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Argh, bullying managers/team leaders

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Pepsimaxcherryaddiction · 07/06/2025 10:59

Maybe it doesn't constitute bullying, but I hate being spoken to like a naughty child.

I have a casual/zero hours role in a nursing home as a Care Assistant. It's a very poorly paid role with long days, I enjoy looking after residents and many staff are nice, but I hate being spoken to like dirt by certain senior staff and it's making me want to quit.

I'm 35. Worked on a different unit yesterday, thankfully only a half day. I'd been told this unit manager is 'particular' about stuff, anyway here they understandably like beds being made well by care staff.

I made a lady's bed to what I thought was a good standard, tucking in sheets properly and they like the duvet being tucked in here.
About 10 minutes later I got called back into the room by the manager.
'This is NOT what I expect' . Go and look at next door's bed, and how I've made that'

I apologised and she told me I 'need to wake up' and 'get into the habit of doing things correctly'.
This was the first time I'd ever met her! She then told me to go and 'study' how other beds were made so I could ensure it fell in line with her expectations next time.

I could understand if I'd just trashed it, but I made the bed and tucked everything in. Then she was frosty the rest of the shift (not that she was very friendly to start with!)

It's stuff like this. Makes you feel like they think they're superior and you're lowly, I feel panicky when im on shift with people like that. Would you carry on or quit?

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Pepsimaxcherryaddiction · 07/06/2025 11:12

helpfulperson · 07/06/2025 11:11

I would expect the senior person in a care home to use both those phrases. How else do you think they should ask for things to be done. And if something isnt done right what do you expect a senior to say?

Whether your actions warranted them on this occasion we cant know.

Maybe 'could you please redo this bed'??...

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helpfulperson · 07/06/2025 11:11

Pepsimaxcherryaddiction · 07/06/2025 11:06

You dont tell grown adults 'go and do this/that' and talk about 'meeting my expectations' over a bed.

I would expect the senior person in a care home to use both those phrases. How else do you think they should ask for things to be done. And if something isnt done right what do you expect a senior to say?

Whether your actions warranted them on this occasion we cant know.

Pepsimaxcherryaddiction · 07/06/2025 11:06

You dont tell grown adults 'go and do this/that' and talk about 'meeting my expectations' over a bed.

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Pepsimaxcherryaddiction · 07/06/2025 11:06

Fingerpie · 07/06/2025 11:04

It all depends on crappy you made the bed I suppose and whether this is something you’ve been repeatedly picked up on

and given that we’ll never know 🤷

I've never been pulled up for how I made a bed before. And it wasn't badly done, the point is there is a way to speak to people, the state of the bed is irrelevant.
If she was unhappy she could've asked me to redo it, not bark at me and berate me.

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Fingerpie · 07/06/2025 11:04

It all depends on crappy you made the bed I suppose and whether this is something you’ve been repeatedly picked up on

and given that we’ll never know 🤷

Pepsimaxcherryaddiction · 07/06/2025 11:03

It isn't my main job thankfully. I want to stay another month as I need to be here for 3 months to get my mandatory training paid, so another 6 weeks or so to go..

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