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Sitting in a Premier Inn

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sittinginapremierinn · 08/06/2025 16:32

Was I unreasonable to just walk out - only for the night probably

Married 25 years to a sulker. As they all say, 95% on the time decent bloke, does his share, helped with the kids and dogs. But and it’s a big but every now and then he finds a reason to sulk. He pulls his faces, silent treatment, he’s ‘fine’, creates an atmosphere. I usually try to ignore, try to engage, wait it out etc. When he comes out of it he apologises and says he doesn’t know why he does it.

He’s been sulking all weekend for some misdemeanour I’ve committed, I don’t know what. I’ve lost it, booked a premier inn and walked out. He can sort out the sulk himself. Told the kids (18 and 23) I’m fine I just need a break. Packed a bag will go to work from here tomorrow.

I deserve better than that.

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Zebedee999 · 08/06/2025 17:03

sittinginapremierinn · 08/06/2025 16:32

Was I unreasonable to just walk out - only for the night probably

Married 25 years to a sulker. As they all say, 95% on the time decent bloke, does his share, helped with the kids and dogs. But and it’s a big but every now and then he finds a reason to sulk. He pulls his faces, silent treatment, he’s ‘fine’, creates an atmosphere. I usually try to ignore, try to engage, wait it out etc. When he comes out of it he apologises and says he doesn’t know why he does it.

He’s been sulking all weekend for some misdemeanour I’ve committed, I don’t know what. I’ve lost it, booked a premier inn and walked out. He can sort out the sulk himself. Told the kids (18 and 23) I’m fine I just need a break. Packed a bag will go to work from here tomorrow.

I deserve better than that.

Great idea! Do the same every time.

honeylulu · 08/06/2025 16:58

Excellent and not unreasonable at all. He is sulking to punish you for some minor slight he can't even explain and by leaving you are conveying that you will not be engaging with it.

If he sulks again, do the same, pointing out that you find it more pleasant to remove yourself from the atmosphere. One day you might decide you would prefer to make it permanent.

cryptide · 08/06/2025 16:48

Well done! Enjoy yourself really relaxing today. If or when he apologises, tell him that it's not good enough to to say he doesn't know why he does it. He must know why is going through his head when he is doing it. He needs to sort out a way to cut off the sulks before they start, if necessary by getting counselling.

BlueandPinkSwan · 08/06/2025 16:47

Coconutter24 · 08/06/2025 16:43

At least he apologises 😀

and then the cycle repeats over and over…. Meaning his apologies are worthless

It's not going to change, he knows he can get away with it and when he's ready to come back all is rosy again.
You could keep walking out but why should you have to? He has the problem.

MamaGarl85 · 08/06/2025 16:46

Good on ya! Hopefully it will give him a bit of a wake up call, time will tell!

Beebumble2 · 08/06/2025 16:45

sittinginapremierinn · 08/06/2025 16:36

I’m going to get a takeout and a bottle of wine.

Good, I’d do exactly the same.

Coconutter24 · 08/06/2025 16:43

deeahgwitch · 08/06/2025 16:35

Well done you 👏🏻
There are times I felt like doing the same but no Premier Inn nearby.
Wouldn’t it be lovely if it was a wake up call.
At least he apologises 😀

At least he apologises 😀

and then the cycle repeats over and over…. Meaning his apologies are worthless

buckeejit · 08/06/2025 16:41

Yanbu. Do this every time until he seeks counselling to try to fix this issue. I say this as a huffer myself, it’s something I’m trying to change as it’s not good. Enjoy your evening & watch some trashy tv

sittinginapremierinn · 08/06/2025 16:36

I’m going to get a takeout and a bottle of wine.

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MadamCholetsbonnet · 08/06/2025 16:35

YANBU. It’s very childish and selfish of him to treat you this way.

deeahgwitch · 08/06/2025 16:35

Well done you 👏🏻
There are times I felt like doing the same but no Premier Inn nearby.
Wouldn’t it be lovely if it was a wake up call.
At least he apologises 😀

TheAutumnCrow · 08/06/2025 16:34

I don’t blame you.

Sulking is bloody awful to deal with. Glad you have your tech to MN on ❤️

Gassylady · 08/06/2025 16:34

Good for you. I’m sure the three adults will manage just fine whilst you enjoy a bit of breathing space.

28Fluctuations · 08/06/2025 16:33

Good for you. Stay a few days and give yourself a proper break.

welshcakesandtea · 08/06/2025 16:33

🫂 yes, you deserve better. Enjoy your evening, try not to dwell and give him more of your mental energy x

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