If your partner had friends at yours drinking, would you expect them to challenge any extremely inappropriate comments their friends make, if you were present at the time?
DP had some of his friends over last night. My kitchen is open plan, I was in there at the same time as them for about 15 minutes when I got home from seeing my friend and was sorting some things out for the gym this morning.
They were discussing former partners, nothing much of note until one of them named an ex they were with after Uni (so about a decade ago). A comment was made that she was really attractive, to which the reply was that she has had kids since so probably won’t be the same. The friend who was with her then said that wouldn’t be a problem as she was ‘partial to taking it up the arse’.
Now, for me, that’s a line crossed and I’m upset my DP stood by listening and didn’t tell them to tone it down. Unacceptable in my company or others, as far as I’m concerned.
DP said today that it wasn’t intended for my ears and that he believes in free speech so it wasn’t his place to censor the conversation.
AIBU to feel pissed off with him?