Just totted up how much money I’ve spent on clothes since September- a bit shocked.

Notellinganyone · 2025-06-07T10:47:50+00:00

I used to keep note of my clothes spending from the start of the school year and fell out of the habit, Just did a tally and have spent just over 2k. I’m a bit shocked but probably shouldn’t be. I shop in a mixture of Jigsaw, Whistles, Marks etc. How does that compare to your spending? Children have now left home so have more disposable income so no debt.

LifeReallyIsTooShort · 10/06/2025 18:18

Notellinganyone · 10/06/2025 17:39

Clearly you have no understanding of tone, nor indeed of the point of a conversational thread. You didn’t give me your opinion, you told me I was an attention seeker and now you are doing faux outrage. Your patronising tone might be more effective if you knew the difference between were and was…

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Again I apologise, with any kind of written communication it can be difficult to decipher ‘tone’, and do see that from your side. There’s no misunderstanding your tone towards me though, it doesn’t come across pleasant in spite of my sincere apology on my last post. My intention was never to patronise you, your post came under the title of AIBU? and I answered your question.
I’m also baffled that my lack of grammatical intelligence offended you so deeply, I don’t think my mistake of ‘was’ and ‘were’ should have made a difference to your misunderstanding of a patronising tone.
If you refuse to accept my apology there’s nothing I can do, but I would respectfully suggest you draw a line in the sand with this pettiness, life is too short.
On a final note, you did place your post as an ‘AIBU’… people voted… the result speaks for itself.

henlake7 · 10/06/2025 17:55

Im probably about the same as the OP, about 200 a month.
But I did lose 7 st the last couple of years and I'm buying slightly more expensive brands now coz I want my clothes to last.
Its not like I have any other expensive hobbies or outgoings though so I'm not too bothered.

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Notellinganyone · 10/06/2025 17:39

LifeReallyIsTooShort · 10/06/2025 16:45

Heavens, are you ok?
I did read the whole thread. No bitterness intended, and apologies if it came across that way because it’s clear you are offended, it was not my intention, I simply gave the honest feedback you prompted.
Just a thought though, with respect it might be better not to ask for feedback in your posts if you don’t actually want an opinion that doesn’t match yours, we are after all entitled to an opinion on MN.
Enjoy your shopping and spending, it’s no one else’s business, and better not to make it so if you don’t want it.

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Clearly you have no understanding of tone, nor indeed of the point of a conversational thread. You didn’t give me your opinion, you told me I was an attention seeker and now you are doing faux outrage. Your patronising tone might be more effective if you knew the difference between were and was…

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ScrubbedCauliflower · 10/06/2025 17:38

I’ve probably spent the same as you over the same time period. My £2k includes quite a few Vinted and M&S purchases but also a high end / high price Coach Trench Coat, a Coach cross body bag and another pricey designer bag. I also made just over £600 selling my older stuff on Vinted during the same time and that £ went towards the new items. I’ve now got quite a good stylish and versatile wardrobe that I intend to keep for a while or sell on. My new years resolution was to take really good care of my clothes and to buy more second hand.

LifeReallyIsTooShort · 10/06/2025 16:56

LifeReallyIsTooShort · 10/06/2025 16:45

Heavens, are you ok?
I did read the whole thread. No bitterness intended, and apologies if it came across that way because it’s clear you are offended, it was not my intention, I simply gave the honest feedback you prompted.
Just a thought though, with respect it might be better not to ask for feedback in your posts if you don’t actually want an opinion that doesn’t match yours, we are after all entitled to an opinion on MN.
Enjoy your shopping and spending, it’s no one else’s business, and better not to make it so if you don’t want it.

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LifeReallyIsTooShort · 10/06/2025 16:45

Notellinganyone · 10/06/2025 13:32

@LifeReallyIsTooShort - if you’d read the whole thread you would see that I qualified it to say it was more of a musing really. I think your tone is unnecessarily combative- this is a forum for discussion about all sorts of things big and small. I think the tone is fairly clear from my OP and I feel my posts in response have been pretty measured. You seem very bitter.

Heavens, are you ok?
I did read the whole thread. No bitterness intended, and apologies if it came across that way because it’s clear you are offended, it was not my intention, I simply gave the honest feedback you prompted.
Just a thought though, with respect it might be better not to ask for feedback in your posts if you don’t actually want an opinion that doesn’t match yours, we are after all entitled to an opinion on MN.
Enjoy your shopping and spending, it’s no one else’s business, and better not to make it so if you don’t want it.

