AIBU - siblings at parties!

Of course there are going to be “other children” there, don’t be so disingenuous.
Random children unknown to the birthday child are not going to be sitting down for food or queuing up for a party bag.

It's madness. Of course you can buy a separate ticket to a soft play at the same time as a party. This is ridiculous. It's standard practice where I live, and as I know hardly anyone with just one child, more normal than just bringing the one.

You basically invite your child’s friends siblings.
So what?
Nobody that’s not on the guest list shows up, no problem.
How does this relate to people who don’t want 10 of their kid’s friends and 20 siblings that their kid may not even know at their party?

So you aren't going to the party you are going to make use of resources for your own benefit to the detriment of other people who were so kind to invite your other child. Honestly your children won't treat you in your care home nicely if you don't teach them how not to be so selfish.

The social convention of taking your child to a public activity in a massive room where your other child will also be with other children?

That's not a social convention, it's ridiculously controlling of a public space.

Pretty sure anyone round here who complained that they'd been hosting a party at soft play and there other children there at the same time would just get a blank look of "and? What's the issue?" in return

Exactly. And the nature of CF ry is they don't understand why someone might not want their whiny 3 year olds or equally entitled or bullying otherwise unpleasant older extra kids there. May be someone in the party has a problem with your other kid and the host family know it?

No I am a genuine person who makes use of soft plays for their appropriate use. I genuinely don't feel the need to justify my decision to pay for my child to use a soft play at a time of my choosing with anyone else.

Are you going to address the rest of the stuff you said about me, the names you called me and the absurdity of your post?

Or keep repeating irrelevant nonsense under everything I've said.

Why should they? It’s people like you who don’t understand social conventions that are the actual issue, society shouldn’t have to bend itself around you because you can’t grasp how things work.

Also, the kid who's actual birthday it is chose his friends to come surely? He/she didn't expect a load of randoma relatives to show up. My son (6) has friends in his class that have older siblings, one of them is a bully its a right pain when he rocks up (uninvited) and ruins the party for the younger kids.

If 😁 I don't think you are genuine

If the host wants to dictate the guest list then there are plenty of exclusive things that can be booked.

Guest doesn't decide who the birthday child has at their birthday, it's rude to impose uninvited guests on the hosting family, whether paid or unpaid.
"How" has been explained many times and many different scenarios given. I guess that's the nature of CF - they don't see anything wrong with being entitled.

It's not up to you - the guest- to decide the guest list for the birthday kid or how they have their party, so if you bring the extra kids, make sure they are not seen by the birthday party kids and your invited kid is availabe to pay attention to the birthday child and the party and not their sibling, and you are supervising the invited kid properly rather than their sibling in a different corner of the soft play.
I'd still not invite you again.

I am saying I allow other people to bring siblings and cover the cost of them when I can.

How does that make me entitled?

What will bite me exactly? I'm a bully? I don't care about children? For allowing siblings to come to parties I've paid for.

I've always loved to do big parties and be inclusive. I think if you allow siblings as a rule then you get enough extras that there isn't a solitary clingy spare part, but they all know each other from school and other sibling friendly parties and they get to forge good relationships with kids a little older and a little younger than them. Excellent for their social skills.

Not everyone does big parties, not every kid wants huge numbers, but mine did because they were well attended, with loads of presents for them and loads of fun had. I liked that it meant that the single parents/those with parents who worked weekends etc could make it, and stay and not stress.

It's like you've answered the post you wish I'd written rather than what I've actually said. I'm going easy on you because it's reading like you have something bigger going on, your response is not even vaguely rational as a response to anything I've posted.

Nope, the families that used to do this to me were wealthy 2 parent families. Sorry to say it's just entitlement

I always invite parents to do this as I think it must be pretty tough having to juggle kids in different locations. I'm also soft son would hate any child to miss out on cake and party bags etc. The more the merrier for us.

This used to drive me mad. I was a single mum and multiple families used to do this and expect their kids to get food and goodies too. When you're doing it on a budget it gets bloody difficult. This is a totally new thing, I used to love getting invited to parties as a kid! As the eldest it was one of the only things I got to do without having to take my younger siblings 🤣

I don't see how paying for a child to go to a soft play that's open to the public and buying them a sandwich at the cafe equates to bulldozing my way through life.

Do you bulldoze your way through all aspects of your life like that?
It must make you really popular.

It isn't. I've not done it myself but I have had siblings at a couple of soft play parties I've hosted and it never occurred to me to be annoyed by it or even vaguely register it as odd.

It's noone else's business when and where people choose to bring their children to soft plays that are open to the public.

Why is it so important to you that all your children attend every party that only one of them is invited to?
You can take them both to soft play together literally any other weekend.

Only with loads of caveats and imagined issues where the siblings will be demanding access to the party room and food or not playing by themselves. Which in my experience have never been the least issue. They get bought a separate meal and the siblings go off and play.

It's ridiculous to expect to book a party in a place open to the public and be offended when other people come who are paying their own way.

Been said a million times.