Family mocking partner’s speech - AIBU to be upset?

Yanbu to be upset and when your mum said “he’s too sensitive and they’re only winding him up” you need to be very firm in letting them know that he’s not too sensitive, they’re being very unkind and it’s upsetting for both you and him. Also apologise to your partner about how unkind your family have been (and ask them to do the same). Your family sound awful to be honest and if this kind of behaviour carries on I’d tell them that they’re unlikely to see much of you or the baby until they can stop the rudeness towards your partner as it’s too upsetting for both of you.

Your family are awful. Sorry.

I have a speech impediment, until I was about 40 I had people making for the way I talked, sometimes as though it was a joke sometimes just as all right nastiness.
I hated it.
If I was yoir partner O would be seeking to remove myself from your family
I have nearly six decades of speech impairment and even now I do not know what is so funny about a disabled

Yep my dad did it to my toddler son. I haven’t seen him in over a year…

Same thing has happened to my DC too from a similar age. It's disgusting how grown adults think it's acceptable to mimic, mock and laugh at a child with a speech difference. If they'll do it to a child then poor OP's partner stands no chance.

And while I understand you're used to them bullying you OP, as an outsider, you keeping quiet while the bully him is obviously a learned behaviour - keep quiet so you don't get the brunt of it.

But you do have to learn to stand up, even if you're quaking in your boots, because its one thing for you to say nothing for you, or your partner, or for him to also stay silent, but what about your baby?

Abuse happens when people stay quiet just because they are relieved it's not them. If you won't stand up for yourselves, how will you stand upmfor your baby?

Your family sound like absolute beasts.

When people say ' you're hormonal ' or ' too sensitive ' it is a gigantic red flag for someone who does not take accountability.

Your family have traits of an unpleasant dysfunctional family with manipulation, gaslighting, mocking, undermining and zero accountability as the typical currency. The phrases of too sensitive, you're over reacting etc will be common I imagine.

I would fuck them right off as much as possible after that treatment of your husband. Absolute dicks.

So if it was me, I'd be telling them what's what and they'd be left in no uncertain terms that they are arseholes and I'm not putting up with them.

But I think you've been bullied by them all your life and don't know better.

But the are bullies and at some point in life we need to stand up and be counted.

You're about to bring a brand new life into this world. Isn't it bad enough that they've already tainted your life so much already?

You have one chance to make sure your baby is never exposed to their toxicity. You don't even have to go as far as never seeing them, you just have to be prepared to stand up to them and know that's your last resort but that you will take it if you need to.

Family means love. Love isn't bullying. Bullies aren't family that count.

Be strong and be a new you.

If he was my brother and you weren't pregnant I would be advising him to get away from you and your disgusting family.
They sound like real low class, mocking a person's speech impediment.
Who even does that?
The dregs do.

I am cringing for you OP.
Are you married if not, I would be telling him to never marry into such an uncouth bunch.

You need to think long and hard about your scummy family because he should refuse to ever be in their company again, and rethink the relationship on the whole.
Nasty oiks.

That is awful. I think I’d go home. In what world can anyone think this is ok ??

Why would their endanger themselves by driving at night? They could be in a rural area with unlit country roads.

Good point. They knew, enjoyed it, and wanted that effect on your DH. Bullies, as we have all said.

OP has told them it’s unacceptable and is leaving the holiday early, what more do you want?

If she started effing and blinding, she’d lose the moral high ground and her family would say she’s aggressive and act like the wronged ones.

She’s played this all out perfectly.

I’m glad you made the (right) decision to leave.

I wouldn’t go away with them again or invite them over again.

“hope he’s gonna be able to pronounce the baby’s name” like what even is that??? just felt like a punch to the gut.

I can't believe you let her say this in front of him and didn't tell her to shut the fuck up!

Honestly, you need to work on stepping up. Yes, you're family are in the wrong but you don't come out of this looking like a great partner, either.

Your poor DP deserves so much better than that.

This. What horrible behaviour from your family.

You're right to support him. What awful behaviour!

So glad you’ve made a plan OP. Your family are very unkind and uncaring and don’t deserve you or your lovely H. I hope you have a happy day tomorrow.

Do make sure your family know how unacceptable their behaviour has been and that you aren’t putting up with it any more. put in place some measures and boundaries to protect you and your H and stay firm.

Best of luck with the pregnancy!

That’s the saddest thing I’ve heard in ages! How anyone can mock a 3yr old is beyond my comprehension. Sending a hug to him and all of you who love him.

All the best OP, your family sound like shitty arseholes. Glad you are sticking up for your partner who sounds wonderful.

Wow that was really very mean of them, and it's not good that your mum brushed it off as well. I very much doubt he'll ever feel the same with them again. It's hard as actually they should apologise but that will only embarrass him again. I would talk to them again and make it super clear how awful this is. Do they not want him to be part of the family?! Poor guy, and you. It was horrible. I think all you can do is now be very supportive and protective of him.

This is a heartbreaking thread OP. Your OH obviously thinks the world of you to go away with these people. It sounds like they've mocked and bullied him since the day you arrived. Time for some straight talking and strong boundaries.

Your family are bullies.

My son has severe speech issues, we deal with this quite often. I'd have hit the roof! You're family are disgusting and sound like complete arse holes.

This I'm afraid. Not often a thread is unanimous like this one. My DS has disabilities, I am not sure what I would say or do if I ever heard anyone mocking him. Your DP sounds lovely, and they have been cruel to him and deeply disrespectful to you both. I would keep clear of them until/unless they sincerely apologise.

They are indeed low class OP. Whenever I meet people irl who behave like this I think of them as ignorant low life scum. Nothing to do with snobbery in stating that; people like this can come from all walks of life. But then I think that people are only as superior (or otherwise) as their behaviour.