DH is accusing me of cheating because DS “looks nothing like him” - wtf??

Last time I looked (have a relative who disputed paternity, well, until the kids started being the spitting image of him) the .gov website had a list of approved dna test companies.

Good luck, sounds like he's lost his senses to the interweb twats.

Has SIL drank the wine already? Could DH explain the mistake and ask for it back?

I'm so sorry this is happening to you, but I think you're right to start planning your exit. Once they're that far down the rabbit hole, they don't come back. Do the test, get out, hit the CMS because he is sure as hell going to refuse to pay his dues. And make sure you know everything about his financials because you can't trust him any more.

These fucking men! DH and I have 3 DS’s together…1 looks like me, 1 is the spit of DH but with ginger hair and the third looks like my fucking dad! There is a 4th dc too but she’s not biologically DH’s so not relevant in this case. But out of those 4 dc, 3 of them are redheads-DH and I both have brown hair. Never once has he questioned the paternity of the three DS’s (despite the fact that I even once had a TA ask me if they all had the same dad!!).

Anyway-like others I too suspect he’s projecting. Get the DNA test and then tell him to fuck off.

That Tate stuff he's been watching has made him paranoid that he's been cucked or emasculated, given that he's having a few bonding issues with your son.

I'd be very concerned if someone drew a parallel between Tate type material and men just expressing themselves 😐 It's a thinly veiled way of saying he likes that sort of stuff.

I wonder if he's not feeling a bond with DS and is looking for a reason as he can't accept its just that he's not managed to.
Get the test done, that needs doing for DSs sake so his dad has certainty.
Then what you decide to do about the relationship is a personal decision, only you know what he's like fully.

Either he is a weak of brain sort that is easily radicalised by Andrew Tate and his kind or he is projecting because he is having an affair and would rather you were the baddie in the scenario. Essentially a common or garden knob !

My dad has been completely radicalised, he wasn’t amazing before, but he had critical thought, but it’s got to the point he gets all his news from social media and doesn’t understand that algorithms send him down a rabbit hole. He’s single and in his 60s and I’m nearing 40 but he’s very worried about children being kept from their fathers at the moment. Thinks there’s a big conspiracy. I log in to his instagram from time to time to follow cute dog pages and men’s mental health charities to try and mess up his algorithm lol. But every time I log in it’s just a bunch of American conspiracy theorist’s. He’s been getting a lot of anger and rage recently and it’s really impacting him and he’s starting to see it’s being caused by the videos he watches online but he just laughed when I suggested a social media detox

Stick with that feeling of being so done.

Gather all the financial information you need to take to a solicitor.

Get the test done at a proper facility. Then serve him with divorce papers.

Op this is so sad. I hope you to the bottom of this. What a prize prick he is

I think your relationship is over. I mean, can you seriously ever see yourself having sex with this man again?

Dear god

Newsflash - I don’t owe you nice

Well that makes perfect sense

Other PP is saying you're doing that classic man thing of blaming the woman's hormones (menopause or otherwise).
Your words: "many a man has been accused of some terrible things when their wife’s are going through the menopause."
🙄🙄🙄
Men have proven themselves to often be shameless pieces of shit, time and time and time and time again. Nothing to do with anyone's menopause.

Tate et al are so, so poisonous to men, these people deliberately prey on insecurities to indoctrinate men to hate women. The comment about someone rewiring his brain exactly matches what can happen to men who let themselves get sucked in with this

It might be worth approaching it from this angle OP - telling him you know he's been watching Tate and he's been sucked in, and that he basically needs to choose between MRA YouTube and remaining married and living with his family

I wondered that.
Just get a dna to shut him up/ flush out the real issue.

Who’s blaming the man’s hormones??

There would be no coming back from this for me. Good luck OP - hold your head high, there is life after divorce, and it can be a good one too!

It's true though. Always a bloke who blames the hormones. It gets on our wick.

OP this is quite common when a mans fucking about. It's part of the detachment. Either way it's the beginning of the end.

I've read this stuff before. The lass agrees to the test and serves the divorce papers when the result comes back.

I think this poster is just pointing out that someone could be malicious & telling the OPs DH lies out of spite!

Id be looking at gus online behaviour there's lots of angry male sites saying all fathers should get paternity tests. It's proper nasty stuff and if he's starting down that rabbit hole a paternity test followed by a divorceight he your best bet. What an utter fucking cockwomble

Well you sound like a very lovely person