Family mocking partner’s speech - AIBU to be upset?

Your family are fucking dicks.

Our family is quite a ' piss taking family' however we would only do it if the person was of the same humor . I have an aunt with a speech issue due to an accident. She takes the piss out of herself and we do. Not spitefully and we always laugh with her not at her. But never take it to far.
However If it was someone who struggled and was conscious/ paranoid about it we wouldn't.

I also have a family member who is paralysed and her phone ring tone is ' when your legs don't work like they used to before '
She often jokes she's having a lazy day so using her chair or we will say ffs we got to carry you up the stairs again . But again it's well received banter. If she didn't like it we wouldn't do it.

And they were wrong to say you're hormonal.

I would have have gone today, this afternoon. Not sure why you need to wait and drag it out another day? I hope you leave first thing in the morning. Crack of dawn. I'd get away from there asap and I'd have little to do with your family again. I wouldn't even have them have visits with the baby, I'd tell them 'I'm not sure you can behave well enough to see the baby'.

Your partner sounds like an adorable decent man. Your family are horrible. Choose him over them.

Yes - I’d send a message to the whole family once you have left.

“Just to be clear, we are leaving because of your rude, bullying behaviour about X’s speech. It’s not funny and it’s not “banter”. It’s stupid and it’s not needed. If you can’t treat my partner with respect in future then we won’t be able to spend time together. Imagine that was our child, would you bully them and take the piss out of them too? You can say I’m stuck up and have no sense of humour bla bla bla. Whatever. Your behaviour was way out of order this time.”

Time to get your brave pants on and stick up for YOUR family (husband and bump), OP. Tell them exactly why you're leaving early and go low/no contact. They cannot get away with this, it's only going to get worse...

It sounds like your partner might have verbal dyspraxia- my son has this.
what a horrible family you have…

Your family are utter cunts! Stammers are hereditary, are they going to take the piss out of your child if they develop one too? Tell them in no uncertain terms that it stops now.

Yeah they are bullying him. How unpleasant. Good that you stood up to them, but make it very clear to them that only cowards take cheap shots like they did.

I think you and your partner are handling it brilliantly. You can’t argue with unreasonable people. Your family are behaving unreasonably and quite nasty too.

Have a lovely day together, you sound like a lovely couple. Having a day together to reset is a great idea.

You and your partner have your own little family now with baby on the way. You do things your way. 💐💖🌼

Oh my god this is absolutely horrible. Go home and make a stand. Your partner and you and your unborn baby deserve so much better than this.
They need to learn a lesson.

Gosh how nasty. Poor guy has probably been dealing with it most of his life. My son has a stammer and we've already come across strangers mocking him 'as a joke.' he's only 3.

Omg OP they are vile bullying scum. I think you should message them when you get home and tell them the real reason you left, and say if they don’t accept they’re wrong, apologise and promise to never do it again, then you’ll be cutting contact and they won’t be seeing your baby. I would honestly never want to see them again. Cunts.

You do need to tell them why you're leaving. Maybe do it just before you go, pack the car up tell them and just walk out. Nasty bullies.

Is your sister prone to Mean Girl crap?

You can't have them doing this to your DH or have your child hear them mocking their dad. I had that with my grandparents and hated them for it and resented my mum for not stopping it. Still do to be honest and as an adult I can see my dad is very flawed, while your DH has done nothing wrong he's just being bullied.

Over the last 10 months I’ve developed a speech impediment as the result of facial palsy I can’t say P’s and B’s. I often have to repeat things and it’s harder over the phone. If someone spoke to me like your family speak to your husband I’d tell them to “f… off and more, and I never swear. I wouldn’t have anything to do with them ever again.

Oh, OP, I’m sad you felt you had to lie and say you have things to do rather than saying they have ruined your break with their bullying ways.

As others have said, a joke is only a joke when everyone laughs.

Stay strong with your OH.

Good for you OP. And yes, not worth the arguement with them tonight. Leave tomorrow, then send them a link to this thread. No wonder your DP gets stressed around them. I would be going low contact as I wouldn't want them around my child.

Op it’s nice to see someone sticking up for their partner against their in-laws. It’s the bare minimum really, but many people don’t seem to manage it. I know you’ve not had it out with them yet, but you’re keeping your distance and taken a stance as opposed to pretending they’ve done nothing wrong.

I have stammered sometimes, and like your partner it can be exacerbated under stress or tiredness.

I don’t think I’ve ever had anyone openly take the piss - not even in school. But I’ve seen a few people hide smiles and honestly I usually don’t bother with it as I think it’s more of an involuntary response or even awkwardness sometimes.

But your family’s response sounds awful and very deliberate. Also extremely childish.

When your heads clearer and you’ve had a think you obviously need to raise the issue with your family, but it’s good you’re removing yourself from their company for now.

I'm shocked, honestly. I'm over 70 and have been around the block and never come across that level of nastiness

I would do what you have done and just leave. I don’t think getting into an argument with people who don’t see themselves being wrong is worth it. Sometimes actions speak louder than words!

Sorry, but if you go in silence, you are letting them off. They need to know why you are going and why they are not welcome in your lives or the life of your child.

Even when I was at school, anyone behaving like this in the playground would not have got away with it. And as for them saying she's hormonal-well obviously she has pregnancy hormones, but they're using the phrase to gaslight her to suggest that she is being "oversensitive"; I'd hope anyone would be disgusted by ableism whether they're pregnant or not.
I'd expect a full apology, and say if they're going to make any racist/homophobic/ableist jokes around my baby, they're not going to meet him/her.

Sorry you need to stand up for him
properly. Have an argument. Tell them they won’t see the baby much if they carry on like that. It’s absolutely unacceptable

You should not make up an excuse for why you're leaving. If they're not told how what they've done has made you both feel then they'll keep doing it.

Your family are bullies. I’m so sorry for your partner - I would ask him what he needs from
you. Does he want to leave? I would be fuming with your family and I’d be making it clear without a sincere apology and a promise to never behave in such a disgusting manner again, you wouldn’t be hanging out with them.