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To think that free breakfast at school is a bad idea due to the quality?

637 replies

Mushypeass · 07/06/2025 21:20

Firstly, I fully agree with the principle of free breakfast for all pupils. My reservation comes from the quality of food that is often served up in UK school canteens. Obviously a poor quality breakfast is better than no breakfast at all but AIBU that it could encourage children to eat even more UPFs? For example, children who have may had a relatively healthy breakfast at home may now opt eat UPFs at school with their pals instead.

Seocondly, why is the food so poor in so many schools? How can other countries manage to provide their youth with nutritious and healthy meals but we can’t?

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EcoCustard · 07/06/2025 22:49

@feelingbleh i feel that’s the issue. It is on the parents and many can’t be arsed, have other priorities and that’s many of the well heeled families. I know a few kids in genuine dire need, but society says as long as they’re fed it doesn’t matter if it’s lacking nutrients & substance. It’s wrong. Same as the attitude to lunch, meals & school nutrition in the secondary schools, no salad bars here it’s UPF shite, leading to poor focus etc, longer term health issues, etc which is a government & societal problem.

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:49

Dwimmer · 07/06/2025 22:42

if kids are going to school unfed, unclothed and dirty, why the hell are they still with their parents?

Because the outcome for those in the care of the state is worse,

You are probably right, but isn’t this what we should be concentrating on, helping parents who have possibly been born in to the case system themselves and parents in general that need support?
breaking the cycle, not a sticking plaster which gets headlines and buys votes.

Jk987 · 07/06/2025 22:48

Mushypeass · 07/06/2025 21:34

I don’t work at a school but I visit them as part of my role. I’ve seen donuts, pizza, chicken wings, chips, chicken nuggets, cheese burgers, etc. quite frequently. Very few vegetables or fruit in my experience.

Chicken wings for breakfast? Now I’m confused!

DontCallMeKidDontCallMeBaby · 07/06/2025 22:47

Mushypeass · 07/06/2025 22:22

Admittedly* I have no catering experience but porridge is usually pretty cheap wherever you shop. Surely making up a big vat with some fruit wouldn’t cost the earth? I may be wrong though.

Edited

The breakfast club’s here tend to be operated in a classroom by a TA. They have a toaster in the corner, and some of them offer cereal. My mam is in charge of the one at the school where she works. She isn’t actually paid to start until 815, when the children arrive. She has neither the space/facilities or the time to make porridge.

Kirbert2 · 07/06/2025 22:46

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:41

Eggs on whole meal , avo on whole meal, peanut butter on wholemeal, porridge with a teaspoon of Nutella on a Friday, weetabix. Always with fruits.
different everyday as variety is so important. These things take minutes to prepare.

we have only ever offered whole meal, and only water. I dint get it when people say their kids will only drink juice…..they weren’t drinking it in the womb, were they? They only know what juice is because it’s been given to them at some point.

It can be easier said than done though, especially with other variables that don't always include poverty such as dietary needs, SEN etc.

Wholemeal bread would land my child in the hospital.

witwatwoo · 07/06/2025 22:46

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:44

Where did I say they should be taken away first not getting whole meal bread?

I said if they are going to school under, unclothed and dirty.

So how do you tackle that ?

witwatwoo · 07/06/2025 22:45

Dwimmer · 07/06/2025 22:42

if kids are going to school unfed, unclothed and dirty, why the hell are they still with their parents?

Because the outcome for those in the care of the state is worse,

Absolutely. SS don’t come along and wave a magic wand, siblings are separated, the care system causes lasting trauma for many.
Id prefer those kids to get a piece of toast and a hot chocolate

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:45

RavenLaw · 07/06/2025 22:42

How old are your kids?

9/11/15.

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:44

RavenLaw · 07/06/2025 22:40

Because the threshold to remove children from their parents is necessarily very very high indeed and not getting wholemeal bread and weetabix isn't that threshold.

