Family mocking partner’s speech - AIBU to be upset?

Your family have behaved horribly OP and you know it. Quite honestly I’d be going home today. Get a nice takeaway of meal out somewhere tonight just the 2 of you. I’d then be having it out properly with family once they’re all home next week. I hope you and your dp have a lovely family unit together without much input from your family as they’re toxic by the sounds of it.

little jokes about how he’s not “a lad lad” and my sister’s said before that he’s a bit boring.

Sounds like they're a bit intimidated by the fact that he has a brain in his head, to be honest.

Nothing more boring than 'lad lads' and people who can't enjoy themselves without drinking, IMO.

I wouldn't have bothered waiting until tomorrow, to be honest. I would've told them they're pathetic and packed the car.

Arseholes.

My daughter university age, can't drink due to medication she's taking and I am with you on the shit people say about it. It's so weird that there's this undercurrent of "a good night is one where we get pissed as a fart and do stupid shit or even better can't remember it", so you are boring because you don't. It's mental!!

I was going to say the same .
It's absolutely not on that your family have made fun of your DH they are beyond reproach .

One of the guys I work with has a stammer and a new security guard ( sub contractor) laughed at him then mimicked him .
Two other members of staff took the guard into the carpark and gave him a thorough dressing down and reported him to his boss and both companies HR.
He was booted of site within a hour .

Making fun of any disability is absolutely not 'just a joke'

I wouldn't do anythIng dramatic like leave, as that might make your husband feel worse. I would definitely send them all a group WhatsApp (with DH not on it) as soon as the holiday is over to say that they all know DH has a speech impediment, and that you are really disappointed in them for mocking him about it, especially in public. That you had thought they would behave better and more kindly than that to someone who's joined the family, and it's not the values that they raised you with to take the piss about someone's physical or mental impairment, particularly one about which they already feel self conscious.
Hopefully that would prompt an apology to DH, and they won't repeat their awful behaviour.

I'm very sorry op.

Sometimes it takes seeing how our families treat an outsider to realise what they are really like.

Yours sound like deeply unpleasant (and quite thick) bullies.

I wouldn't let them anywhere near a child. Imagine if they had a stutter, a disability or even, God forbid, a slightly different set of interests to your bullish father and vapid sister.

A joke is only funny if the subject can genuinely laugh.

They are not Funny, just plain nasty. I wish you'd rescue him from this awful situation. They're your family so I see it as your responsibility. Go home and tell the nasty fuckers to do one.

Despicable behaviour on the part of your family. No doubt there will be a ton of self serving backtracking on their part as and when you confront them about their awful behaviour but you really need to draw a line in the sand over this, not least because your DP needs to know that you have his back.

Why are you waiting till tomorrow? I'd not be staying for dinner this evening with them, I'd be out of there today.

Your parents and sister are foul. Would they mock his walk if he had mobility issues, laugh if his hearing or sight was minimal, I don’t know why I am even postulating this because from what you have said they probably would.

I am so sorry you have such mindless uncaring insensitive wankers for relatives. Let’s hope for their sakes they are never in a similar situation following an illness, stroke or accident and learn the hard way how nasty some people can be.

Wow they are horrible.

I'd be really annoyed too. I have a bit of a funny accent, I've moved around alot and I've got a accent which is a mish mash of different accents so occasionally I come across someone who thinks it's alright to mock my voice, tells me I talk funny, laughs and says "go on say that again" or "say (a word they want to hear in my accent)". It does make me feel deflated sometimes and it does cause me to freeze or I make a joke out of it. Even if making your partner feel awful wasn't their intention, they have and they need to apologise and adjust their behaviour.

Agree @BeNavyCrab
my eldest couldn’t speak at all for a year when he was 8. All down to a severe stammer.
Like your dc it’s all but disappeared now but when in stressful situations it comes back a little and I’m really feeling your dhs pain here OP.
Protect and support him.

Why stay another night. Leave now, don’t put him through any more of this

I would leave ASAP and make it clear you won't be holidaying with them again.
It's bullying plain and simple.

I would avoid them in future. Sorry but they sound awful. Also mocking him for not drinking etc! That’s passive aggressive behaviour and that would be enough for me to swerve them. I can’t drink due to a medical condition and you know what’s really boring, it’s drinkers having a dig and saying you’re not fun if you don’t drink. Surely the muppets that need a drink to enjoy themselves are the really boring ones. Also overbearing extroverts telling quieter people they’re boring too, that’s bullying. And the comment regarding you being hormonal & over sensitive because you’re pregnant. Honestly you both deserve a lot better than this toxic bunch of vipers.

“ It’s only banter, can’t you take a joke?” Said every bully ever… vile behaviour. And they can’t see it and never will. I would have grave concerns about letting such despicable people have anything to do with my child. I would head home and go very low contact. Your poor DP.

Your family are bullies.

With a baby on the way, I’d distance yourselves from them now because, if they can bully your husband, they’ll do the same to your child (or just as bad, they’ll involve your child in similar behaviour).

Go home. Your family are spiteful and nasty.

@PReggoDuck23 Your family are bullies

I'm a woman with a slight stutter that is definitely worse if I'm tired or upset. My son is the same. I'm grumpy enough to give zero care about rude comments but will squash anyone who picks on my boy.

Your family are rude bullies.

Your family are absolute arseholes.

I'd have packed our stuff and left.

Your poor OH- your family should do one.

Awful of your family, who thinks that is acceptable behaviour?

Also, as other PPs have said, difficulty remembering the correct word or struggling to say words properly are signs thar a migraine is starting in some people. When it happens to me I know its time to start taking ibuprofen, drinking some caffeine and getting some sleep.

I agree.
Pack up and leave. They are mocking and bullying your dh!