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40 year old man - spoilt by mummy

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Profpudding · 07/06/2025 12:47

If this was your son, what would you make of it?
Just spotted my younger 40-year-old brother on holiday with his mother.
Alone
He has six children and he couldn’t have taken one of them with him.
He would’ve only been paying for airfare, Parents cover everything else when they get there so we’re actually saying that it didn’t cross anybody’s mind. To invite the children.
I would also point out that these kids have probably never had a holiday in their life. They’ve been raised in absolute poverty due to his lack of contribution generally.
If that was my son, I’d be kicking him up the arse not buying him an ice cream
Oh, and he does work.

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Spinachpastapicker · 07/06/2025 12:59

Well if he’s 40, he’s very unlikely to have a sudden epiphany of maturity and change his ways, so I’d stop bothering thinking about him as it’s going to be the same old same old.

Does he have a different Mum to you, just the phrasing “his mother” seems a bit odd, rather than “our mother”.

Profpudding · 07/06/2025 12:51

I wasn’t sure if it was just me, but I genuinely nearly spat my tea out when I saw the photos, sat there eating a fucking ice cream 😳

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vodkaredbullgirl · 07/06/2025 12:50

He needs a kick up the arse.

DorothyStorm · 07/06/2025 12:49

Id think he was a selfish deadbeat.