like to go out on a date at the weekend.

I don't believe you're actually envious that he gets to grab food at wetherspoons...so it'll be about feeling less than enthused about being pregnant and so on which is fair enough really.

But she's never run with this group. I'm a runner but wouldn't turn up to a social event my DH was attending after a run with a group I've had nothing to do with just because I'm also a runner. That seems an odd connection to make

Ah I just saw I had missed an update from the OP. Sorry.

As she isn’t a member of the running club I don’t see why she would go.

Ok if your not part of the running club and it's only the running club members that are going without there partners then no you shouldn't go and are being unreasonable. Bit of a drip feed there

I disagree with this because (if I understand it correctly) she isn’t a partner who just doesn’t run. She cannot run due to pregnancy. Personally I think the situations are very different.

Respectfully, do you never socialise separately, and don't you have separate friends? Aren't there friends you can see that evening, rather than sit at home resenting it? I can't imagine being clung to DH's side, or feeling that left out and resentful about one social event he was attending?

You'll run again! Your life isn't over.