Family mocking partner’s speech - AIBU to be upset?

Your family are horrible people. Pushing alcohol into someone who does not drink, complaining he's not sporty - in addition to the stammer thing? Uneducated, horrid cunts.

It’s so lovely to see a thread where someone is able to recognise when their family are being arseholes, and stand up to them for their partner. I hope you have a wonderful day just the two of you, OP.

So my OH’s got a bit of a speech thing.

Has your OH had a diagnosis of his speech thing?

My husband suffers from Aphasia.

When he gets his words confused we ignore it as we know what he is meaning.
So for example, he will say “I was looking out the mirror” when he actually means “I was looking out the window”
This is very apparent if he is tired or his emotions are heightened, the sentence comes out in the wrong order.

However, If your OH does not have a formal diagnosis, I would use this opportunity to have a discussion as to why this is happening.
He needs a brain scan to identify if there is an underlying problem .

I’m thinking a heart-scan might be more in order.
Or maybe a scan to see if she’s got one.

There is nothing worse in this world than mocking someone - anyone.
Remember Trump (of ALL people) mocking that disabled reporter? Unfunny.
Same thing here.
Unfunny.

They sound thick as pigshit.....I'm cringing just at the thought of being around people Like that.

I'd put good money on him having dyspraxia BTW.

You are a nice partner to him. And he sounds lovely too.
I wish you a happy future with your baby x

Just ignore this stupidity op. Have you considered a brain scan muffinmam ?

He’s not coming between you and your family, their nasty belittling attitudes are.

I feel for him that he’s going to be stuck with them via you and his child ☹️.

Condition? Condition?? Wtf, HOW does that excuse BULLYING? Whether he has a 'condition' or not, is completely and utterly irrelevant. I cannot believe your post, you are suggesting that unless he has a diagnosis, then the bullying is justified because if people 'don't understand it', then bullying is understandable. No one needs to 'understand' anything to not be a fugging bully!

You are saying the lack of a formal diagnosis is mitigation for the bullying??

Has your partner not had any brain scans or speech therapy to find out what is wrong with him?

You can’t expect everyone to understand a condition that hasn’t even been formally diagnosed.

Wow, they sounds fucking horrible.
I've got a stammer and people have openly took the piss out of me for it and looked at me as if I'm a piece of shit off the floor. It hurts, so I can imagine exactly how your DH is feeling.
I know you've said a few words to your family but I'm surprised you haven't left tonight and I wouldn't really be happy with the making excuses about leaving rather than just having it out with them, they're rude as fuck and need calling out to their faces, not over a text. But that's just my take and how I'd expect my DH to act in that scenario.

and he tripped over a word and my sister laughed and said “hope he’s gonna be able to pronounce the baby’s name” like what even is that??? just felt like a punch to the gut

Yet, you didn’t say anything to her! Just let it slide. Perfect opportunity to tell her (and by proxy rest of family) what you think about their bullying and gaslighting behaviour.

This.

I would be leaving and then sending a message saying exactly why, and if they ever, ever do that again they will never see you or their grandchild again.

They need to be told.

Making excuses about why you are leaving is just letting them get away with being vile bullies. Do you want you child to grow up watching your family mock their dad?

Poor fella. I haven’t read every response but Jesus on a bike, will they take the piss if your child has something different about him/her? Your family sounds horrific.

They are a bunch of tribal, narrow minded bullies.

Well done for not turning out like them. I’m afraid I think you need to keep them at a distance, particularly when your baby is very new as if they do this then, one of both of you will go ballistic. It’s a very raw, vulnerable and exhausting time.

What nasty horrible vile people.
How dare they all gang up on someone with a speech impediment that he can’t control.
Im glad you’ve had a word op and got to the bottom of if he has a migraine or not.
He needs you to support him and take the lead into getting him home and completely away from this despicable pack of wolves.
Before you go make sure you tell them the reason why you’re leaving.
They should their heads in shame.

Well done for standing up to them @PReggoDuck23 and bless your OH, he sounds absolutely and very lucky to have you - just not the in-laws. They’re utter fuckers.

Your family sound horrible and you sound like you are doing the right thing by leaving. Your OH is obviously different to them and they somehow feel threatened so resort to bullying behaviour. Lesson learned and no more family holidays. When you get back I suggest you make it clear there is to be no repeat or they won’t be seeing you, your OH or your baby.

And call your mum and say you’re very serious and you don’t want to hear one more it’s just a joke because it’s not, it’s nasty bullying. So if you want to tell me to lighten up or he should be able to take it, or any crap like they mean well, don't call and don’t message. If they mean well then they will work their butts off to never be nasty again, and if they don’t well they will just never meet their nephew/niece.

Message them all when you get home and say you’d love your baby to have an extended family but if they all keep being nasty and taking the piss out of your partner then your baby will just have the two of you because nobody is welcome at our house if you can’t be polite, and you’re ashamed of them all.

She should be able to stand up for her partner in the moment, in front of him. Having a quiet word after the fact and then just allowing the issue to continue unchecked is not good enough.

I would never allow my family to speak to my partner like that and I'd be PISSED if he allowed his to mock me and said nothing.

The moral high ground has absolutely nothing to do with a person's choice of wording but sure, clutch your pearls 🙄

Good for you that you are showing support to the father of your child. I am very confident and well spoken but rubbish at pronouncing words that I am not familiar with. My family understand that ,and are sensitive and encouraging. Definitely home time for you tomorrow.