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What advice would you give to your mum just before she gave birth to you?

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MyCheeryPearlTraybake · 07/06/2025 19:22

If you could go back in time before you were born.

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Gettingbysomehow · 07/06/2025 19:28

Please have me adopted. I didn't deserve the life you inflicted upon me.

Me too!

ReplacementBusService · 07/06/2025 23:51

Push! Have a towel ready!

DownAndOut25 · 07/06/2025 23:50

You’re going to feel really awful after I’m born. Please go and talk to someone. It’s ok to ask for help, and I need you to get better.

Tell your little girl that you love her.

Pickled21 · 07/06/2025 23:50

You are heaven sent, mum. They'll be ups and downs but trust your instincts we all turn out alright.

OliveWah · 07/06/2025 23:49

My father is having an affair, let him leave, he's useless anyway.

Get some therapy, before it all overwhelms you and you have a nervous breakdown when your kids are in their teens and really need their mum.

You don't have to be in a relationship to be valid.

There's no shame in getting divorced (even if it's the third time) if your husband is an abusive arsehole.

Unbelievable2025 · 07/06/2025 23:48

Please please get your breasts removed so you don’t die when I’m 10 and my little sister is 5. We needed you and still do.

gamerchick · 07/06/2025 23:42

Gettingbysomehow · 07/06/2025 19:28

Please have me adopted. I didn't deserve the life you inflicted upon me.

Yep.

If we're wishing for things, I'd like to go back even more and tell her to have the abortion everyone wanted her to have rather than keep me because everyone was on her case.

murasaki · 07/06/2025 23:42

Yes, it is jaundice, hold your ground.

Don't have the other two.

notatinydancer · 07/06/2025 23:40

I’ll be a bit of a tricky teenager , let’s get over it.

powershowerforanhour · 07/06/2025 23:40

You'll have to wait a few years, but remember the name Norton's Coin and back it in the Gold Cup.

spicemaiden · 07/06/2025 23:39

Please fuck off and leave me and dad to a much happier life.

CanILeaveMyJobPlease · 07/06/2025 23:39

Leave your abusive husband and go to a refuge as soon as baby is born. Take all 3 children with you.

Do not get together with your ex.

Always put your children first.

Your kids can hear you when you r threatening to kill.yourself or disappear and never come back. So stop saying these things. Get some professional mental health support.

Love your children..don't criticise them.

Be a shoulder for your children to cry on, not the other way around.

Have some self worth.

Don't neglect your babies. Don't seek answers from a tablet or a bottle.

Engage in some self.reflectiom..take responsibility for your actions.

Rainrainrainagainandagain · 07/06/2025 23:37

Please be more affectionate, hug me more, talk to me…I know you’re likely ND and this may be very difficult for you, but I am too and can’t help showing affection with my Dd and her being my absolute world. Please try and also don’t be jealous of me, i’m a kid and feel rubbish about myself, look outside of yourself

Marcipix · 07/06/2025 23:36

Try to be happy with a healthy girl and not spend the rest of her life saying that you only wanted boys.

CharlotteSometimes1 · 07/06/2025 23:34

Try to put me first occasionally

LostArrows · 07/06/2025 23:32

Parenting is meant to be life long, not just while they're cute babies and toddlers.

TamzinGrey · 07/06/2025 23:32

I know that I was your accidental fifth child but I wish that you could have kept an eye on child four.
He was evil towards me for the whole of his life, presumably because of jealous younger child displacement. He used to physically hurt me when I was little and when nobody was looking. You wouldn't believe me because he was always your favourite.

Cecilly · 07/06/2025 23:31

Please spend more time with me and don’t leave me with the nanny so much. I love being with you!

paranoiaofpufflings · 07/06/2025 23:30

Please treat me as an individual, not just as my sister’s younger sibling. I don’t want to spend my entire childhood in second place, the same but less good.

InterestedDad37 · 07/06/2025 23:23

This one is perfect, as you will come to realise ... but please don't make that quite so obvious to the others 😀
Also, don't do the drinking thing after dad dies. 🙂Then you might live to see my wonderful children - you'd have been a fantastic grandmother.

JustMovingUncomfortablySlow · 07/06/2025 23:21

Be honest with yourself about your sexuality and leave my Dad much earlier - you'll be happier for it, he's an arsehole and he'll never change.

Get yourself and my sister screened for ASD, get me screened for ADHD.

Try not to be the emotionally absent, hyper critical, spiteful person that you ended up being - then you won't be lonely in your old age (both my and Sister are NC for years).

Wiseplumant · 07/06/2025 23:18

We are only going to have 16 years together, lets make the most of it even though our personalities are quite different.

Richandstrange · 07/06/2025 23:16

Don't assume you can't do this on your own, don't settle for the first man who shows an interest because you think no one else will want you with 2 kids. It will be a massive mistake and eventually result in you losing the daughter you're about to give birth to because you didn't protect her from the man you married. He will bring nothing good to your life and you and your babies deserve better.

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 07/06/2025 23:16

My father is going to be a multimillionaire - are you SURE you don't want to accept his proposal?!

Icepop79 · 07/06/2025 23:13

Always wear sunscreen.
And get that dodgy looking mole on your shoulder checked out as soon as you notice it, rather than leaving it until it’s too late.