To feel the teachers are very cold

OP, please don't be THAT parent.
You raised an issue, brought your sister to the meeting for moral support/back up, issue was resolved.
A busy teacher in the school playground, and you're upset at her perceived coldness because she didn't have time to talk to you about your child joining her class in the next school year.

Of course the head and deputy are all smiles, you are a customer OP. I have been a pupil and a parent at private school, I know the form.

As long as my child was happy and thriving, their teachers could give me the middle finger as I approached them, and I would still think the sun shone out of their ass

If every parent wants a 2-3 minute chat that is an hour to an hour and a half extra on the week. On top of everything else the teacher is expected to do.

And a chatty parent could easily talk for longer.

Maybe the teacher has learnt to kept it professional to the parents to encourage quicker handovers.

Maybe they had paperwork or planning to get back to.

Maybe they had to run off to run a club.

Maybe they had an exhausting day and were mentally planning this tea.

Are the students happy? Are concerns dealt with timely? Are you getting appropriate communication about progress. If yes, job done.

I haven't had a chat with either of DCs teachers, other than speaking about them at parents' evening or once when helping on a trip. I only speak to them at pick up if I need to share information. I don't think they are cold, just busy doing their job.

“Very cold” to you perhaps OP because of the way you behave to them. They are human after all.

They dealt with a serious issue regarding your daughter very effectively it would seem. However rather than celebrate that, you choose to whinge about they’re “coldness”.

That is quite telling

Some parents can be rude or demanding, and some expect to have a five minute chat with the teacher every morning, right when the teacher is just trying to get the students settled and into the classroom.

I’ve worked with teachers who weren’t necessarily liked by all parents, but who were brilliant with the kids. I’ve also come across parents that I would actively avoid unless necessary.

I think this can be the case. I know of a male head who's not the easiest with parents and school helpers but the children adore him and think highly of him. Wait and see?

I was about to say the same thing - in my experience a meeting with moral support is usually because a parent is t happy about something. There is ALWAYS a parent unhappy about something. I always had time to help children regulate their emotions, grown adults, not so much! I left teaching recently after 18 years, not because of the children, but the parents. If I’m honest pain in the arse parents elicited a private sigh and eye roll from me too - might this be an issue with you and not the teacher? Maybe have a little reflect about it.

Just throwing out there that maybe when somebody wants a meeting and brings along somebody else for 'moral support', it tends to be a bollocking/complaint where they want a teacher to feel outnumbered or intimidated?

My little one is in the reception class of a specialist school. He is profoundly disabled and registered blind, his teacher and the TA's in his class are a shining light in our lives and bring so much joy and happiness into his life. They challenge him to be his best and encourage him every day even when he's going through difficult times. Miserable teachers is not my experience at all, especially not in primary schools.

@Pyramyththey've got a TA.

I suspect they’re stressed and used to people criticising them all the tkme

Have you never heard the joke trope 'don't smile until Christmas'

Are they hiding or are they doing as has been instructed by their line manager? I was accused of not being bothered to come outside in the morning - I was supervising the small children in my care in the classroom! One of the more baffling complaints I've ever had. Did they expect a class was just going to be left alone?

@FingerpieThanks. I am looking, but to be honest I am scared to make things worse for dc by picking wrong.

Op the school dealt effectively to your concerns and things have improved for your child

but you want smiles? I’d just be so happy my child was happier

I’d be looking for another school

I think we only had two teachers so far that I felt were warm and genuinely interested in the children (my child). Our current teacher hides inside at every pick up/ drop off. She also really rushed through the parents evening and minimised every concern I had.

The new headteacher is very odd too - turns her back to my child every morning, while she is overly nice to the some other parents and children. I’ve never seen such blunt rudeness. Have never needed to interact with her, so no idea what placed us in the ‘persona non grata’ category for her. We’ve been at that school for years, while she’s only been here since last year.

It’s called stress! Have you any awareness of the crisis in teaching at the moment?

We talked to other parents and realised that everyone felt the same. It wasn't personal, he was just awful at dealing with adults.
We figured as long as the kids are happy that was the main thing.

Exactly! Some teachers are in their element with the kids but find it nuch harder talking to parents. The other way around would be much more concerning!

We had this experience years ago with DC1s teacher. He was incredibly awkward to talk to, always felt like he was annoyed with us even. But then I went on an outing with the class and he was incredible with the kids. They adored him.

Teachers are normal people and vary in personality. You can't necessarily expect them all to be warm and bubbly. Some teachers might seem to have a less warm, open manner on first meeting, but actually develop a great relationship with their classes and the kids end up really liking them. Whereas some might be all smiles for show when they meet parents, but aren't so patient and friendly when it comes to trying to manage a class week-in week-out. I'd reserve judgement if I were you!