Sitting in a Premier Inn

Can I ask why you care so much? I mean, it’s obviously irritating, but why would you be cracking and crying? Why not just…let him sulk and get on with your day? Particularly if it only rarely happens. Let him fill his sulky boots.

My neighbour did this
her husband is still a miserable old Pratt

Good for u stay the bloody week and enjoy the break . I wish u well 🫶

@sittinginapremierinn well done. You deserve so much better than this. Do you think this might be a permanent move?? Sending hugs 🫂

It’s a form of abuse and control. Awful behaviour and I wouldn’t tolerate it either.

Good on you, taking control and having some time to yourself. Enjoy your takeout and bottle of wine. X

Good for you @sittinginapremierinn I hope you have a lovely relaxing evening spoiling yourself. If he attempts to contact you ignore him, have tonight fully gor yourself and deal with the immature twat tomorrow

He is absolutely not recognising what he does, because he keeps doing it. You have done exactly the right thing. Break the cycle, let the petulant shit sulk by himself.
But when you go back? He goes to therapy to enable him to manage his totally unacceptable behaviour. Or you are out because it is his problem, not yours.

What’s your children’s view on all of this? It must have impacted their childhood.

Have you ever been able to just shrug it off and ignore him? I mean, I think you're probably at point of divorce when you need to move into another bedroom (or the Premier Inn) just to ignore his tedious, draining drama. It sounds soul destroying.

But he keeps doing it because it gets results. You get upset, he gets to waffle on about his feelings while ignoring yours.

Recharge for a bit, then tell him his next sulk is his last under your roof. He finds a therapist to sort it out with or you find a solicitor.

Anyway, enjoy your lovely bath and some yummy food and some peace. Watch something stupid on tv. Relax. I hope he comes to his senses while you regain your equilibrium.

@sittinginapremierinn I’m hoping by the time I get back tomorrow evening he’s at the realising stage and I’ve not had to go through the drama. I haven’t got tears to waste on his delayed adolescence. I would stay another night, just to make sure and perhaps get him worried a bit about how his stupidity is affecting you! I dont suppose he even remembers why he is sulking!!

Good for you. I hope his pouty lip trips him up.
I grew up in a house with sulking parents, they'd have a row about something trivial and not speak for a week. DH has a tendency to sulk (as does his dad and sister) but when I noticed it before we were married, I told him I wouldn't put up with a big baby sulking. It seemed to get through!

I did the same a couple of years ago, it was a rocky road back but our marraige is better he used to be a huffy arsehole! Take the night to enjoy your takeaway and space to think.

Sulking and giving someone the silent treatment is actually emotional abuse. I’m sorry x

Good for you. Sulkers only get away with it because they can. My sister is married to one. He’d have been in the bin if he’d done it more than once with me.

Well done. Make the most of it order a takeaway get a bottle of wine and stick a film on. And enjoy it, might make him think twice next time. And if you have access to his bank account use that to pay for it.

Good for you!

Good for you. Enjoy the peace without a side order of bad atmosphere. Sulking is so unattractive.

Enjoy your peace and don’t stand for it. I don’t know how you’ve managed 25 years of it, I couldn’t get to 2 years before I had enough, although I never got any apologies. He wouldn’t accept any wrongdoing.
If he won’t change, it sounds like there isn’t anything keeping you together now your kids are older. Can you leave or ask him to? A premier inn every time isn’t sustainable.

In a way good for you - definitely better than sticking around to be ignored. However it doesn’t seem fair that you have to leave and you know it will inevitably happen again regardless. Is there any way you could think up some consequence to make the sulk an unappealing prospect in the first place? For example, I might try with ‘ok you are having a sulk, I warned you about this last time. However long you sulk just know I am going to refuse to spend any time with you for a period double the length of your sulk whenever you choose to get over yourself’ - and carry it out. Or, are there any things you do for him that you could stop that would have real consequences? No dinner? no washed clothes? No lifts? Whatever works really. And again for a period at least double the length of the sulk. Or even, that helpful task stops until a full (say 3 months) period without a sulk. See if you can get creative - see if you can make the sulks’ consequences too painful to be worthwhile indulging in it.

Good on you! I agree with the other poster... Do this every time til he gets counselling and sorts himself out. Hope the takeaway and wine is good, why not throw in a hot bath and a movie too.

Wepp.done OP. Sulking is horrible. You are completely right in getting away from that.

Have the kids been exposed to this all their lives then? A dad who finds fault with mum then sulk for days? To be honest it should be him staying elsewhere but all the same, good for you. You deserve better and I hope you enjoy your evening.