Sitting in a Premier Inn

Why do you care? Just ignore him too.

So his huffy sulking has resulted in you huffy flouncing? I’d say you are both behaving like stroppy primary school children. When he goes low you go lower? If you can’t behave in a kind and civilised manner with each other then then perhaps you need to rethink how you are together?
Talk about when this has calmed down and work out what’s going on beauts very rarely just a him, or just a you, problem.

The op hasn’t shown him anything

he probably enjoyed having house to himself, kick back, takeaway, bed to himself.
no doubt op will return to a messy kitchen with takeaway stuff all over the counters

Well done for showing him you won't put up with it. I hope it works.

Sulking is manipulative and controlling. You’ve taken the control away from him, so it will be interesting to see how he behaves when you get back.

There's just zero chance I would put up with being treated that way - it's disgusting.

Does he sulk with his friends? At work? Of course not. He can control it, he chooses not to, and he does not respect you.

What a pathetic child of a man.

So you check out of your hotel room
go home
and carry on living like this

and this is what your kids have had to be around for years

seriously

My DH used to sulk. I would get the silent treatment, sometimes for 3 days at a time.
I refused to humour it and treated him exactly the same as my two young children, even speaking to him in the same tone of voice. One evening, whilst sulking, he came home from work to chicken dippers, sweetcorn (which he hates) and mash. He broke his silence to ask where his proper food was....I told him that if he behaved worse than the children, he would be treated like a toddler.

I'm not sure what really happened but it has now been 4 years with no sulking episodes. Obviously he still gets cross, just doesn't give me the silent treatment.
Don't get upset, just completely ignore or grey rock him till he gets bored. It is the reaction he is looking for.

Go girl. Order room service, get a movie and enjoy. I am the sort of person who needs to do this alone for my sanity regardless of the company I’m keeping. Just enjoy it, some people go on fishing or football weekends - have fun.

I totally relate to a sulker, it’s completely draining and you aren’t imagining or exatturating the hurt just because it’s not aggressive or violent. It dictates your entire mood and way of life when someone is acting like that. He’s punishing you and mentally tormenting you. Go forth and order room service or uber eats and enjoy !!!

He acts like the stereotype of a flouncy 13 year old girl

@sittinginapremierinn This is exactly my DH when he gets into a grump about something. It's just tiring, and we live in a small flat so there's no escaping the atmosphere. As well as booking him the Premier Inn last week I've also stayed in a Holiday Inn for six days last year (and Thailand for a month the year before when he REALLY pissed me off 🤣). Every time he's been completely remorseful when we reunite (luckily we - well, I, technically - have the funds that if he does it again I'm just going on an actual holiday and leaving him to his sulk!)

Does your H have good points? This is the only thing keeping me here - my H makes me laugh like nobody else and we get on amazingly until he sulks 😬

It's a complety different situation

She doesn't have babies. She has adults

Well... I literally paid for my husband to fuck off and spend two nights at the Premier Inn just down the road last week because he was doing my head in with his whinging and grumpiness. So no. Sometimes space is needed - I loved sitting in our flat watching what I wanted to watch and he loved being in a hotel room and getting breakfast etc etc. We're all good now and he's apologised but OMFG I needed that time apart.

I hope you're having a relaxing night and it gives him time to reflect on his behaviour. I'd agree with PPs, if you can, extend to two days! Have a proper break.

If he can't tell you what is wrong like an adult, it either means its not you or its not unreasonable. Next time you stay put and tell him you have raised 2 kids and do not want to spend any more time around childish behaviour.

Oh I hope you’re enjoying a blissful sleep OP!

Why would you go back tomorrow? Take two nights, let him sit in it uncomfortably tomorrow night when he’s come down rather than he gets his wife back as soon as he’s snapped out of it. Take 3 the next time. You’ve more than earned it.

Oh, I like this idea! 👏That will give him something to think about beyond just a "one day without my partner" scenario.

@sittinginapremierinn Congratulations on standing up for yourself! You are an inspiration to DWs everywhere. 👑💪
Enjoy your night and just think, you don't have to make the bed in the morning or do any other chores either!
My DH doesn't sulk, but your night away sounds like so much fun that I'm now mad at him for not ever sulking! 😉

I hope he's having a good think about his awful behaviour. Good on you for finally showing him shit behaviour has consequences and that you refuse to bend to his sulks any longer!

Good for you. You are not unreasonable in the least.
I would do this everytime. My exh was similar and after a bit I realised I was wasting my breath trying to reason with him( which I think was what he wanted) I stayed calm, ignored him, grabbed the kids and caught the bus somewhere( I don't drive)
It's emotional abuse and he won't change
I divorced mine

Well done op xxx

You could always shame DH by getting him to watch the episode of Worzel Gummidge, 'Worzel Pays A Visit' where Worzel has 'a sulk' when aunt Sally offers him raw boiled eggs. It's hilariously childish. Good luck. Sulkers drain the life out of yeh.

My ex used to do this to me when the kids were little and it was fucking dreadful, I used to end up crying my eyes out because I had absolutely no idea what I’d done wrong. He could go a whole week or more without speaking to me. My chest hurts looking back on it. Eventually he ran off with someone else and it turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me (although I couldn’t see that at the time).

Just wanted to say good for you. The tide has changed, don’t turn back from this.

Sounds like you've made the best of it for the night.

I'd refuse to accept this behaviour completely. You shouldn't have to live with it, however infrequent it is, it is a regular pattern and it is emotional abuse.

Good. Have a gin and tonic, watch a movie, have a nice bath. Enjoy the breakfast. And sneak a bacon butty for your lunch break! 🤣

I'm imagining an apology text at some point tonight or in the morning.

But don't go back and don't talk to him tonight.

I'm sure your adult kids must think him insufferable. Presumably he sulks for them too, or only you?