We went to a family event that was 4 hours, lots of people. We enjoyed the event, helped serve, chatted to guests etc. We stayed back to help clear up load the cars etc. Then said our goodbyes. My FIL was hurt we weren't going over to theirs. He asked me (3 times) and I said no - it's been a long day. He then asked my husband (twice).
I'm new to setting boundaries and I understand that I get to set them but don't get to choose how the other person feels about them. But I find it really hard...keep seeing the hurt/angry look on his face in my mind.
My question is...AIBU to have wanted to go home after 5 hours there? (The journey is an hour also there and back again).
I just wanted to be in my own space to unwind. If we'd gone over we'd have had to stay for long enough for DC to have dinner which felt like the day was stretching too far, or literally go in for 10 mins and go home which seemed a bit pointless.
The reason I feel AIBU is the complete lack of comprehension on FILs face and also some people did go over to theirs afterwards so it clearly didn't feel like a long day to everyone.
(I do feel like my FIL was BU by asking more than once but that's not what this thread is about)