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Friend in a mood with me because of comment I made at dinner

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Mall03 · 07/06/2025 22:44

Out with friends last night - one has been travelling so I’ve not seen them for over a year. She asked me why I’m not on Instagram anymore; I replied I turned 30 years old and grew up - she laughed.

Another friend who was present (and uses IG) said my reply was rude and that I insinuated anyone over 30 who uses IG needs to grow up.

That’s not what I was saying (although I do find it all a bit cringe these days if I’m honest!).

Do you think my reply was inappropriate or did my friend over react?

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MoominMai · 07/06/2025 23:06

HeyWiggle · 07/06/2025 22:57

Ridiculous reason to be in a mood with you

Agree. @Mall03 Gonna buck the trend of opinion here but you’re a grown person allowed to have your own opinions and not be scared to be yourself. It’s not like you made some deeply offensive or outrageous blasphemous comment! The friend it was directed at laughed but there’s always one that gets offended on behalf of another 🙄. That’s happened to me occasionally and Ive feigned Pearl clutching outrage and then said my little bit about why I do it then probably made fun of them for something and then it’s done - over. No residual resentment or festering moods! It’s just banter and unfortunately this is where men generally are better not taking such minuscule things totally out of proportion.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 07/06/2025 23:05

YABU. That was a pretty immature and childish remark for someone who claims to be 'grown up.' I bet you sneer at adults who like Disney, and who play videogames too. Not a good look @Mall03

Outright snobbery against something just because YOU don't like it /use it anymore is just not cool.

InWalksBarberalla · 07/06/2025 23:05

That’s not what I was saying (although I do find it all a bit cringe these days if I’m honest!).

Oh come off it - that's exactly what you where saying. What else could you have been saying by: She asked me why I’m not on Instagram anymore; I replied I turned 30 years old and grew up

EggnogNoggin · 07/06/2025 23:04

Well, was it a thoughtless comment that you have now had time to reflect on and can see was a dig at people like your friend who "haven't grown up and still use Instagram" or was it a deliberate dig?

whynotmereally · 07/06/2025 23:02

I’m in my forties and love Instagram. I watch lots of comedians and memes. Very funny.

JustFeedMeCake · 07/06/2025 23:02

You were rude. As if people over 30 aren’t on instagram 🙄

queenMab99 · 07/06/2025 23:02

I'm 75 and I don't use Instagram, I think it is full of crap and wannabe influencers. You were just being honest.

Everybodysinthehousetonight · 07/06/2025 23:01

I'd probably not even notice if a someone wasn't on Instagram 🤣

Winter2020 · 07/06/2025 23:00

I do think the comment was rude but more so to the friend that had been travelling.

I'm assuming the travelling friend asked you because she had been putting her travelling pictures on Instagram? That friend is perhaps single and not settled in a career (travelling for a year)? I'm guessing you might be more settled down with partner/home/job so to say you came off Instagram because you grew up could then be pretty hurtful and make her feel like she is failing.

I think it's more likely you came off it because you were jealous seeing her travels.

All my assumptions could be completely wrong of course!

HeyWiggle · 07/06/2025 22:57

You clearly hit a sore spot for her to overreact .

HeyWiggle · 07/06/2025 22:57

Ridiculous reason to be in a mood with you

feathermucker · 07/06/2025 22:57

Wouldn’t have bothered me at all. I didn’t find it provocative in the slightest. Quite funny to be honest and I’d have laughed

chatgptsbestmate · 07/06/2025 22:56

CatsMagic · 07/06/2025 22:51

Come on, it was a dig and you know it otherwise you would have just said ‘no, I’m not on IG’

Don’t be one those people that makes smart arse digs and then gets all upset when you piss people off because of it.

I don’t use any social media apart from Facebook, it doesn’t make me special or interesting or cool.

This absolutely ^

And now you're being all disingenuous 🙄 and 'who, me?'

I'm on IG and I'm in my 60s. Love it and tiktok

🥳🥳🥳

Jaffapaffa · 07/06/2025 22:54

56 and on Instagram. With 3 different accounts.

Why would 30 be too old to use it?

EveInEden · 07/06/2025 22:53

I use IG for vegan recipes and martial arts training. I'm 47.

Did you feel insecure about something?

AliBaliBee1234 · 07/06/2025 22:53

What a horribly judgemental thing to say. I find your comment and the fact you think you're above other people cringe.

HiddenInCubeOfCheese · 07/06/2025 22:52

NorfolkandBad · 07/06/2025 22:51

Has your friend recently been to a cafe with a sign and left a review ?

Pretty much!

She seems very sensitive, to an unreasonable degree

Whistledown2 · 07/06/2025 22:52

This depends on your relationship. If you are the ‘banter’ type of friends then I’d say she was overreacting, if you’re not that type then yes, it was a bit of a stupid comment.

NorfolkandBad · 07/06/2025 22:51

Has your friend recently been to a cafe with a sign and left a review ?

CatsMagic · 07/06/2025 22:51

Come on, it was a dig and you know it otherwise you would have just said ‘no, I’m not on IG’

Don’t be one those people that makes smart arse digs and then gets all upset when you piss people off because of it.

I don’t use any social media apart from Facebook, it doesn’t make me special or interesting or cool.

Fairyliz · 07/06/2025 22:51

Isn’t instagram basically a photo sharing site?

I’m in my 60’s and look at a lot of garden photos, does that make me immature?

justgoandgetpizza · 07/06/2025 22:50

I’d find the comment mildly annoying but that’s it - it really isn’t as terribly rude as all that.

HiddenInCubeOfCheese · 07/06/2025 22:50

I’m 38 and on IG and wouldn’t have given two shits if you’d said this to me!

Branleuse · 07/06/2025 22:50

Heck. It was a bit rude.
Why is it cringe to use Instagram but not Mumsnet?

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 07/06/2025 22:50

legoplaybook · 07/06/2025 22:46

It definitely comes across as rude and bitchy even if that wasn't the intention.

Yes you were very rude. You sound like you wanted to come across as superior in some way. I hope you are not usually so insufferable