Friend in a mood with me because of comment I made at dinner

You were trying to act superior by saying you had "grown out" of Instagram and if course that's a judgement on people who still use it. Tiresome really.

I mean it was obviously meant as a quippy comment, but I could see whysome people would be offenended. I also got of FB and Insta because I outgrew them so I understand how you feel.

Some are useless, or some you have to comment to be sent the recipe. But if you find some good accounts to follow that give you the whole recipe then you’re sorted!

see this is how I see it! 62 year old here!

I’m 62 and use Instagram 🙈 I’ve only used it in the last couple of years! I swore I never would, but I did and now I’m hooked 😩 I loved seeing my colleague who was travelling the world’s photos on there. I am definitely immature though!

your friend over reacted.

Do they have the links to the whole recipe or is it just a clip and you have to try to figure it? Or pause the clip and write it down?

I do browse online recipes in general but I thought Instagram was short videos so I'm confused! I have noted down a recipe from YouTube and it did take a while so wondering if the same for Instagram.

I browse!! Inspiration is always lovely and you can't learn it all from just doing. Especially in gardening (but I have the oldies I talk to who know a lot 😂) one must learn things from somewhere and I'm open to the somewhere just didn't know instagram was a thing.

There are lots of amazing recipes on IG, yes. Can’t comment on gardening or crocheting, but probably the same. Of course doing is better than browsing, but for a bit of inspiration, I’ve found many nutritious meals that I’ve them cooked up from IG posts.

Yes, it was rude. “I lost interest “ would have sufficed. I think the majority of IG users are over 30.
I don’t spend ages on IG/FB but as someone who has spent my whole 18-30’s travelling I do find it a lovely way to keep up to date with what old travel friends are up to with their lives and keep a little communication with them. And it has on occasion found that I’ve been in the same area as some and we’ve met up after 5/10/15 years. I of course have closer friends I’ve met who I keep regular contact with regardless of social media, but these are friends I’d have forgotten about otherwise but it’s lovely to keep that little connection. I do think your comment was rude.

Is instagram good for recipes, gardening and crochet?! Links to proper recipes not this 10 second stuff?

I don't have social media because I live under a rock cooking, gardening and crocheting 😬 but do I need it is the question 😂

I would have assumed it was a joke and not taken offence at all. It depends how you normally are though, as it could come across as judgemental.
It says more about her insecurity than you tbh. Why make a huge deal over one comment?!

That was rude

I feel it's a comment that maybe insecurity can make it more of a big deal than it is? It feels like OP made an offhand comment not with any malice or thought.

OP, I'm quite with you because IG can be a nightmare. This is so because of the way some people 'abuse' it: and I have to use the word 'abuse' there because it's relative.

By the same token I loathe and detest Facebook (for many reasons) but I have a page there. But I seldom look at it. I don't let it bother me.

Yeah it was an inappropriate thing to say. Nothing that can be fixed with a sincere apology and a cooling off pariod.

You were being judgemental but your friend has proved you right by her immature moody response.

I'm guessing Instagram has become what facebook did for my older generation, where the younger people grow out of using it like they used to but older people find a new way to use it

You'll probably go back to it in a few years looking for recipes, gardening and crochet.

It may be a tiny bit bitchy but she is silly to care so much and get in a mood. Plenty of people over 30 on instagram , it’s quite obvious so if it were me I would just ignore your comment.

You’re so grown up you had to post on Mumsnet to figure out why this annoyed her.

Your friends appears to be feeling defensive about her use of IG. There’s a lot of anti-social media rhetoric going about at the moment so I can see why it might get a bit wearing after a while to have something you still like be negatively commented on constantly. But your comment was obviously about how you felt about it. At 30 your friend should really be more confident in her own choices and able to nod and smile at someone who doesn’t like things she likes.

Dear god. Anyone who gets offended at someone else’s non use of social media needs to grow up.

she wouldn’t have been so offended if she was secure in her decision.

I judge anyone who is on TikTok but if they are happy being on there they’re not going to care are they?

Blimey. Are people really not allowed to make lighthearted, throwaway remarks about anything any more in case someone is offended by it?

Not everything has to be a well considered comment.

YOU turned 30 and YOU grew up.
It seems people these days look for ways to be offended.
I wouldn’t have thought twice over your comment, @Mall03because I know about intent.
And you intended nothing offensive by it.
Did you?
I don’t think you did, but maybe I’m wrong.

By your own admission, you literally replied: 'I turned 30 and grew up' in response to someone asking why you're no longer on Instagram.
So yes, you're comment was rude.

My guess is that you feel embarrassed that you have been called out for making such a rude and untoward comment and now you’re coming on here hoping people will side with you 😂😂 .. eww. Maybe next time think twice before you try and be funny.

YES!!! Exactly this! If the OP can't see the irony, I give up!

I think you know why she’s annoyed and that’s why you said it