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I got married yesterday and I can't stop crying.

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MoreThanOverwhelmed · 07/06/2025 05:07

DH has cancer. (Diagnosed Jan 2024)
We were supposed to get married - at simple 2+2 ceremony at the end of the month but his Dr's etc encouraged us to bring the date forwards, so we got married yesterday in the hospital where my DH is being cared for.
I'm a week post major abdominal surgery.
We have 2 primary aged DC
It's our youngest DCs birthday this month.

I don't know what I want from this post but I can't stop crying.
I don't think that I know how break it to the DC that Daddy isn't going to get better and come home.
My head is swimming & I don't know what to do.

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Dontjudgeme101 · 28/06/2025 08:58

Hi @MoreThanOverwhelmed So sorry to hear your very sad news.
💐💐💐

LeftieRightsHoarder · 28/06/2025 08:57

Sending love and sympathy to you and your family, OP. I hope you feel able to accept all the help you can get from friends, relatives and support groups such as widowed and young.org.uk.

Also, don’t neglect your own health and recovery from the hysterectomy. The various hysterectomy support groups you can find online may be able to help. You’ve been through so much. I wish you and DC a much happier future ❤️.

Daleksatemyshed · 28/06/2025 08:55

So sorry Op, love and strength to you and your children

Justkeepingplatesspinning · 28/06/2025 08:55

So sorry @MoreThanOverwhelmed to read your news. Thinking of you all.

WickWood · 28/06/2025 08:53

I am so, so, very sorry. Thinking of you, your children and your families x

HornyHornersPinger · 28/06/2025 08:51

Oh OP I'm so very sorry x

ifionlyhadacat · 28/06/2025 08:49

@MoreThanOverwhelmed sending you heartfelt sympathy and love

AlphaApple · 28/06/2025 08:49

I’m so sorry, that is heartbreaking. Wishing you and your family every strength.

WarriorsComeOutToPlayay · 28/06/2025 08:48

I’m so very sorry for your loss xx

Flamingmentalcats · 28/06/2025 08:46

I am so very sorry for you all sending love

Weepixie · 28/06/2025 08:44

With heartfelt condolences to you and yours on the loss of an adored husband, father, son and son in law. ❤️

Qashgal · 28/06/2025 08:44

I am so sorry for your loss. 36 is too young for both of you. 😥

ColinCaterpillarsNo1Fan · 28/06/2025 08:39

I am so sorry for your loss, condolences and best wishes to you all during this time.

LakieLady · 28/06/2025 08:37

So sorry to read this, OP. Wishing you all the strength you need.

Purplepeoniesdroppingpetals · 28/06/2025 08:37

I’m so so sorry, op. I wish your whole family strength as you confront this tremendous loss. I really am very sorry. Xx

nzeire · 28/06/2025 08:36

I am so sad and sorry for your loss
he is at peace now, try and find comfort in that xxx

ItsJustASimpleLine · 28/06/2025 08:29

So sorry for your loss 💐

Cavello · 28/06/2025 08:26

I'm so sorry for your and your family's loss, especially today on what should be a joyous day. May you find comfort at this time.

Dreamondreaminon · 28/06/2025 08:24

I am so sorry OP, I wish I could give you a hug, hold you and give you some strength. ❤️‍🩹

SweetMotherofAbrahamLincoln · 28/06/2025 08:22

Sending so much love and strength to you and your children, I’m so so sorry xx

LAMPS1 · 28/06/2025 08:22

A terrible experience for you all to have gone through with your dear husband. And now a time of grieving for you all as a family. Lean on each other’s strengths and know that strangers here are thinking of you with love and support. Sending strength and hopes for your future. x

Georgieporgie29 · 28/06/2025 08:22

I am so sorry for your loss 💐

viques · 28/06/2025 08:19

I am so sorry to read your update. Take care of yourself , accept the love and help you are offered and wrap yourself in his love because that will be with you forever in your heart.

ChessorBuckaroo · 28/06/2025 08:16

So sorry for your loss OP. Heart goes out to you and your family.

LurkyMcLurkinson · 28/06/2025 08:15

Sending you all my love and strength and hoping you’ve got lots of support around you x