TabbyM · 10/06/2025 14:22

£213 nothing exciting but including a work jacket, 2 pairs of work trousers and then the rest on thermal and underwear..

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Notellinganyone · 10/06/2025 13:32

@LifeReallyIsTooShort - if you’d read the whole thread you would see that I qualified it to say it was more of a musing really. I think your tone is unnecessarily combative- this is a forum for discussion about all sorts of things big and small. I think the tone is fairly clear from my OP and I feel my posts in response have been pretty measured. You seem very bitter.

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Nothankyov · 10/06/2025 12:30

2k since September is not a lot really. You say you have no debt - then if you enjoy the clothes are able to afford them don’t worry too much. Enjoy

LifeReallyIsTooShort · 10/06/2025 12:28

RosePoppyClover · 09/06/2025 12:49

There are already enough clothes on the planet to clothe the next 6 generations. And as for the idea that we need to shop to fuel the economy - this is the myth that is pushing humanity towards catastrophe, the idea that we can only thrive if we are constantly consuming. Please read The Doughnut Economy by Kate Raworth or any number of other books that lay out why we urgently need to move away from this linear economy which relies on consuming and discarding. I know that one person's choices won't make much difference, we have to shift collectively, but if we all wait for one another then change will never begin.

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RosePoppyClover… yes I 100% agree, and watching ‘The Shopping Conspiracy’ on Netflix cemented this even further for me.

TheKeatingFive · 10/06/2025 09:26

GarlicMile · 10/06/2025 01:39

Just checked:

Sept: 132.54
Oct: 178.66
Nov: 223.60
Dec: 406.00
Jan: 352.49
Feb: 67.31
Mar: 190.36
Apr: 157.44
May: 36.98
June: 6.96

Total: 1,752.34

I'm quite pleased, actually! Everything was knackered so I bought a whole bunch of shoes & boots, a couple of coats and what feels like half of Nobody's Child. I did sacrifice much-needed household spending, though, so am on a near-total clothing ban for at least the rest of this year.

Enjoy your new stuff, OP!

I'm wondering what you spent 6.96 on?

RedRiverShore5 · 10/06/2025 07:16

Dancingintherainxxx · 10/06/2025 01:18

Where do ye put your clothes??

I've spent around 800 euro since Sep. Salary 180k.

I have a lot of coats, most of them are in the box room which is used for storage and usually 2 or 3 of the everyday one are on the pegs in the hall which are rotated seasonally

GarlicMile · 10/06/2025 01:39

Just checked:

Sept: 132.54
Oct: 178.66
Nov: 223.60
Dec: 406.00
Jan: 352.49
Feb: 67.31
Mar: 190.36
Apr: 157.44
May: 36.98
June: 6.96

Total: 1,752.34

I'm quite pleased, actually! Everything was knackered so I bought a whole bunch of shoes & boots, a couple of coats and what feels like half of Nobody's Child. I did sacrifice much-needed household spending, though, so am on a near-total clothing ban for at least the rest of this year.

Enjoy your new stuff, OP!

Dancingintherainxxx · 10/06/2025 01:18

Where do ye put your clothes??

I've spent around 800 euro since Sep. Salary 180k.

Scottsy200 · 09/06/2025 23:49

Oh piss off

LifeReallyIsTooShort · 09/06/2025 22:31

RosePoppyClover · 09/06/2025 17:05

How would I react to someone telling me that having children means damage to the planet? I have often been in that situation and I have listened and recognised they are absolutely right. I haven’t been offended or defensive. It hasnt stopped me wondering what can I do tomorrow and the day after tomorrow to try to do better and shift my focus away from consumerism. Without that shift the planet is in trouble and so are we.

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Well said, I applaud you 👏🏻

LifeReallyIsTooShort · 09/06/2025 22:26

Notellinganyone · 09/06/2025 10:52

@Westfacing - I’ve never started a thread before and it’s interesting to see how it develops. I’ve been given financial advice- which I absolutely did ask for and don’t need. I do acknowledge the parlous state of the planet but I also don’t feel that buying a handful of well made clothes is a problem.