There's a very famous quote from a High Court family case, “…society must be willing to tolerate very diverse standards of parenting, including the eccentric, the barely adequate and the inconsistent. It follows too that children will inevitably have both very different experiences of parenting and very unequal consequences flowing from it. It means that some children will experience disadvantage and harm, while others will flourish in atmospheres of loving security and emotional stability. These are the consequences of our fallible humanity and it is not the provenance of the state to spare children all the consequences of defective parenting. In any event, it simply could not be done.”

Where did I say they should be taken away first not getting whole meal bread?

I said if they are going to school under, unclothed and dirty.

witwatwoo · 07/06/2025 22:43

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:42

So this is what the govt should be tackling and spending on.

not free breakfast fir a lot of families who can afford to feed their children.

If a free breakfast helps a child get through the day then that should come first

RavenLaw · 07/06/2025 22:42

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:41

Eggs on whole meal , avo on whole meal, peanut butter on wholemeal, porridge with a teaspoon of Nutella on a Friday, weetabix. Always with fruits.
different everyday as variety is so important. These things take minutes to prepare.

we have only ever offered whole meal, and only water. I dint get it when people say their kids will only drink juice…..they weren’t drinking it in the womb, were they? They only know what juice is because it’s been given to them at some point.

How old are your kids?

Dwimmer · 07/06/2025 22:42

if kids are going to school unfed, unclothed and dirty, why the hell are they still with their parents?

Because the outcome for those in the care of the state is worse,

CantStopMoving · 07/06/2025 22:42

I thought the purpose of the breakfast clubs was not actually the breakfast but the childcare so people could get to work earlier

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:42

witwatwoo · 07/06/2025 22:37

You clearly have no idea about the care system and SS. Spend a few days in a school in a deprived area and you will have your eyes opened.

So this is what the govt should be tackling and spending on.

not free breakfast fir a lot of families who can afford to feed their children.

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:41

Givemethesun · 07/06/2025 22:33

OP out of interest what do you deem an awful UPF breakfast example that they may serve? And what do you usually give your kids at home for breakfast? As pp said I’m pretty health conscious to be honest but breakfast it’s weetabix or porridge and let’s go. (My kids are in a privileged position and get plenty of fruit and veg later in the day.)

Eggs on whole meal , avo on whole meal, peanut butter on wholemeal, porridge with a teaspoon of Nutella on a Friday, weetabix. Always with fruits.
different everyday as variety is so important. These things take minutes to prepare.

we have only ever offered whole meal, and only water. I dint get it when people say their kids will only drink juice…..they weren’t drinking it in the womb, were they? They only know what juice is because it’s been given to them at some point.

Dwimmer · 07/06/2025 22:40

The ‘free’ breakfasts rolled out by Labour have to be provided for just 60p per pupil per day.

I disagree with universal free breakfasts. I think most parents can and should be providing breakfast for their children.

RavenLaw · 07/06/2025 22:40

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:35

If children are hungry and that’s what they are offered, they will.

or whole meal bread, weetabix , etc….lots of cheap and healthier cereals.

I stand by my point am that we are enabling poor parenting and neglect.

if kids are going to school unfed, unclothed and dirty, why the hell are they still with their parents?

Because the threshold to remove children from their parents is necessarily very very high indeed and not getting wholemeal bread and weetabix isn't that threshold.

There's a very famous quote from a High Court family case, “…society must be willing to tolerate very diverse standards of parenting, including the eccentric, the barely adequate and the inconsistent. It follows too that children will inevitably have both very different experiences of parenting and very unequal consequences flowing from it. It means that some children will experience disadvantage and harm, while others will flourish in atmospheres of loving security and emotional stability. These are the consequences of our fallible humanity and it is not the provenance of the state to spare children all the consequences of defective parenting. In any event, it simply could not be done.”

feelingbleh · 07/06/2025 22:39

EcoCustard · 07/06/2025 22:35

@feelingbleh mine don’t attend. They have porridge, scrambled egg, yoghurt & fruit or peanut butter & toast before I go to work &Dh drops them off before work. Many of the kids sadly get more shite for lunch & dinner, no idea. One of the parents I know well thinks their excelling as their Dc get veg with dinner twice a week (well off). School lunches aren’t great, & once ks1/eyfs is done most don’t purchase lunches as there expensive for a limited choice that isn’t made onsite. I work in a secondary school & the emphasis on nutrition & eating is woeful. Fizzy drinks, ice poles , cookies & a fried roast potato with soggy veg isn’t conducive to afternoon learning whilst walking around a yard in all weathers.

