Family mocking partner’s speech - AIBU to be upset?

I have a speech impediment and my late DH was deaf, so often mispronounced words - and was thus careful of which words he chose in non-family company. If someone had said this to me (or to him) I would have been hurt to the core and also embarrassed. Why don't you leave your lovely family to get on with their ablist jokes and go home with your OH, who needs your support?
Your family are horrible.

My brother is has a slight speech impediment, he is also tea-total and not laddish. He is the loveliest person and I would be absolutely beside myself with rage if anyone dared treated him this way.

I know it must be hard because you will have been brought up with this kind of “banter” (bullying) as normal but it isn’t right and they have made him feel bad about himself, which is unforgivable.

Make a stand, tell them how dreadful they are then go home tonight with him and take some time to work out what to do going forward.

You family are vile. How dare they mock someone like that

Personally I would be packing out bags and going home, leaving a short sharp text to them that their behaviour was disgustingly and until such time as they all apologise and mean it you won’t be having anything to do with them

I would also mention something they may be sensitive about and say how would they like it if that was mocked

Oh your poor DP, and totally lovely of him not insisting you go straight home.
You have to step up here OP, he's putting up with this crap for your sake.
Time to leave.

Your poor OH. Your family members have been utterly unpleasant, pig-ignorant, and ableist. I would get up and leave immediately. Hope you show them this thread.
For your OH
for your family members.

I don't think I'd be waiting for the morning to leave tbh. Your poor husband.

This is sad, I have one child who mispronounces certain words, he’s been made fun of. Like you I’m highly protective of him because of things like this . You both must feel very upset. How horrible of your family.

I’d go no contact with anyone who behaved like this and unless they completely change their ways, made a very sincere apology and meant it etc I also wouldn’t let them see anything of my children either! Do you want people around who bully and belittle the father of your child?

I don't think it's fair to ask your partner to decide what to do in this situation. He's in a very uncomfortable position with bullies, while trying to show up for his pregnant partner.

I think you need to decide how best to handle your family and implement it. I would have left already tbh, though understand it's a very emotional thing to have to do.

How rotten for both of you this is how your family choose to get their laughs.

Please give your DH a great big hug from me, my son has verbal dyspraxia and I know what is like, your family are cunts to put it bluntly.
But you carry on being the better person and tell your DH that he has a good one in his corner xx

Married to a man with a stammer - if my family had EVER in the last 20 years behaved that way, id have been utterly mortified.

Im so sorry for you as your family are a reflection of you and their behaviour showed ignorance and a lack of emotional intelligence.

From my experience, putting him at ease with family and being supportive will help him relax and decrease his stammer, the opposite also being true. You follow his lead with how to handle it, my husband sometimes jokes if hes particularly struggling to lighten the mood.

And whilst he doesn't stammer much these days, when he does my family know to wait patiently. Even our youbg children know to wait for Daddy to finish.

If I were you, a calm and considered chat with your family is in order to help them realise the short and potential long term affect of their behaviour.

I’d just take the decision to leave in the morning, it might make your family see you are angry with them. Their behaviour is outrageous.

Despicable and utter cunts. I would be inclined to kick them in the face

Your family are nasty arseholes

I’m partially deaf and get this allllllll the time. It IS a big deal.

Your family are wankers.

They are being cruel and thoughtless. I wouldn’t go on holiday with them again. Support your husband; this is so upsetting

And yes once it all calms down show your OH this post, we are all supporting him.

Poor him with in laws like that he will never be able to relax around them or want to see them.

God they are nasty. I'd rather have a speech impediment than be a thick, ignorant arsehole.

I think you also need to know that your family’s behaviour and their reaction to you calling them in it is about CONTROL. They are pering on a lamppost, frankly - their view of what is funny / harmless banter / hormonal / overly sensitive is what counts, not yours or your OH’s. My guess is that they have exhibited controlling behaviour throughout your life. You have a chance to step out of it, now.

Just go home tonight. His speech, or any other things people have, get worse with tiredness stress etc. will have caused the migraine too, I don’t have a speech impediment but with a migraine I can’t even get a sentence out around the correct way or say the wrong words for things.

And yes they are nasty bullies, he doesn’t deserve that .

Disgusting behaviour. Imagine them doing the same in front of your child in years to come, humiliating and embarrassing their dad.

I rarely think that it would be a good idea for a poster to show their family/partner/friend a thread about them, but I'm beginning to think OP should send them a link.

You're doing the right thing OP. Laughing at someone's speech (or the way they look etc) is just mean and nasty.

You probably are going to have to address it with them at some point though...soon enough your child will be aware of what's going on and copying everything. Can you imagine them going into nursery and saying similar comments to a child with a stutter or heavy accent. And thinking their dad is someone to be ridiculed

i would have packed up and left.
Your family are bullies.