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Friend in a mood with me because of comment I made at dinner

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Mall03 · 07/06/2025 22:44

Out with friends last night - one has been travelling so I’ve not seen them for over a year. She asked me why I’m not on Instagram anymore; I replied I turned 30 years old and grew up - she laughed.

Another friend who was present (and uses IG) said my reply was rude and that I insinuated anyone over 30 who uses IG needs to grow up.

That’s not what I was saying (although I do find it all a bit cringe these days if I’m honest!).

Do you think my reply was inappropriate or did my friend over react?

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raffys · 07/06/2025 22:49

It gives the impression of superiority, you
may not have meant it that way, but I can see why they took offence.

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 07/06/2025 22:49

Well, you effectively told her you’re mature and she needs to grow up - what did you expect?

Danioyellow · 07/06/2025 22:48

I’m 40 and I’m on instagram. Am I not a grown up then op?

ReachOutfortheSunshine · 07/06/2025 22:47

Yes, that was rude. ‘I’m not on IG’ would have sufficed.

Ace56 · 07/06/2025 22:47

I mean yeah, your reply is quite insulting to anyone over 30 who does use Instagram. It was definitely a foot-in-mouth moment, assuming you didn’t realise the other friend still used it?

legoplaybook · 07/06/2025 22:46

It definitely comes across as rude and bitchy even if that wasn't the intention.

Tontostitis · 07/06/2025 22:46

It was a deliberately provocative statement that provided a reaction. You basically called her an immature idiot either stand by it or apologise

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 07/06/2025 22:46

I can see why she took it that way.

If you didn't mean Instagram is something people grow out of, what did you mean?