But that's on the parents. The government and teachers can't raise every child in this country

Justkeepingplatesspinning · 07/06/2025 22:39

For some children, food at school might be the only food they get during the day. Anything to reduce the empty tummy and give them a bit of brain boost has to be better than nothing.
To provide breakfast club or toast during soft start, schools are needing to pay a staff member to make the food. Often with no budget provision to do this. It's not unheard of for teachers to bring in cereal for their class if school doesn't have a breakfast club. If you've got a very limited budget, you go cheap and cheerful.
To really find out what's happening in schools, you could send a FOI request to each academy chain (and / or the local authority if you're not in England) to ask what their menu is for breakfast and lunch provision. Or it might be on their website.

cheesycheesy · 07/06/2025 22:39

It’s not available at my son’s school for free and I wouldn’t need to send him in. It’s better than some children going hungry though.

Onelifeonly · 07/06/2025 22:39

Where I work the children always have access to fruit, cooked veg and salad (for lunch, that is). Many of the older children in particular will not take much, if any, of these things. They also complain the food is tasteless as due to health reasons, salt etc isn't used.

As for white bread / crumpets / bagels for breakfast etc - they all have the same basic ingredients. Plus children need carbohydrate and fat in a balanced diet. And there's no point serving what they won't eat.

And free breakfasts are aimed mainly at those who go without or have a pack of crisps on the way to school, not the children of middle class museli/ home made bread eaters with plenty of fruit on the side.

If it doesn't appeal, don't send your children to have breakfast.

witwatwoo · 07/06/2025 22:37

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:35

If children are hungry and that’s what they are offered, they will.

or whole meal bread, weetabix , etc….lots of cheap and healthier cereals.

I stand by my point am that we are enabling poor parenting and neglect.

if kids are going to school unfed, unclothed and dirty, why the hell are they still with their parents?

You clearly have no idea about the care system and SS. Spend a few days in a school in a deprived area and you will have your eyes opened.

Livelovebehappy · 07/06/2025 22:36

Mushypeass · 07/06/2025 21:34

I don’t work at a school but I visit them as part of my role. I’ve seen donuts, pizza, chicken wings, chips, chicken nuggets, cheese burgers, etc. quite frequently. Very few vegetables or fruit in my experience.

You’re talking breakfasts though? Hardly going to be fry ups (nor pizzas and nuggets). I can’t see what unhealthy food is going be on offer for breakfast. I would imagine cereals, maybe breakfast bars.

witwatwoo · 07/06/2025 22:36

Pieceofpurplesky · 07/06/2025 22:34

Having taught kids who were unfed it’s a great idea.
i have a drawer full of breakfast bars now for the kids in my form I know have had no breakfast. I found out that one boy took a sandwich every day for his free school meal and only ate half of it - so he could take the other half home for his brothers to have something to eat in the evening. Mum and Dad were in the pub most nights. I gave him breakfast for 5 years and his brothers when they started.
Poverty is rife in the UK and not always in the areas you would expect.

This ! So much utter naivety on this thread

ThisDandyWriter · 07/06/2025 22:35

MonTuesWeds · 07/06/2025 22:31

It's not so much the money, the kids won't eat fruit or porridge so it really would be a waste of money.

If children are hungry and that’s what they are offered, they will.

or whole meal bread, weetabix , etc….lots of cheap and healthier cereals.

I stand by my point am that we are enabling poor parenting and neglect.

if kids are going to school unfed, unclothed and dirty, why the hell are they still with their parents?