Family mocking partner’s speech - AIBU to be upset?

You need to stand up for him. They are bullies. Do you want your child to grow up seeing this kind of behaviour and thinking it should go unchallenged? I know it can be hard (I expect they bullied you too, maybe still do?) but not standing up for what’s right takes a toll too. It seems easier at the time but the psychic damage and the damage to your relationship and soon your child is going to be worse.

Agreed.

If you're trying to avoid a prolonged argument, OP, tell them as you're going out the door. They need to know that their behaviour is unacceptable.

If you can't face up to that, then - as a pp suggested - send a text.

Nice one, best course of action, pack up and leave. Your sister sounds particularly unpleasant, one to be avoided until she learns some maturity, kindness and understanding. Not only her, yr parents also need to learn what empathy is all about.

Enjoy your together time now, I sincerely hope it dulls the uncomfortable recent episode in Wales. Your husband sounds a gem by the way.

Laughing at someone’s vulnerabilities and not apologising when it’s pointed out to them that this is hurtful behaviour as well as being highly un-funny? I think all you can do is hold firm boundaries with your family. ‘No, I’m neither over-sensitive nor is it hormones to blame. Your comments are offensive and they need to stop or we are leaving.’ And you’ll need to stick to your guns and weather a lot of sulking and flouncing until they get the message, because there is nowt so thin skinned as the ‘only joking’ brigade.

You need a long term plan.
To be unavailable whenever they want to see you.

I agree. They need to know their behaviour is unacceptable and any more comments on his speech means you both leave straightaway. It's not ok to gang up on him.

What a bunch of shits. I agree with others, you need to tell them why you’re leaving, so it’s clear that you won’t put up with it. They know full well they’re being malicious, small-minded dickheads; they just don’t sound like they expect anyone to stand up to them.

Your family sound rough as anything. What the fuck is wrong with them?

I'd be having strong words if it was my partner being treated like shit.

we’ve decided we’re leaving tomorrow morning. told them we’ve got stuff on and need to get sorted before work next week. not getting into a whole argument about it. me and him agreed we’re gonna do some nice stuff together tomorrow, just us, bit of a reset. he seemed a lot brighter after dinner and I’m glad we’ve got a plan now

Their behaviour is awful and I'm glad you've decided to leave.
But I think you should tell them why you are leaving and not say it's because of work.
Who cares if it starts an argument.
And do not go on holiday with them again.

Why are people so awful to others. Nasty bullies.

So pleased to see you‘ve had some time alone tonight and can escape tomorrow. The open contempt they show him is nothing short of cruel. It’s also incredibly stupid to treat the partner of their pregnant family member like this if they want any relationship with the baby. After you leave I would personally send them a text saying you think it’s despicable that grown adults would mock somebody for having a speech impediment and if that’s any indication of how they might treat a child you’ll be seriously reconsidering if there is any role for them in your child’s life. Hopefully that’ll cause them to reflect.

@OP, just wanted to say you and your OH are doing the right thing, walking away. You mentioned he doesn't drink and is non confrontational, I wish I had a partner like him ! Your family need to give you both a break, they are completely out of order. You told them to leave it out and they persist with their sly mocking. Well done for supporting each other, you both sound lovely. Best wishes with your little one

They are bullies. They call it banter but it isn't

They need to know why you're leaving or they'll continue to do it. One day in the future you'll snap and they'll be really shocked because 'you've never had this much of a problem before'.
Do you want your child to see their dad being ridiculed by your family?

Poor guy.

Glad you are on his side.

Your family are nasty, small minded and vicious bullies. I am sorry that you have obviously now realised it but it's time to make a new happy life with someone who you love and who loves you, and your own child.

My maternal family sound similar. Difference is that my mother (now aged 77) has never quite managed to extract herself from them and keeps going back like a beaten puppy hoping that the next time will be different. I know this is coming from my own perspective on that but I hope you make the break emotionally from them. Your partner, your child and you deserve better than what they are offering.

I think you should get into an argument about it. You need to stand up for him.

Your family sound vile. Thank goodness the apple has fallen far from the tree in this case. I would just leave with DH. He shouldn't have to put up with this nastiness. They sound like a bunch of teenage bullies

I think the best thing you can do for your totally innocent partner in this scenario is head off in the morning and assure him and show him that you've 100% got his back and are disgraced by your family on this one.

Your family sound awful

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Your family are totally out of order.

I think the key here is how they reacted when asked to stop. Let's assume for a second it is all in jest and good fun. When specifically asked to stop, the only appropriate reaction is to say "sorry, we will stop" and then actually stop.

I think the key here is when they blame your partner not having a sense of humour is to say that it has nothing to do with what they said to him. But more about how they refuse to have basic respect when specifically asked to stop and how their banter is more important than making their child and their partner feel comfortable. That it says a lot.

Your family are cunts.

I would leave immediately if I were you.

Your family sound horrendous OP. Sorry you’re both having to deal with this.