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Do you miss snogging males?

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Boredeoboredbored · 08/06/2025 20:40

Remember being 14/15 or so onwards and just sooo much kissing, so much fancying of different boys, feeling excited if you’d see them that night and if you’d get to go with them 😂
I don’t think I’ve kissed like that since my mid twenties maybe…40’s now.

If you are this age and date again, do you kiss like this? I really have no idea

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sprinklesandshines · 09/06/2025 03:25

I miss the excitement of fancying boys as a teenager but I didn’t kiss a lad till I was 23 and never really made out…it makes me cringe a bit

Trendyname · 09/06/2025 03:15

PomegranateVase · 09/06/2025 02:15

I miss all of that too OP.

Same here.

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 09/06/2025 02:42

@PyongyangKipperbang And they are called "Men" FYI, not "males"

Thank fuck someone said it.

Do men ever miss snogging females I wonder 🙄.

It’s men and women.

PomegranateVase · 09/06/2025 02:15

I miss all of that too OP.

Sonolanona · 09/06/2025 00:44

No. Never really liked it tbh, but I'm not very tactile ! Still happily married after 35 years tho ! Just not into kissing!

Stillkissing · 09/06/2025 00:32

Together 40+ years, still snogging in our mid 60s, few times a week.

bbarton · 09/06/2025 00:25

Boredeoboredbored · 08/06/2025 20:40

Remember being 14/15 or so onwards and just sooo much kissing, so much fancying of different boys, feeling excited if you’d see them that night and if you’d get to go with them 😂
I don’t think I’ve kissed like that since my mid twenties maybe…40’s now.

If you are this age and date again, do you kiss like this? I really have no idea

Remember kissing, or necking, for hours in a shop doorway aged 15 etc. I think it's what you're not doing that's exciting. The next, unknown phase, which is just an unclipped bra strap away, that holds so much possibility and thrill.

TimeForABreak4 · 09/06/2025 00:22

Don't miss doing it with anyone else but still happily with my DH who I've been with 25 years this year, since we were 15.

SquashedMallow · 09/06/2025 00:12

I miss the giddy intoxicating feeling of lust with your belly doing flip flops just getting a whiff of their after shave or seeing a little peek of hair above their shirt buttons and imagining the sex ! Me and DH never snog, it'd feel false and silly now! I love him but in a deep, proper way. He's my family. The love we have now is stronger and made of something more precious. I'm grateful for it.

But yes, I do miss those flutters of pure animalistic urges. They were never designed to last though. It's a trick played on us to reproduce. It's very similar to being drugged.

When you get past all that and look at humans reproductive organs, both men and women's, they're absolutely bloody gross, why on earth would you be desperate to put mouths, hands, god knows what anywhere near them 😄. My own fanny grosses me out these days ! 😁

nutbrownhare15 · 08/06/2025 23:56

Now you mention it, yes I do miss that feeling of a scratched up face from a lot of interacting with stubble 🤣 Teenage and early 20s snogging when it could go on for a long long time. Snogs like that few and far between these days and certainly not for long enough to cause a sore face - I think the urgency has gone although I do enjoy kissing DH.

Andoutcomethewolves · 08/06/2025 23:53

DH was definitely more into snogging than me (before we met he says he casually snogged at least 200 girls before he stopped keeping count).

I generally only snogged guys I wanted to actually have sex with which wasn't many.

We do still snog quite a lot but DH is asexual (no sex, just kissing and spooning) so that's all I get! 😬 I'll take it!

AgingLikeGazpacho · 08/06/2025 23:42

I miss drunken snogs on the dance floor- was my favourite way to round off a night out!

DH isn't a snogger sadly, but is very good at everything else so I can't complain! Do sometimes wish he'd just push me against the wall and french kiss me though!

PyongyangKipperbang · 08/06/2025 23:36

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 08/06/2025 23:05

I love this stage of dating and it actually puts me off sleeping with people as it always fades after the sex starts as it's seen a initiation of sex not just a lovely thing to do in itself

I agree with this, maybe thats what has put me off snogging.

Once you have had sex there is the unspoken assumption that snogging will always lead to sex. So if you dont want sex, you have to avoid the snogging too, which is a shame.

Ask me why I am happy to be single......

And they are called "Men" FYI, not "males"

JHound · 08/06/2025 23:35

No

PyongyangKipperbang · 08/06/2025 23:34

No but I think that most men seem to treat snogging like having sex.....keeping thrusting the tongue in as far as it will go. Its never really felt mutual, more "mouth sex". I hope I have just been really unlucky with crap kissers and that there are more good kissers out there than bad ones!

My most recent ex for example could be a good kisser but hardly ever bothered. In fact the best kiss I had from him was when he was trying to reel me back in after I dumped him. Enjoyed the kiss and then left anyway!

bookishshelf · 08/06/2025 23:07

Been married a long time. Don’t really feel compelled to ‘snog’ DH these days tbh!

I really, really miss the excitement of a new person and the first time you passionately kiss 😢

whatisthegoddamnholdup · 08/06/2025 23:06

No

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 08/06/2025 23:05

I love this stage of dating and it actually puts me off sleeping with people as it always fades after the sex starts as it's seen a initiation of sex not just a lovely thing to do in itself

Tiredofwhataboutery · 08/06/2025 23:05

CrazyCatMam · 08/06/2025 20:52

Na, once I found things that were better than kissing, there was no looking back for me!

I really liked kissing. There’s something about someone kissing your neck with just the right amount of stubble. I think once there were more interesting things on the table blokes tend not to focus a lot on necks.

MrBlobbyScaresMe · 08/06/2025 23:02

Gah I hate snogging, I even hate the word 🤢.
I know I'm in the minority here.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 08/06/2025 23:01

I'm so surprised (and impressed) at these comments! I didn't think people in LTR are still so affectionate.

Legolady2 · 08/06/2025 22:58

4 years together. 47 and 50. Snog every time we see each other. Still lie in bed talking all night like teenagers. Wow!

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 08/06/2025 22:53

DP and I will kiss for hours still in our 30s (me) 40s (him)

Picklechicken · 08/06/2025 22:35

Maybe once a week ….! Neither of us are really physical people. Happily married 16 years together etc. I’ve never really enjoyed snogging though, the whole tongues thing and invasion of personal space makes me feel a bit 😳 - but then both dh and I have autism, and feel the same, so I guess we’re similar so it’s fine!

Blondebrownorred · 08/06/2025 22:33

Me and DH snog loads. I'm in my 40s, he's late 50s. Been together over 10 years.

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