You was the one who stated you were shocked at how much you had spent, it made me think given that you used the word ‘shocked’ that you wanted advice on how to cut back and that you did think it was a problem, or maybe you wanted users to respond with comparable feedback. I’m not sure now what you wanted. Obviously you didn’t want my suggestion to watch ‘The shopping conspiracy’, which isn’tonly about saving the planet.
Did you want people to applaud your expenditure like it’s a some kind of achievement, or to treat it like a competition and feedback who could spend the most money within a few months, did you want them to berate you, congratulate you? It appears no one would be right.
It was all a bit strange which is probably why you didn’t get the answers you were looking for. Your money, spend it as you wish, it’s not going to affect anyone. I think most people are looking to help and support MN users with genuine issues and problems rather than attention seekers.

NewShoesForSpring · 09/06/2025 21:08

@op hope the new sandals are glorious 😍
I have a pair of green Toast wedge sandals bought several years ago & still going strong.

Please come back tomorrow & tell us about them!

NewShoesForSpring · 09/06/2025 21:07

@RosePoppyClover thanks for answering & it was exactly as I predicted - more than 1 child!

You've been very vociferous on this thread so can I please ask you a couple of further questions

How old are your dc?

Do you drive?

Do you buy every single thing for you & your family & your house second hand? Literally everything?

I'm really curious to see how your lifestyle aligns with the v high standard you demand from the rest of us.

KateShugakIsALegend · 09/06/2025 18:49

Westfacing · 09/06/2025 16:18

I have 2 DC and I know that means my carbon footprint is huge - as I say, I'm not great. I had them before I realised the dire state of our planet,

No, you're not great, along with most of us.

It's convenient that you had your children before you chose to then go on to lecture other people about their carbon footprint! And the planet is not in a dire state - it will be here long after we've all gone.

As a PP said, give over!

No... It really is.

Try reading UN IPCC AR6, or the World Wildlife Fund's reports.

There is no debate. I truly wish there was.

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Notellinganyone · 09/06/2025 18:42

I think @RosePoppyClover does make some valid points but as @WeHaveTheRabbit points out that’s not really what this thread is about. Ultimately we all make choices and I think my clothes consumption over my lifetime has been relatively modest in terms of numbers of items bought. My Toast sandals are arriving on Wednesday so very excited about those!

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luckylavender · 09/06/2025 18:25

Mine comes to £1700 for the same period

Sandunesandseashells · 09/06/2025 18:07

RosePoppyClover must have the most ginormous loft or lock up if she’s storing all the whole family’s life long clothing for her children to wear, then grandchildren, great grandchildren, ad infinitum….

WeHaveTheRabbit · 09/06/2025 17:56

RosePoppyClover · 09/06/2025 17:45

This is such a circular argument. I can’t go back in time, we can all only go forward and think about what we can do differently tomorrow. Or do you really think nothing at all needs to change and that we in the west should all continue to consume at this rate without any slowdown at all, no matter how much plastic in the oceans, no matter how much warming, no matter how much forest destroyed, no matter how many species go extinct?

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No, I've said all along it's important to consider one's choices and their effect on the planet. I'm just trying to suggest that your comments to the OP were out of place on this thread, as would a harangue about the environmental impact of having children on a thread about someone who had just discovered she was pregnant. But you don't seem to recognise that, so I won't derail the thread further.

RosePoppyClover · 09/06/2025 17:45

WeHaveTheRabbit · 09/06/2025 17:36

On a thread about someone who already had children or was pregnant, would you say the following:

Have the OP and all the people saying ‘go for it if you can afford it’ ever looked at the mountains of waste produced by westerners who keep having children? I simply cannot understand how anyone justifies having children now. We are poisoning our planet with all these children.
There are enough children in the world already. Turn off the tap.

Your own words, just tweaked slightly.

Obviously, buying clothes and choosing to have a child are quite different! But in terms of environmental impact, adding more people to the planet is massively more damaging. It just seems the height of hypocrisy to lecture the OP about her choices when your own have been far from ideal.

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This is such a circular argument. I can’t go back in time, we can all only go forward and think about what we can do differently tomorrow. Or do you really think nothing at all needs to change and that we in the west should all continue to consume at this rate without any slowdown at all, no matter how much plastic in the oceans, no matter how much warming, no matter how much forest destroyed, no matter how many species go extinct?