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Dd saying I look fat

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Hatethistimeofyear · 08/06/2025 19:28

Recently Dd, 7 has said a couple of times that I look fat and my tummy looks pregnant
I have got a bit of weight on me-size 16-18, but she’s never mentioned it before.

How would you deal with this? Would you say it’s not nice to call people fat? I know she’s not meaning to be unkind and isn’t saying it an unkind way

Would you just leave it?

Ive always said it doesn’t matter what you look like, it’s how kind you are that matters

Feeling a bit shit as trying desperately to lose weight

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PomeloOud · 08/06/2025 19:37

Out of the mouths of babes…

I think I’d say it can be hurtful to call
someone fat, but you’re aware you are and you’re trying to lose weight to be healthy.

DelphiniumBlue · 08/06/2025 19:35

That’s quite rude, she should know not to make personal comments by that age. If she said that to someone at school, she’d be in trouble.
Time for some very clear conversations with her about how to avoid being rude and hurting people’s feelings.

Andanotherone01 · 08/06/2025 19:35

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Ironic!

LoveNRoses · 08/06/2025 19:34

I’d tell her it’s unkind to mention things like this. I’d then also tell her that it’s unhealthy for you to be this size and you’re putting things in place to address it.

CrownPointSouth · 08/06/2025 19:34

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WanderingWisteria · 08/06/2025 19:34

Both of my DC said similar things to me when they were around that age. I just commented that it was because I didn’t have much time to exercise and enjoyed eating cake and reminded them it wasn’t nice to comment on people’s shape

HedwigIsMySpiritAnimal · 08/06/2025 19:33

ByJadeExpert · 08/06/2025 19:31

Don’t make anything of it

Totally disagree - I would definitely tell her it’s not ok to comment on others’ appearance. We’ve told our boys this from a very young age.

Hercisback1 · 08/06/2025 19:33

I'd say it's not very kind to comment on how people look, big or small.

KnickerlessParsons · 08/06/2025 19:32

I’d tell her she’s a cheeky little monkey and to mind her own biz.

ByJadeExpert · 08/06/2025 19:31

Don’t make anything of it

Nsky62 · 08/06/2025 19:31

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