Family mocking partner’s speech - AIBU to be upset?

I’m so sorry you and your partner have been subjected to this awful behaviour. I would make an excuse and leave. You and your partner deserve better. It would be understandable if you chose to limit contact with them to shorter meet-ups for the time being.

Are you for real? Sheeeesh!!!

Totally disgusting behaviour from your family, you and your DP deserve a lot better.

Funny isn’t it, because if you put all the comments together….too sensitive, you are just hormonal, don’t be silly, eye rolling, etc…..reminds me of a post I have just seen about domestic abuse……your family are a load of gaslighting arseholes. I would be distancing myself from them.

Don’t they know how rude it is to make personal remarks? Are they like this Normally?
looks like they have shown their true colours
you don’t need to be‘tainted’ by association people like them usually have low self-esteem and are always trying to make themselves look superior at the cost of others
you can be thankful for seeing their attitude and you can decide what you want to do with the relationship
what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger

Really nice to see someone so supportive of their partner. Seriously, well done you. They were being complete aresholes and they know it x

Your family were completely out of order and they need to know that. Show them this thread so they can't accuse you of making an issue of it!
Let them see how you stand by your husband and you tell them you're both prepared to leave unless they can show you how they understand how wrong this behaviour is. If they're willing to change then give them a chance to show you.

It's my guess they're somehow jealous of your happiness at this time as you expect your baby.

Most families show support and kindness towards their loved ones - not spite! It's really not normal.

I wonder how funny they would find it if you kept laughing and commenting on their belly, fat rolls, balding head, bad teeth, jowls, neck wattle, bingo wings or any other thing they might be sensitive about.

This is just awful. Would they mock him if he was in a wheelchair, or was blind or had any other disability?? Vile behaviour.

That’s a really horrible thing to do. I am very sorry you and your husband had to put up with that awful behaviour. Go home after reading your family the riot act.

That is almost equivalent to making fun of someone with a disability.

"Then my sister said I’m just hormonal."

That is the sort of patronising twattery that I really hate and makes me wish I could just punch the perpetrator hard in the face. It is precisely because you can't do that that they have free reign to inflict it on people.

How do you think people who live in the countryside manage, @nomas? Do you think they don’t go out driving after dark? Headlights exist.

Your family are bullies, OP. You now also need to decide if you are going to allow them near your child when she/he is born. Bullies pick on the vulnerable, and their apologies mean nothing.

I misread it initially, I thought it was his family. Your family should be better than this, how awful of them. I'd leave, or if you've paid for the accommodation get them to leave. Why didn't you say anything to them at the time?

I’ve had this when l was waiting for the hoist to lower my wheelchair to the driver door. Told the busybody that it wasn’t the number plate she needed, but the serial number of the badge, and offered her that and the number of social services !!

This is exactly what they need to be told. Tell them you won’t be attending family events or joining family holidays until this attitude changes. Point out the comment regarding your sister’s loud partner and say that sadly, if they can’t change their behaviour, your child will never get to spend time with this side of their family. They are just unpleasant, bullying idiots!

I completely agree , how horrible of them OP ..

Definitely an upsetting situation and your family are totally in the wrong. I hate when people are horrible to others and then when the person is upset, they’re told to lighten up or they’re “only joking.”
I don’t think you could’ve done more though. After the holiday, I’d send a little message to your family and just say “I didn’t like the way you joked about my partner. Please don’t do that again.”

How to say you live in a big city… without saying you live in a big city 🤣.

They sound awful. Who would want to be stuck on holiday with them?! If I were you, I'd listen to them for a bit then start mimicking their mannerisms, bad habits, etc. Yes, very childish but they won't see how it is for him if they haven't been made a fool of themselves.

Plus cars have lights installed which is quite handy. Do they think people in the countryside stay at home after dusk?!

I agree with everyone. Your family sound horrid. Good for you for sticking up for your OH. I would definitely tell them and do one

I know where your coming from, my Son has a stammer , it's frustrating and embarrassing for them not to get the words out properly. Your partner is not alone, Your family are horrible. None of my family laugh at My Son . Hope it sorts itself out. My Sons speech therapist says its all in the mind . Good luck

Absolutely awful. That's so disrespectful and hurtful. They're gaslighting you blaming hormones. I'd go home .