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I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

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MoreThanOverwhelmed · 07/06/2025 05:07

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

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Sunshineandrainbows23 · 28/06/2025 08:12

I'm so very sorry, @MoreThanOverwhelmed ❤
I'm sending you and everyone who loves your husband so much love.🌹xxx

Boomer55 · 28/06/2025 08:12

MoreThanOverwhelmed · 28/06/2025 02:28

DH passed this evening. It was supposed to be our wedding day, it was already our "being together anniversary"
I feel so broken.
He's at peace.
I miss him so much.

I’m so very sorry.

Look after yourself and the children, and get all the family/friend support you can.

Just take one day and one night at a time - over time the worst of the pain does lessen gradually.

Best wishes x💐

Fairnair · 28/06/2025 08:11

@MoreThanOverwhelmed Very sorry for your loss 💐❤️

Capricornandproud · 28/06/2025 08:08

Oh OP I am so sorry. Sending so much strength and good vibes to you xx

peace7 · 28/06/2025 08:08

MoreThanOverwhelmed · 28/06/2025 02:28

DH passed this evening. It was supposed to be our wedding day, it was already our "being together anniversary"
I feel so broken.
He's at peace.
I miss him so much.

I’m so very sorry. Condolences to you and the family.

HolyStyleFailBatman · 28/06/2025 08:05

Sending you an enormous hug, it is so so sad and unfair. Just get through each minute as it comes and lean on everyone you can.

nothingpunny · 28/06/2025 08:01

I am so very sorry for your loss 💐

Undecided2025 · 28/06/2025 08:00

I’m so sorry for your loss xx

HappyCrochetHooker · 28/06/2025 07:59

I’m so sorry for your loss ♥️

LifeOfBriony · 28/06/2025 07:52

I am so sorry to read this, @MoreThanOverwhelmed Flowers

chocomoccalocca · 28/06/2025 07:52

I so sorry, I can’t imagine the pain. Sending all the love and hugs.

dmango · 28/06/2025 07:52

I’m truly sorry and send you so much love. I hope you can be surrounded by your family and friends & wrapped in their love as you cope with this devastating loss ♥️

Gremlins101 · 28/06/2025 07:52

I am so sorry OP. It sounds like you have everything on your plate along with grief. I just wanted to acknowledge your post and send love and support 💐

SoInLuv · 28/06/2025 07:51

Dear OP,
I am sorry very sorry for your loss 💔 May He rest in Peace 🙏🏼

SillySeal · 28/06/2025 07:47

I'm so sorry sorry. Condolences to you and your DC 💐

Honeylemonandginger · 28/06/2025 07:43

So very sorry for your loss. 💐

GameOfJones · 28/06/2025 07:42

It isn't fair @MoreThanOverwhelmed and I'm so sorry. Please lean on your friends and family for support over the coming months. A part of your DH lives on in your beautiful children so hold them close.

Wellbeing24 · 28/06/2025 07:40

I am so sorry 💐
Sending love to you and your family xx

reelcat · 28/06/2025 07:39

I am so very sorry for you loss 💐

Astarshinesbrightly · 28/06/2025 07:39

So sorry for your loss xx

PaulKnickerless · 28/06/2025 07:36

Oh love, I am so sorry 💐

Bookloveruk · 28/06/2025 07:33

Lots of love to you and your family. Such sad news

Brizzlerocks · 28/06/2025 07:32

I'm so sorry. I bet you feel like you are looking at the world through a sheet of glass. DH sounds strong and brave. Sending love to you all and a special hug to the children.

Tallpoplartree · 28/06/2025 07:29

I am so very sorry for your loss x

OrlandointheWilderness · 28/06/2025 07:28

I’m so so sorry.

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